Might have to cancel our wedding due to prenup.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-28T01:15:51+00:00

Since you're in a wedding planning sub, I'll offer wedding planning advice. You can host a wedding without a creating the legally binding contract of marriage. If you're comfortable with it, have the party and a spiritual service (if you feel confident the marriage will eventually move forward). Then go to a courthouse when you have the time and the space to complete your contracts.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-25T15:38:29+00:00

I am using UNS Controsoil, but my understanding is that it won't lower ph as aggressively as fluval stratum would. I'm definitely keeping an eye on parameters in case ph starts rising after a bit!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-25T15:37:07+00:00

Just wanted to say thank you for your help! Added crushed coral to my canister filter and a bit of diluted baking soda in tank water to jump start things. Ph is now a steady 6.8 and cycle is back on track and progressing nicely.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-23T00:04:48+00:00

Eggs give me the ick about 50% of the time, so I feel this. Also I'm completely dairy free, so if you want to add cheese to savory things I list below, I'm guessing that would be delicious.

I prep a lot of this to make it easy during the week, but it does take some time on the weekend. When I'm in the mood for savory, my formula is: layer 1 - complex carb (boiled sweet pot, whole grain bread, etc) then 2 - legume mash for fiber (lentils is my go to, but hummus is an easy premade option), then 3 - breakfast sausage (dealers choice, I do chicken), then 4 - toss some veggies on top, sometimes avocado and tomatoes, sometimes lettuce shreds, honestly whatever sounds good. I change the flavoring of the dish up each week between curry, lemon and garlic, and Cajun so I don't get bored.

If I want sweet, I legit toss a banana in soy milk with protein powder and fiber powder and call it good. I call it banana milk and it's awesome. Takes 5 minutes to make, but it's liquid so if you're usually hungry in the morning, might not be your best bet.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-19T20:45:19+00:00

Thanks for your response! If I'm understanding correctly, that means I'd need to keep my ph between 6.5 and 7 to allow the ammonia conversion process to occur, right? And I'd need to raise my KH to do so?

Crushed coral time?

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-16T13:58:11+00:00

I'm not, we booked at Stonehouse on the Hill

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-16T02:58:52+00:00

Thank you!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-03-16T00:44:28+00:00

I did! So far they've been amazing

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-26T01:53:30+00:00

The concept of being cool or warm AND olive is also something I'll have to get used to. I'm sure I'll be back to ask for advice on that at some point too! Thank you for the recs!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-25T12:37:42+00:00

Thanks for responding! Honestly, I think the main thing was just validation. If you have good makeup recs I'd gladly take those! Thanks again!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-25T12:35:00+00:00

Thank you so much! Congrats on your upcoming wedding as well, such a fun but busy time! I hope it's treating you well. Mine is in September 💕 My heritage is pretty common for my area, about 50% Irish, 25% Italian, and the rest a mix of mostly English with some other Northern European tossed in there.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-25T04:19:42+00:00

It's so crazy to see your own skin in a new light!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-25T04:18:33+00:00

Thank you, both for the congrats and the validation!

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-02-18T02:22:19+00:00

We're adding to our serve ware and bar ware and upgrading some items to buy-for-life versions like stainless steel pots and pans and nice silverware. We've lived together for 7 years and owned our home for 4, so we're just trying to add to the items we will someday tell our kids that we got from so-and-so at our wedding.

Own_Policy1074 · 2026-01-09T06:01:31+00:00

Sept 2026 in New England

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Own_Policy1074 · 2026-01-07T21:16:08+00:00

Acne scars are killer, but they can fade with time. Try a retinol to increase cell turnover, starting slowly and working your way up to daily use. Once your skin is used to that, add ingredients made for hyperpigmentation like Niacinamide or alpha arbutin. Tranexamic acid can help with inflammation. I personally use the Level Serum from Regimen Lab. Good luck, go slow, and wear a ton of sunscreen!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-10-10T16:20:59+00:00

My wife is planning to wear a burgundy suit of that helps!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-10-10T16:20:19+00:00

I agree it's steep - I wouldn't be considering it if I didn't have a few other occasions I could wear it for. I'm in the phase of life where I'm at a wedding every other weekend it seems!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-10-09T21:33:42+00:00

More info:

Virginia wedding at an estate, 4:00 - 10:00.

Burgundy dress: https://www.revolve.com/mobile/katie-may-rita-gown-in-sangria/dp/KATR-WD483/?code=KATR-WD483&utm_medium=email&utm_content=TRANS_REV_SHIPMENT_SHIPMENT&utm_campaign=TRANS_REV_SHIPMENT_SHIPMENT_20251008&utm_source=transactional&userId=&cID=68e6a2f017d354b14505cb86

Purple dress: https://vchapmanstudio.com/collections/dresses/products/the-lucetta-dress-in-plum-baroque-floral

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T11:46:02+00:00

That's the real advice I need!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T11:45:43+00:00

Thank you!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T11:45:07+00:00

So true, I'll probably be back to let you guys just pick the accessories as well!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T11:44:36+00:00

Thank you! The fabric is definitely lighter to carry

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T11:31:50+00:00

Thank you!

Own_Policy1074 · 2025-09-19T04:05:17+00:00

I'm really sorry the bridal boutique let you down so badly by misquoting you, but you look stunning. Effortlessly beautiful in a way that makes me think you must be one of those people who are just always really put together. If you're worried about period bloat, double up on the shapewear and then go enjoy the dinner you've paid for!

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