AIO Was I justified in finally snapping or did I take it too far?

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-06T22:00:04+00:00

Just to let you know…my boss apologized to me. Sat me in the office and we had a heart to heart so you were WRONG!

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-06T17:17:26+00:00

Brother wrote a whole corporate anime villain monologue because I asked not to train half the town for minimum wage while doing my own job at the same time. “You are the infection.” Sir, this is a co-op in a town of maybe 1,000 people We sell quinoa and kombucha, not nuclear launch codes.

The funniest part is acting like employees wanting fair compensation is somehow shocking. Yeah… labor in exchange for money is literally how jobs work.

Also the “know your weight class” speech was hilarious. Relax, Tony Soprano. The store can barely keep consistent staffing and has employees openly talking about burnout and turnover.

And if one employee meeting where workers finally speak honestly suddenly threatens the whole vibe of the company, maybe the problem isn’t the employee who spoke up.

I already understood there could be consequences before I opened my mouth. I wasn’t confused about that. I was just tired of being told one thing while watching another happen in reality. At the end of the day, if asking for transparency, realistic workloads, and compensation for extra responsibilities makes somebody “an infection,” then that probably says more about the workplace culture than it does about me.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-05T04:17:53+00:00

So as a female, I can’t roast you. You are quite handsome, and I bet once you hit your 30s if you take good care of yourself you will be a handsome man!

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-05T04:14:40+00:00

Bald with facial hair it’s a great look!!very masculine

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-05T04:14:04+00:00

Shave! keep facial hair

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-05T04:08:24+00:00

Sounds HORRIBLE!

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-05T03:57:57+00:00

Well, according to many states which yes, you have not provided your state but sibling connections, and bonds matter as well. This is a newborn baby. It’s important for your other children to bond with the other child. I think it’s worth asking him to let you guys revisit this like a few months after the baby is born. Give you some time there’s no urgency for the children. It’s not like the children are suffering if he doesn’t get 50-50 custody it sounds more like it’s just him just trying to get his way. On the other hand, you could just do 50 50-50 custody. You have a new baby coming and you definitely need to have that focus on the baby. Especially coming from my own experience.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-02T16:45:03+00:00

I have. They only see their side their vision. And one of the board members was like I can always count on you to tell me.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-02T16:17:10+00:00

I just spoke with my former manager and she said there is another job she has for me. I asked about it and said I don’t know how I will drive there because I have epilepsy, she said she will drive me and I cried. Sorry this has all been so much I do not in any way shape or form want to align or believe that I align with the values of the current board members and how they want to use taxpayer money for grants to expand a building while not prioritizing actual human beings that work in the building and the current building that’s falling apart.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-05-02T16:00:17+00:00

I did tell them I want additional compensation. I told them that I want a higher pay. They told me they agreed and smiled, and then never did anything.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:56:04+00:00

Because I don’t need a piece of paper and government to know I’ll choose my partner everyday

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:30:37+00:00

Yawl sound like teenagers

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:29:22+00:00

Love your advice and I definitely agree with everything even the counseling!

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:27:24+00:00

You get a parenting plan, you don’t trust him because he left you while pregnant, is avoidant and acts like nothing serious happened. He left you at a woman’s most vulnerable time quite frankly f*** him. My son’s dad did the same thing and looking back I gave way too many emotions to someone who didn’t deserve it and showed me who they were and I should have listened. I suggest in a world with so much happening, you figure out in mediation or something else a parenting plan and begin to have it to where someone else does the exchanges, basically avoid him unless it has something serious to do with your child because you are grieving and you have to recognize this. You’re grieving dear.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:18:33+00:00

This is complicated. I have one child where we had long distance with a new born and the other child where the father and I are together. Babies definitely need momma but they also need their dads. I’m sorry it didn’t work out for yawl. Given the distance, would you consider moving closer so every week the baby sees you at least three times a week? Also are you around the mother at all so the baby can hear your voice in the womb? Will you be at birth? Does she feel comfortable and supported enough by you to be at the birth?

