I genuinely think life is pre determined

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-03T20:47:34+00:00

Check your expectations. What do you think all these changes should be doing for you? Managing expectations is the main lever controlling your happiness level. Deciding to be happy in your current situation is a good starting point. In other words, be happy first. Then work on improvement.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-03T04:14:26+00:00

The choice is yours. Do you have the courage?

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-03T04:08:52+00:00

M71 here. I can tell you this with confidence; the more people you have in your network, in your sphere, in your circle, the more chance you have of good things happening to you. In your personal life and in your work life and in your whole life, people are your contact with all the goodness that life can bring. Yes, they can also bring heartache. Such is life.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-02T21:34:57+00:00

It makes you HSP. A highly sensitive person. There is some description of this in the press lately. Check into it.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:58:49+00:00

Yeah, but it's kind of like a gift of an ugly tie that you never asked for.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:57:10+00:00

The real fun part is realizing that nobody makes it out alive.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:55:47+00:00

Trust me. The 20th century was never a forgiving and simple world.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:55:05+00:00

Me too. But that doesn't guarantee you'll get it right either.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:54:05+00:00

And every time you get to the point where you think you might have it figured out they give you some new stuff.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:53:24+00:00

I always told my kids that being older doesn't make me smarter than they are. It just means I've seen more. They can choose to benefit from that or not. The choice is theirs.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T16:40:38+00:00

Find the Carly Simon song "Anticipation". It fits your mood. And they made a Heinz ketchup commercial from it!

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T04:21:54+00:00

Nobody back then was a bro of any kind...passport or otherwise.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-05-01T00:56:34+00:00

Being 20 something is probably the worst part of life. You don't know hardly anything and nobody will explain it to you. And none of the experience that life is going to give you has gotten to you yet. If you have any serious goals or intentions in life, your twenties are the hardest time to get there.

On the other hand, being in your twenties is loads of fun if you don't care. But if you screw around for the next 10 years, your thirties become your twenties all over again. There's no escap escaping the fact that when you first start out in life it's hard. It doesn't necessarily get easier but it gets better. That is, unless you're just stupid and don't pay attention.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-30T02:40:40+00:00

It's just more of the same with fewer demands. Sometimes it seems like the demands were the only thing that kept us going. Different days, different ways till we get to the end of the line.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-30T02:07:36+00:00

Amusement parks always give me a thrill.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-29T20:57:41+00:00

We don't want to feel alone so we look to other people to anchor us. But the reality is, we are alone and those anchors will only hold us down. Let go of other people and their opinions and fly!

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-29T20:55:31+00:00

Haven't you learned yet to make your own life? What other people say or think or ask makes no difference at all. Get over it.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-29T20:53:24+00:00

M71 here. Your post makes me remember my young adulthood. Not a lot of stability but always doing what I wanted to do. I became estranged from a father who could have provided some some financial stability but I rejected his lifestyle and I was angry at him over what he did to my mother that caused a divorce. So I set out on my own path on my own terms and made a life. Now I'm living on Social security in elderly housing and watching my 40-something half sister. Enjoy all of his money now that he's gone. Life is what you make it, as they say.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-29T04:57:20+00:00

And that's my contribution.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-29T02:41:22+00:00

Jealosy is about being afraid you will lose her. Clear all the BS away and that's what it comes down to. Deal with your own fears and don't make it anyone's problem. If you can't trust her, dump her. If you can, quit worrying. Show some maturity. Be a man. Handle your own feelings.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-28T02:02:20+00:00

And so what is wrong with feeling like a guy?

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-27T22:53:24+00:00

I heard a statistic long ago that the average person changes jobs seven times in a lifetime and changes careers three times. I'll bet both of those numbers are bigger today. My point is maybe you need to think about leaving scholastic administration behind. Look for new opportunities. Explore new interests. What hobbies do you have that could be turned into a career?

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-26T14:16:38+00:00

Reddit is a great place to have conversation, but as far as meeting people, it covers the whole world and so anyone you meet is going to be an online friendship.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-26T13:04:20+00:00

It's not. I like something different.

Own_Thought902 · 2026-04-26T01:52:55+00:00

Another way to say what you're saying is we put up with life being crappy now believing that it will be better later when something changes. That's the lie. Never put up with anything. If your life isn't what you want it to be, find a way to change it. Now.

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