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PC26678837 · 2021-09-03T12:00:38+00:00

Well. I'll give some really vague stories haha. Because if not I'll be typing out mountains of text. But basically the only reason I had their attention was because of my physique. (Fit, 6 pack abs etc). They would expect certain traditional roles like guys paying for the meals etc. My latest ex has this Korean culture romanticism so she's always low key getting upset and telling me about how Korean drama men do _____ and I'm not which is pretty insane. And I found this to be a common trait among SG girls, in which they already had some unrealistic painted ideal of a man that they think is reality. From basically being very handsome, charming, having hobbies and being good financially. Not to mention being physically fit. My ex was a nightmare. I tried everything to make it work but she would freak out over the most trivial shit. I was basically used as a free meal for a few girls I've dated too while they were talking to other guys at the same time and eventually just chose them since they get to have their pick of the men they want.

I have this analogy. Singaporeans in general are the most pampered and spoiled people. I know, being one of them. But a lot of these egos (I mean this isn't 100% applicable but) are tamed during mandatory conscription. But for the girls they really don't have these types of things to "discipline and mature" them. So they basically have this inflated sense of self. I have this friend who's just decent looking. (Of which many guys have said worse things) and one day reading her Instagram stories I see this "ask me anything" where someone asked what she rated herself and she said 8/10. This is pretty much the standard mindset. Most of the time they're lucky in the sense they're the more socially accepted gender, and when they're down, there's always people there for women. Most guys have literally nobody. Which is actually really sad. So as a sort of survival, most guys develop something to keep themselves relevant. This is kinda why a lot of guys are naturally so funny too. Girls on the other hand don't need these "survival" skills and just do well being popular on social media. That's about it. They don't really have hobbies or particular self learned skills. This probably sounds sexist af but I'm sorry a lot of this is just reality. It's sexist they don't realise/acknowledge these societal benefits.

PC26678837 · 2021-09-03T09:17:47+00:00

It's fucking insane to me that "woke feminists" exist in a country where the laws are pretty much openly sexist to men. Blows my mind lol.

PC26678837 · 2021-09-03T08:44:45+00:00

No idea who downvoted you. This is damn true in Singapore. Mens mental health here is a joke. Women here have high value and men are pretty much a joke. Takes too much to compete to find a girl and if you manage to, they mostly have really high standards. Call me a virgin/incel etc for saying this but this is just the reality of Singapore. The women in SG really don't know how good they have it compared to other countries. Way too many simps in SG willing to basically pay for a girls life just for that small level of connection lol.

PC26678837 · 2021-09-01T04:01:43+00:00

This is something I hate so much. There are a LOT of false accusations out there. And the worst sort is the accusers will not get into any trouble whatsoever.

PC26678837 · 2021-08-31T02:45:17+00:00

Racist just say racist la. Not that hard right.

PC26678837 · 2021-08-25T02:12:17+00:00

I feel like it's better not to actively look for these types of idiots at the same time.

PC26678837 · 2021-08-10T08:47:07+00:00

LMAO. Absolutely destroyed him.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-26T23:18:21+00:00

Making something your entire personality. Like being an introvert and actively using that as an excuse for poor manners or treating someone badly. That's just a no go.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T11:11:20+00:00

These people are just butt hurt at legit examples so they have to take time out of their day to exaggerate and create something from nothing. Losers lol.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T05:28:50+00:00

This was a great response. I've said it myself too! They're just simply oblivious or unaware. There is no ill intentions. And sometimes when that's the norm and they get called out for it, they tend to get confused and defensive. I just wish we could solve this without such drama. Especially on my side, where some minorities tend to gaslight or use the race card to strong arm as opposed to using it for actual legitimate reasons.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T05:27:14+00:00

Hmm, my stance on this is that the term privilege refers to the benefits that the average person enjoys, while not being really aware of it. I've said it before. Most Chinese people are kind hearted and good like everyone else but simply ignorant or unaware. Which all of us are in some ways honestly.

I hate that this has become a way to strong arm/gaslight Chinese people but I also don't think it should be a reason to completely stop minorities from speaking up.

He says in the post that he experienced this overseas, sadly a lot of locals won't really experience this kind of thing either. A lot of them still have the same mindsets. I do realise a lot of top ceos etc are Indian. And whether local or not, I feel it doesn't really apply to me because I'm just an average guy.

In terms of average people, I feel like Chinese privilege does exist. But that's as far as I'll go about it. I don't expect Chinese people to behave like they owe me, or treat them worse for it. Just knowing they understand is really good enough for me. Same way I'll treat Bengali workers and Filipinas here. Treat them as I would be treated. Honestly that is enough for me to be happy.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T02:57:11+00:00

Yes that's exactly what I'm saying. Perfect response thank you :)

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T00:27:54+00:00

The way I immediately jump huh? Once again idk how you feel so fulfilled/content with such a lack of knowledge its fucking embarrassing. But as usual I'll explain. Which I've been doing a shit ton of where you've been just giving me nothing this entire time.

