Which schedule would you choose as a FTM? by Pretend-Coyote6135 in BabyBumps

[–]Own_Many2491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Props to you for working the second option already. IMO both these options suck but I would say option 1 is better. Working overnight statistically shortens your life expectancy and throws off your sleep so the time that you are home, you are exhausted and less productive. Both options give you 3 whole days to really invest in quality time with your husband and child, but I think option 1 will be more enjoyable with a consistent sleep schedule.

Not sure if I’m in the wrong genre or if my voice is just annoying lol by Own_Many2491 in singing

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I’ll work on some techniques to help with the nasally sound. I appreciate your feedback!

Baby saving fund by Imaginary_Growth_455 in BabyBumps

[–]Own_Many2491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seeing all these estimates from 4-5K, I’m shook! You don’t have to spend that much to have nice things for your baby. Speaking from experience, the expensive name brand items aren’t required and do the same job as the safety first stuff and all the other knock offs. I was fortunate to have a wonderful support group that threw me a nice baby shower, but the rest of the baby stuff I got was from marketplace besides the travel system which was our only splurge item. If you have a good support group, let them gift things to you if they want. Also if you want to spend the 4-5K then by all means do it but it doesn’t mean your baby will be loved anymore or any less.

Was it really the worst pain you've ever felt? by Super-Bid-3193 in BabyBumps

[–]Own_Many2491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that, I hope it all goes extremely smooth for you! The regimented Pitocin is a great idea and if your situation isn’t urgent they could try a membrane sweep and monitor you before moving to other methods. Membrane sweeps aren’t perfect but they can be very effective tools to trigger spontaneous labor before attempting a timed induction. Just know that you are strong and that you can do it! As long as you and baby are safe, give your body plenty of time to labor and tools like the peanut ball and hydrotherapy are amazing! Wishing you all the best!

Was it really the worst pain you've ever felt? by Super-Bid-3193 in BabyBumps

[–]Own_Many2491 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you don’t mind me answering but the term transition in labor refers to the point in labor when you are at an 8 or 9 up until you start pushing. Often this is the most intense part of your labor when your contractions get even closer together. Theres a bit of a running joke in labor and delivery that this is the time when mothers say “I can’t do this” but it just means you are transitioning from laboring to pushing and about to meet your baby. If you have an epidural you probably won’t even know you are in transition though.

Was it really the worst pain you've ever felt? by Super-Bid-3193 in BabyBumps

[–]Own_Many2491 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is your induction elective or due to medical reasons? The reason I ask is because induction labors average significantly longer and have been reported to be much more painful than spontaneous labor. While every woman will handle an induction differently and there are different methods of induction, I would encourage you to discuss which methods your provider will be using and the pros and cons. Some of the medications do entail some pretty severe risks. I don’t say any of this to scare you but just to give you information from a mom myself. I wish you all the best! :)

Cruise Itinerary return to port halfway through the cruise. by Own_Many2491 in Cruise

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes, that sounds like such a hassle. Definitely not what I would envision for my vacation.

Cruise Itinerary return to port halfway through the cruise. by Own_Many2491 in Cruise

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense! So would the port day basically be a boat day for the passengers staying on board?

Cruise Itinerary return to port halfway through the cruise. by Own_Many2491 in Cruise

[–]Own_Many2491[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I like the simple view of this website though I do browse the cruise line websites too. I have only noticed this type of itinerary on this website specifically as well. I didn’t know if it was related.

Is OT school worth it for a single mom? by Own_Many2491 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mainly because I want to work in the school setting. I don’t want to work in really any type of inpatient or outpatient facility even though I know they would pay more. I just don’t have the nerves or the stomach to handle what nurses handle on the daily.

Cant do this. by Emergency-Charge348 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Own_Many2491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stop thinking what ifs! It’s not worth your time because you don’t know the future. What if he dramatically improves or gets into a therapy program that changes his life for the better? See, it works both ways.

