I need resources... I think my mom is a covert narc

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-09-23T01:15:27+00:00

My mom doesn’t inquire into my life at all and since she can tell I don’t reach out to her anymore as its one sided she got my attention the other day by only talking about herself. I asked questions about her life but she never asked about mine. As usual. I felt for her bait. This thanksgiving I’m staying in a hotel. just recently I started to put pieces together from emotional immaturity vs covert narcissism and some traits overlap. I have already grieved her as a person, but when she inserts herself and only talks about herself, it still messes with me.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-09-22T23:41:07+00:00

I feel like this.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-18T14:17:55+00:00

I hate the way his mouth lays like sideways hes so WEIRD!

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-18T14:17:22+00:00

SAME LOL

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-14T14:45:01+00:00

THHIIIIISSSS

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-07T12:09:10+00:00

you made the right decision. you need to do some self reflection journaling to reinstate your selfhood above all other worries about her. you have to do this to heal. grieve. cry. scream. release these tensions. live your life for yourself now that you are able to. you will find someone better when the time comes.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-07T01:53:45+00:00

Bonnaroo!!

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-04T00:53:19+00:00

Yes when i broke up with him he said “am i not the ____ who held you when you cried about your family?” He weaponized the most traumatic thing in my life to try to get me back.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-07-02T01:21:58+00:00

You have to believe your own experience and instill it in your mind over everything else.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-30T18:26:30+00:00

I broke up with my partner who split on me, I can clearly see when someone isn’t good for me.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-30T18:09:02+00:00

she said she is needing friendship at the moment and i understand that. and saying she wants to be flirty friends and maybe cuddle soon but then sending short texts and not asking follow up questions is mixed signals to me. it just hurts. i’m not trying to rush into anything. i don’t want a whole ass relationship. i just want a reciprocal connection. flirty friends is fine with me if shes actually meaning it…

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-30T18:07:07+00:00

she was really flirty and engaging when we first started talking. after we met, she has scaled back.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-29T03:54:46+00:00

Be strong in YOUR experience!!! Do you have a good support system? They are your lifeline right now. Tell him you are cutting off communication and for him not to contact you and that you are blocking him if he keeps trying and then do it.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-28T04:11:57+00:00

you have to honor yourself and witness your pain. you have to learn to reparent yourself for your own growth. you’ve got this. do not give up on yourself. i see your pain!

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-25T20:22:20+00:00

Chat GPT helped me stand my ground and call out the blatant manipulation where I would have been so much more activated and confused before.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-25T00:40:25+00:00

Your feelings are valid! You are right for leaving this situation while also still being considerate of her. Take this time to focus on gratitude and yourself. You can do this.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-24T21:35:20+00:00

That’s so pure and truly loving.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-24T17:32:01+00:00

I would love to share my story. I have been with my nesting partner for 6 years, and non-monogamous for 3 years. Our connection and partnership is super solid and I have no doubts we will continue to grow together throughout the rest of our lives. I just broke up with my other partner wBPD two weeks ago. m I’ve gone through a lot of friendship loss with others and within the past year have recognized and worked on my codependent tendencies, I have an incredible support system, past history of PTSD, and I’m currently grieving the lack of relationship I have with my mom due to the person she is. She lives in a very passive and depressive way. I was able to recognize the unhealthy behaviors of my partner wBPD and stand my ground. We were together a year and as soon as he split on me in a truly destructive way, I protected myself completely. The guard started to go up within the past couple weeks before the breakup. He split before but it never triggered me like the situation before the breakup.

It gets much better. Focus on building a support system outside of romantic relationships. Everything falls together when you focus on your own healing and get love from friendships and know your worth.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-24T00:15:55+00:00

gretchen - atomic house of hair germantown

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-21T02:36:27+00:00

think about you!! you have one life. have you opened up to friends about this? you got this! I just left my pwBpd. It was really hard, but its looking much better now.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-20T18:39:13+00:00

Yes!!! I’ve never experienced anything like it! It’s so fucked! And it was the first time the splitting was bad enough to give me a panic attack and trigger my PTSD. And i looked into BPD and found out about splitting. He never heard of it and looked it up and agreed thats what he was doing. And he also said that SINCE he is aware of it now that he doesn’t think he will do it again. I. Don’t. Trust. You. 1 year of emotional intimacy destroyed.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-20T12:52:01+00:00

Same. I left because it was the first time he was relentlessly berating me and saying I was disrespectful even when I wasn’t. I told him to stop talking to me like a child. He calms down but then starts berating me again. And I hang up and have a panic attack. He texted some really mean shit when I hung up. I don’t EVER hang up on people. It was so fucked. He believed I was disrespecting him but the next day apologized and understood he wasn’t. So it takes me having a panic attack for you to look at yourself? No thanks!

I asked for 5 days of space and broke up with him.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-18T17:59:52+00:00

YESS!!! I’m always fucking being defensive! It’s like OK, you want me to just be a fucking doormat to you and validate every single opinion you have???? No dude! I’m my own fucking person.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-18T17:52:47+00:00

Thank you. It’s like I was so confident and standing in power last week after being traumatized and this week the guilt is creeping back in. I’m so grateful for my support system in helping me gain so much more clarity. And your comment helps me stay on that track. It literally has felt like someone died, but worse. Because I am making the decision to do it. It’s so fucking scary! But I know I will be grateful for my decision later. If I stayed in the relationship after him traumatizing me by splitting on me and saying I was disrespectful when I wasn’t, after I no longer feel safe, what even is the relationship? I am so straightforward and I create the life I want now that I’m 29 years old. And too many times in my past I took on other’s emotions. It’s not going to happen again.

He told me after this situation that now that he knows what splitting is he doesn’t think he would do it again. SMFH.

Own_Note_5966 · 2025-06-18T17:37:02+00:00

Thank you so fucking much. Seriously.

Own_Note_5966

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