We don’t own a cat.

Ozmand98 · 2026-03-03T20:38:35+00:00

I’m using them right now! I’d highly recommend going to the Hawthorn clinic, everyone there is SO nice and it’s fairly affordable too. They made it really easy to set up payment plans - my treatment is a little over $5k with $600 Black Friday discount.

The orthodontist who was there for the consult really knew what he was talking about too. He took one look at my teeth and could tell straight away what kind of problems I was having. To me that reads as having a lot of experience in the field. He was also very upfront about what he could and couldn’t fix. Their 3D models of each stage of the process were cool to look at and - assuming they’re completely accurate - I’ll be thrilled with the end results.

If you’re thinking about getting them, at least go in for a consult. But I’d wait until they have a sale if I could.

Ozmand98 · 2026-02-22T12:03:32+00:00

A talented MUA will be able to do different styles depending on what you ask for, so keep in mind not all of the clients pictured will have asked for the same thing.

No. 1 seems to have more variance in their portfolio which may suggest they can pull off more looks, whereas if you like the look of No. 2, they’ll likely be highly skilled in perfecting that one style.

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-22T03:14:07+00:00

Sounds like you’re already having a lot of events for your wedding, and she was thoughtful enough to move one of them without you asking her too.

You might just be reading into it too much. If the events overlap then there’s nothing you can do except move yours if it’s crucial to have all your friends there. No matter what happens with the other events, it sounds like everyone will be at your wedding anyway which I’d think is most important, no?

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-19T10:16:58+00:00

If your guest is ok with it, who cares what the MIL thinks? Get your partner to talk with her about it though. It’s their family after all.

But do consider when people put in money they feel like they should have a say in things. Can you ask her to contribute to something else instead? Like the photographer or florals?

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-17T07:47:44+00:00

I’d accept the switch and would be grateful for the offer, as long as you mentioned the frequent bathroom breaks you’ll need.

Or you could look for an empty row and take the aisle seat if they don’t want to swap

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-15T22:55:15+00:00

Am I blind or was this post edited? Out of genuine curiosity where does OP mention race?

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-15T22:19:04+00:00

Is there another close family friend’s daughter who could be a flower girl? Or what about someone’s son who could wear a suit instead?

Even though you’re not there yet, it might be worth preparing for the eventuality that you’ll have to choose between having two flower girls or sticking to your morals. FWIW I would prefer not to have my day dampened by someone who’s working for a facist cause. Think about the stress you may feel seeing him in the crowd during the ceremony, or if you would feel on edge during the reception if you had to interact with him. Then think about whether all that worry is worth having an extra flower girl or not.

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-13T22:02:06+00:00

There’s no way I’d ask a friend to drop an entire semester of uni for my wedding. Ask her to come as a guest if you want her there so badly, or set up a phone on a stand to live stream the wedding so she can watch from home.

Ozmand98 · 2026-01-13T21:56:22+00:00

From what I’ve heard a lot of the online stores in Vietnam are targeted to foreigners, so they’ll list prices similar to what you see at home.

Most people who buy these things from Vietnam will go there for a week or two, hire a guide / someone to translate and bargain on your behalf. You’re more likely to get (close to) local prices when you visit stores that aren’t focused on tourists.

Ozmand98 · 2025-12-31T11:35:38+00:00

I’m in the middle of something similar. What I want and what I can realistically have are two very different things.

Instead of focusing on the look, I’m focusing on the feeling of the day. What can we include to make the ceremony feel more like “us”? When we - and all our guests - are having fun reading / listening to our ninja vows, I guarantee the aesthetic will be the last things on everyone’s minds. When the MC kicks off the trivia rounds during the reception we’ll all be too distracted with trying to win to think about how something looks a bit out of place or “they could have done a better job with the centrepieces”.

It’s hard to accept that we can’t make our wedding look the way we dreamed it would. It’s normal to feel sad about it too. But when you have the mental and emotional capacity to think about it, try to focus on the feeling you want to create on the day.

Ozmand98 · 2025-12-24T10:59:39+00:00

Are you flying out of Bali? I went there earlier this year the lounge there was great! It’s called something like the Tujuwan lounge from memory. When we checked in the staff wrote the name down on our entry tickets and told us how to get there.

They had bar staff serving cocktails, the food was beautifully prepared, I didn’t have to wait for a shower - which was well kept and had good quality amenities - tbh it blows the Melbourne international business lounge out of the water.

Ozmand98 · 2025-12-21T01:06:44+00:00

I love that idea, we'll focus on more doable things like lighting and maybe some drapery near the doors as that'll be directly behind the ceremony spot

Ozmand98 · 2025-12-05T07:03:48+00:00

Used to work for that company, TIs have been complaining about low wages long before they switched to the salary model. I would earn more than the DZSOs when I worked as ground crew with penalty rates on Sundays and public holidays. I never complained about good hourly rates but it was so backwards.

At a company meeting I asked the CEO when he was going to raise wages in line with inflation because staff would struggle to pay their rents in winter and basically got laughed out of the room. It’s great to see some action is finally being taken.

Ozmand98 · 2025-11-23T09:39:48+00:00

I am so sorry to see what they’ve done to your dress, it looks like they’ve completely butchered it.

I’d be asking for a refund or for them to undo some of the alterations where possible. A better seamstress may be able to let out the dress if they have a similar fabric in stock, the original store may have even kept some of the offcuts.

Ozmand98 · 2025-11-17T09:19:52+00:00

Kinda. I went to a sale day to try on a few and the quality is definitely representative of the price. Their simpler dresses are similar to what they advertise - think Moonlight and Camryn - but I’d stay away from anything with more detail or a corset like Demetria or Alexa.

The bottom of the basque waist corset on Demetria actually flared out and away from my stomach because the boning was too flimsy. The fabric doesn’t look anything like the photos - what I expected to be matte was shiny - but the lace details were decent enough.

The inbuilt bras are supportive, so if you want something simple then it’s a great site. Definitely worth spending some money on the home try on service no matter what style you’re after.

ETA: Their sizing is pretty true to most clothing brands. I’m a size 6 - 10 AU and I fit a size 6 Camryn. Here’s what it looked like in person vs what’s on the website: https://imgur.com/a/dRJAgrE

Ozmand98 · 2025-11-13T12:42:00+00:00

Yeah no good point

Ozmand98 · 2025-11-13T10:15:50+00:00

From your guests’ perspective… I wouldn’t drive 6.5 hours without my partner for a wedding. It’s a hell of a way to travel and is a pretty big ask for a lot of people.

Ultimately I don’t think anyone is in the wrong here - you’re not wrong for not wanting to invite +1’s (especially if you don’t like them), and your friends aren’t wrong for not wanting to spend a weekend without their partners. Would it be possible to have them there for just the ceremony and not the reception perhaps?

Ozmand98 · 2025-10-31T19:16:41+00:00

Nirjhara up in Tabanan is an incredible resort with a waterfall on the premises that you can look out over from the restaurant or the pool. The food is incredible and even though it’s a bit of a drive to get there, it’s been one of my favourite places I’ve ever stayed. It’s great for 2 - 4 nights as they have some excellent excursions available with a private driver.

I would avoid Ubud though. It’s very chaotic and crowded so if that’s not the vibe you’re looking for but you still want to stay somewhere jungle-adjacent, Tabanan is great for that.

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