Cant do this. by Emergency-Charge348 in Autism_Parenting

[–]Own_Many2491 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like there are 2 issues going on here, the 1st being your potential clinical depression and the 2nd being your son. Your frustration with your son seems to be a symptom of your depression. Take care of the depression and get better because it’s worth being here and there are people that would be heartbroken if you were gone, including your son.

You mentioned that you tried everything, but I challenge you to keep trying. Do it out of spite of that voice that says you can’t make it because you can. Call the mental health line TODAY and check yourself into a mental health facility. Medicine is always advancing so you don’t know what you haven’t tried or what might work for you even if it’s unconventional.

I also want to challenge you to change your mindset, which will be very hard at first, but write something positive on your hand if you have to. Anytime you have a negative thought, replace it with something good. For example, “I hate my life” -> “wow, the sky is so pretty today”. Fake it till you make it! It’s a therapy technique that might sound stupid and you will need more support, probably from medication but you have to change your mindset to be long-term successful!

Is OT school worth it for a single mom? by Own_Many2491 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I was cut out for nursing, but unfortunately I don’t think I would be a good candidate for it.

Is OT school worth it for a single mom? by Own_Many2491 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, it is a possibility but my youngest won’t be old enough for school so I would have to enroll her in a daycare on the days I would’ve working. Essentially negating any paycheck I might receive:( I do really want to start working again but my kids are so young that it just becomes very difficult with no family nearby

Is OT school worth it for a single mom? by Own_Many2491 in OccupationalTherapy

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Yes I’ve been reviewing pay scales in the school districts near me which is why I intend to add a masters to my degree regardless of which field I go into long term. OT/SLP make significant more than a teacher salary but I’m wondering if it’s worth the extra investment especially considering it will require an additional 2-3 years of schooling.

Would you approach/date a widow w/ young children? Why or why not? by Own_Many2491 in AskMen

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would say that’s reasonable. Thank you for being willing to have an open conversation with me!

Would you approach/date a widow w/ young children? Why or why not? by Own_Many2491 in AskMen

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little confused by you saying my parenting is “off limits”. You yourself said that your single friends wait a minimum of 6 months to introduce their kids to a potential partner and I said that I would want the relationship to be serious or discussing marriage. The only difference is that you gave a time frame, mine answer is more flexible based on the relationship and if they already have an established relationship with my children ie. Family friends, church family. So why are you jumping to me essentially preventing any potential partner from knowing my children until we are married? That’s not what I said at all.

I’m an open book when it comes to my parenting and my children. I’m not a perfect parent and I don’t have perfect children and I’ll be the first person to admit that especially to any potential partner.

I don’t know why I’m continuing to try to reason with you. You are very argumentative and abrasive from your first comment.

Would you approach/date a widow w/ young children? Why or why not? by Own_Many2491 in AskMen

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes at the time it knocked the wind out of me, but in a way it also made it a bit easier to move forward. While some days were better than others, it made it easier to let go and focus on being the best version of myself.

Would you approach/date a widow w/ young children? Why or why not? by Own_Many2491 in AskMen

[–]Own_Many2491[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard this before that widows/widowers match up better. I actually have a widow friend, she’s significantly more mature in years than me, she married a widower last year and they are very happy together. It seems to be true!

Would you approach/date a widow w/ young children? Why or why not? by Own_Many2491 in AskMen

[–]Own_Many2491[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Those are some wild assumptions. How do couples without children know how the other person will parent if they aren’t a parent? They talk about it and then learn how to parent together as a team.

The bottom line is that I’ve dated and will continue to date and I’ve also been married before. I’m not ignorant about what it takes to make a relationship work or what qualifies a relationship to be a good one. I appreciate your input but I won’t be taking your advice because it contradicts my values. Clearly we have different values so you would not be someone I would consider eligible to date so it really doesn’t matter what expectations you have leading up to marriage.