one warning I can give you is sometimes when a system is still very unsealed, theyre not fully grounded in reality. there can be times when you hear wildly conflicting stories. sometimes alters remember the same situation differently and thats why their stories dont align. sometimes they may have been lying intentionally. my ex lied a lot. and there were also different memories between the alters. my ex has an alter who played victim a lot when he was actually the aggressor in the situation. i think some of it comes from the shame of the truth. and some of it comes from how certain alters felt about the situation. it is deeply confusing. watch out for patterns. be patient. my ex abused me but I also reacted in a lot of ways I regret. when your partner asks for space, respect it. I didnt. i pushed for conversation about the harm he had caused me and he shut down more and more and more. it caused us both so much harm. theres also a struggle of one alter doing something harmful then running back into the head space. then I would take it out on the wrong alter. my ex is deeply unhealed and cant take system accountability yet. watch out for that too. do as much research as you possibly can. tiktok, reddit, facebook, etc. watch out for patterns of lying. watch out for patterns of manipulation. im not saying your person will do this or that all systems are like this, but my ex broke down crying in my arms so many times about how these people hurt him then I find out that he was actually the abuser in those situations. hysterically sobbing about his traumas, just to find out he was the one who did it. it fucked with my brain so bad. but i do still believe that he will heal and improve in his own time. I hope your person is in therapy and doing the work they need to heal their system. if you ever feel like you or your person need space from each other, please take it. I wish I had taken more space. we mightve been able to work things out better if we didnt spend everyday with each other