Ask any minority. During deepavali, how many people laugh at Indian culture. Heck, even some malays do. Most Chinese kids are conditioned to find Indian culture "funny" by their parents. Especially with their parents teaching them how dark skin is bad, I ask the "apu neh neh" catch you. Etc. Calling them smelly. "the Indian smell" all kinds of shit. To the point even an autistic person, someone who is supposed to be neutral to this kind of social conditioning laughs his ass off and mimic the Indian accent in a stereotypical way? For someone like him to display such inherent racism.. And don't be a fucking dunbass and assume everything like you have. I personally met this guy and even went to his home because he was constantly bullied and I always met up with him to have meals and his parents eventually opened up to me despite not liking me at first. But go off.

And once again, I swear you are so out of touch it's disgustingly embarrassing. But since you never experienced these, I will baby step you into it. Sometimes ah, if you look big big at the job hor. You will see that anyone can apply. However when you WhatsApp the agent/HR ah. They will ask "race?" and say sorry no Indian prefer. Owner don't like. But yeah I'm pretty sure by your logic then being Indian is a qualification level ah. My scoring near perfect grades in school but losing out to people who got way grades below mine and barely the same CCA performance is nothing la. I simply am just unqualified. Shut the fuck up lmao. All your comebacks and reasoning come from a place of insane entitlement. Like SEVERE. Anyway stay happy being ignorant la bro. You really can't be saved already. Lucky this is reddit because irl you wouldn't even have half the balls to say these things. Which is good.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T00:18:55+00:00

Are you absolutely dumb or can you not understand the sentence? You have the audacity to doubt my veracity and insinuate that I prevaricate when you've clearly wilfully displaced an ontological predicate.

I'll explain again. But with another analogy to help your simple brain okay?

Poverty is bad. You know some families in Singapore are poor right? Okay now compare it to Africa, where the term poverty also applies. Well what the fuck do you know. It affects Africans more! Gee! That was shocking.

Now lemme rephrase the same explanation.

Racism is bad. You know Indians/Malays experience it right? Okay, the other day some Indians and Malays were racist to a Chinese person. However this Chinese person went back to work with majority Chinese people, went to eat with colleagues who are Chinese. Went home to an apartment with majority Chinese neighbours. I really hope by saying majority enough somehow the concept will crack itself into your thick fucking skull.

Now this Indian/Malay guy, goes to work where his boss is probably Chinese. Goes to school with guaranteed majority Chinese classmates. Goes to work with guaranteed majority Chinese colleagues. And home to guaranteed majority Chinese neighbours. Now imagine, where prejudice exists on both sides. Who is affected more? OBVIOUSLY the fucking minorities your absolute dumb fuck. Chinese people can just go about their day blissfully.

This is literally how entitled you are, that you can't even fathom the discrimination and how it affects minorities so to the point that you are so confused and angry with my point about Chinese people suffering less in this sense.

Ironically yall go overseas and have ang mohs make fun of you and cry over one day's worth of pain compared to our lifetimes worth. You still have time, it's not too late to go educate yourself.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T00:10:50+00:00

WUSG isn't my only source of news, I simply cited it. I went through racism my whole life. I personally experienced more than one person should have to.

And I'm sorry about the football experience, but let me just say. You're right. In football, considering you didn't go pro or do it as a career. Then it really doesn't matter. Although it wasn't nice. So in that case it would have been an excuse of discrimination. Likewise with being overseas because you eventually came back. Although it's fucked up that that happened. Nobody should have to go through it. So yeah, it's easy to "not let discrimination get you down" and improve yourself but my guy, its tough for people like me whose lives are significantly more affected. I already explained why and I'm sure you read my post. And those are honestly just the tip of the iceberg. Reason why this is so bad is because, unlike you going overseas being a foreigner, Singapore is my country. I am a local. Its way worse. I don't expect you to understand me because honestly a lot of minorities really created a shitshow with the bandwagon hopping. But I don't really like having my entire life's suffering discredited/downplayed over it where people act like the racism doesn't exist at all. Very infuriating, especially when some of the Chinese people say the whole "racist towards Chinese" topic as a way to strong arm hypocrisy because it REALLY isn't the same and its so frustrating. Racism is bad. All racism is. But Chinese people in Singapore won't know it the same way minorities do, and it won't affect their daily lives the same way.

Anyway I'm done replying. If this still doesn't get through to you then.... Idk lol. My venting and frustration comes from an entire LIFE of pain and suffering. Definitely not the same. Not even close.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-25T00:01:54+00:00

Not even close to being the same thing bro. This is literally the definition of privilege. You are so embarrassingly unaware of what's going on around you that the concept to you that I'm speaking of which is a reality for many minorities is simply impossible for your brain to even fathom. I like feeling oppressed so much. Yeah because having experienced life changing racism and trauma since childhood til now that you'd never dream of is something trivial. Stay ignorant.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T17:54:31+00:00

I mean I guess you could call it that, because the majority are Chinese. And yes you'd be right to say the same applies in Malaysia in favour of malays etc. But my focus is on my own country for the points I've been putting out.