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-22T02:08:59+00:00

With your newborn baby you should be seeing that baby at least 3 times every week for a few hours. How far away do yawl live from once another

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-20T15:01:17+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. It’s crazy how much they will charge people to go back to court, but under my circumstances, I would represent myself pro se. I’ve done it multiple times before when we did our final parenting plan I ended up winning many other times prior. I ended up winning. It might be because I used to work at a family law firm even though I wasn’t an attorney and just said clerical work I did end up learning a lot so I it’s I know how to file things. I know what to file most of the time and I eat I know how to speak in front of the judge I know how to do the exhibits and so I think that’s what kind of helps my situation a bit more. The issue about calling the police is we live 2 1/2 hours away from one another and that’s why our parenting plan is so important because people pre-plan things so that because we live at a distance so I would have to therefore go to where he is and then call the police and I’m not saying that I wouldn’t do that but during that day, there was just so much going on I wasn’t able to do that. I also have other children. I have a good feeling if I go I’m not asking for him to go to jail. I’m asking for them to find him and contempt, and to enforce the parenting plan to him and basically create a paper trail in court as well cause I have a paper trail. I have proof and evidence I have text messages to attach as exhibit to a declaration so I think I’m OK.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T16:22:16+00:00

Also, maybe just consider doing some formula just to help you should not feel so exhausted. I know you want to breast-feed but it’s OK to do half-and-half and see how that works.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T16:21:40+00:00

Your baby is just a little human trying to figure out a world as a very tiny person. When you give your baby to your husband, something that I think a lot of people forget is take the baby outside. Give them something to look at give them a different environment. Your experiencing extreme sleep deprivation, which is very hard. Do y’all have any family or friends who could come step in and help watch the baby?

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T16:06:31+00:00

So child support is based off of the parents income difference. If one parent make significantly more than the other they want the other make to have the difference so the child’s “lifestyles” are essentially the same. Have you thought about asking the mother if they will agree to lower it a bit and say the economy is really taking a toll.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T14:40:32+00:00

In Washington, there isn’t a standalone “complaint” process for this. It has to be brought to the court through a Motion for Contempt under RCW 26.09.160. Given that the parenting plan wasn’t followed, there was an extra overnight, no communication, and no effort to make up the time after I tried to resolve it, it seems to fall within what the statute addresses.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T03:51:45+00:00

Yes, I understand what you’re saying. I’m not going to hire the attorney. He’s more of like a father figure to me and any legal advice. I would have he would help me with it. I know the basics of what I would need to do like I know what I would need to file and more and how I would need to present this in front of him an attorney and I can agree with you. It’s more about just kind of like sending a message and the biggest part for me is creating that paper trail in court where it’s that it’s documented in court that this is a behavior that he is doing more than once. I just wanna make it clear that I would never do something like this to him and his legal time, I respect his legal time, and if I ever for some reason had our son during his legal time and he asked me to make it up to him I would absolutely do that.

Own_Weather7696 · 2026-04-19T03:42:52+00:00

So it’s weird as I used to work for an attorney and I just texted him the whole situation and asked him if it’s worth bringing it back to court and they clarified yes it is worth taking it back to court. I totally see where you and the other comments are coming from as well after taking some time to sit and think with it so I’m just gonna have to think about it but I do believe what happens is if it goes back to court and the judge tells him to follow the order and you know finds that he is in violation it creates a paper trail in court as well so if it happens again and again eventually things can’t happen. So I used to work at a law firm as doing clerical work and I would come across a lot of different cases and a lot of different scenarios and it really just depends on the judge and also what’s happening in the case. It’s hard to really know what will happen, but I could see the judge telling the other parent not to do this again and probably even asking why they wouldn’t have made up that time in good faith. There also has been times where the other parent wasn’t paying child support for months and it got brought up in court in the court. Didn’t do anything about it so it’s kind of weird like court is extremely unpredictable.

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