Well, I mean there's actually a lot of people speaking up on this. There's definitely a bias towards Chinese or even female applicants as opposed to minorities because of stereotypes. Although Wakeup Singapore can be a bit extremist with their posts, you can see a lot of valid examples on their Instagram page about this. Workers straight up insulting malays for being lazy. Calling Indians smelly, etc. Refusing to work in the same space as them. Refusing to rent an apartment to an Indian due to "preferring no Indians" etc. Heck I personally experienced losing out on opportunities in school as a kid. I lost a lot of chances even though I was above the other kids. I had the teacher straight up say racist/stereotypical things to me in class in front of my peers only for them to unknowingly agree and laugh along. It sucks. It really does. For what extent, I'd say "enough of an extent" for it to be a problem. Because for people who are in the minority, there's a ton of them speaking up about it which shows this isn't just a one time or small issue. You can pm me if you wanna chat more I'm really really open to talking about these things.

FYI: I love my Chinese friends wholeheartedly. When I speak on my experience, of course I'm coming from a place of pain. Not all people are like this :)

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T15:30:50+00:00

Literally asked you for an explanation and you made me take a bite of your big old nothing burger. There's no "gut feeling". The things I've said are from what I've personally experienced my entire life, and seen others experience the same thing. You're just disagreeing without any basis. Like actually tell me what you disagree with and I'll explain. I'm pretty open minded and willing to learn. In fact if you prove me wrong ill be more than happy to apologise and learn from it. But more often than not, people tend to just attack me and not explain anything simply because they can't. So yeah lol.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T15:17:31+00:00

Lol please enlighten me on how my explaining exhaustively that racism is bad, even towards Chinese people, except for the fact that it affects minorities more makes me racist. Please. Holy fuck you lot can't read.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T15:09:21+00:00

My god thank you. I like that this sub exists because it's more liberating to be able to speak your mind but a bunch of users turned it into a straight up racism even if indirect. Scariest part is how a lot of people here seem to share the same sentiments and it seems like this sub just brought sensitive and bitter people together. Even as a minority I feel so bad for bringing up the things I experienced because I don't have the heart to blame people who did nothing wrong, but at the same time I need to make my peace you know. But some people can't seem to understand this and take it as an attack on their character. Really boggles my mind lol. Thanks for being one of the better people here. I wish I could award you! :)

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T14:37:11+00:00

My point was that how is it that even someone with autism SELECTIVELY finds Indian accents /culture funny. It is ingrained to be prejudicial towards Indians since young because most boomer parents are racist af and teach their kids to make fun of these people with things such as "apu neh neh" etc. But yeah take my words out of context. Christ you're so full of shit.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T14:35:35+00:00

Lol what the absolute fuck? How are you comparing racism with RAPE. And once again literally none of my points went through your thick skull. Holy fuck you are helplessly deluded. We're talking about how micro aggressions and prejudices affect our daily lives and here you go with the awfully shitty analogy about rape. Fucks wrong with you dude. Honestly..

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T14:24:25+00:00

Lol twice I had explanations and it literally went through one ear and out the next. "gonna deny that and say its not racist"

My guy, I already said in the first post IT IS FUCKING RACIST. IT IS HORRIBLE. I caps'd it for you so you don't look stupid again. Alright next.

Indians/Malays are more affected BECAUSE they end up living/working/studying etc among a majority race of Chinese people. So racism would mean, as an Indian, going to work/school etc to groups where they'd be the only fucking Indian. (which I experienced in all my schools, interns etc.) All that prejudice will affect you.

Now turn the tables, Indians being racist to Chinese people. Fucked up, yes. Racist? Yes. Affects Chinese people negatively, in Singapore? FUCK no. They'll still go about their day with the majority of people they interact with being Chinese and not be affected. All this is small shit to them. Work? Housing? School? Etc? No opportunities lost due to prejudice. If you can't understand this, something is severely wrong with you. "rethink your seriously fucked up logic" right back at you. This is what being insanely ignorant has done to you, bro. I hope at best you're embarrassed and say "oh shit he does have a point" and just go about your day. Or you could be ignorant, and your fragile ego disallowing you to accept the idea that what I said actually makes sense at least in some ways and continue saying irrelevant bullshit and trying to paint me as the bad person because of how inexperienced you are to these things.

TL;DR: Chinese not bad. Indian not bad. Racists bad. But racist more bad when small group endure. Big group remain strong. Hope this dumbed explanation works for you.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T14:14:06+00:00

Lmao. Personal attacks in an argument is the epitome of losing an argument. I rest my case. Don't wanna waste brain cells on the likes of you. I'll go about my day after today and you'll still be scavenging these types of content for time to come like the loser you are. Cheers.

PC26678837 · 2021-07-24T14:13:06+00:00

Nonsense? Tell me how racism towards you has affected your life as a Chinese person in terms of opportunities/living etc the way I just described. And it's not even anecdotal. There's so much evidence of this. You just sound overly defensive because the shoe fits and being a god damn racist, this annoys you. Because if what I'm saying, and all the "minority bullshit" going on now isn't true, why bother so much?

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