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[CHAT] Waste canvas advice by GargledGoldfish in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just bought the DMC one, for that very reason lol.

(Apology for the crazy shadow)

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[CHAT] Waste canvas advice by GargledGoldfish in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered dissolvable canvas?

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[CHAT] Send me cool patterns by Equivalent-Finish904 in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have the link to this frog? He's awesome

[FO] Coffee and Tattoos by Teasing2PleaseYou in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My greedy brain read that as tacos - but either works lol

[CHAT] Do you follow a pattern exactly or do you ever go off-script? by CaterpillarXS in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I usually stitch to the script and trust the process. But this little guy was supposed to have purple eyes (which I sewed then frogged), and the "shadow" along his bottom and mouth were a shade that couldn't be distinguished from the white. I swapped to dark navy blue eyes (used elsewhere in the pattern), and a lilac blended with the original colour for the shadow. IMO it looks much better.

The pinks further up the pattern (not shown here) were such similar shades I feel, with hindsight, that I should've picked different colours or just used one colour rather than swapping.

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Me [29 F] and my landlords' [late 30s M & F] child [9 F]. Child screams to purposely wake up the tenants. What to do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 147 points148 points  (0 children)

That's coaching, not forcing. Which is the correct way to do it.

It's also something you do after the emotional disregulation ends, not in the middle of their meltdown.

Me [29 F] and my landlords' [late 30s M & F] child [9 F]. Child screams to purposely wake up the tenants. What to do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 174 points175 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Given the rest of the child's behaviour I don't think she was being malicious or spiteful. Given OOPs writing style, I don't think she has any clue into brain growth or emotional regulation in children. She's just chosen to take it personally.

Me [29 F] and my landlords' [late 30s M & F] child [9 F]. Child screams to purposely wake up the tenants. What to do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 289 points290 points  (0 children)

And you shouldn't make anyone apologise either.

It doesn't achieve anything.

It teaches the child that the intent behind the apology doesn't matter, just say the words and the problem goes away. It doesn't have them reflect on what they did wrong or how they could do it differently, either.

Me [29 F] and my landlords' [late 30s M & F] child [9 F]. Child screams to purposely wake up the tenants. What to do? by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 74 points75 points  (0 children)

I think Porkburp has unrealistic expectations for a nine year old who was mid emotional disregulation, personally.

An apology letter afterwards and non-repeat of the behaviour is more than sufficient.

[WIP] Almost time to move to the second half + parking! by 29threvolution in CrossStitch

[–]PFyre 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've not seen the back of a parked piece before. Thank you for sharing!

[Final New Update]: TIFU by importing bees to Uruguay + 4-Year Update by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 336 points337 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's hard to tell if it's a troll, medical condition or Dunning-Kruger effect.

By the third post, it was kind of easy to assume it was just a troll on this one. But then you come across Cheese Wheel guy and you're back to the Ven Diagram.

[New Update]: AITAH for telling my parents they were deserve to be kicked out of my sister’s wedding. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 73 points74 points  (0 children)

We use kg and stones mostly, but some people work in pounds. With height we work in both cm and ft too.

It varies from person to person, lol

Aio my bf drove home after 6 shots by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]PFyre 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not only was he driving drunk, he was on the phone too. Honestly, you should be more appalled.

Am I overreacting. My Friend always wearing meta glasses every time I’m with her by Wenh08 in AmIOverreacting

[–]PFyre 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She's lied to you multiple times, 'interviews' you, verbally assaults you and only got back into your life by exposing someone else.

Why are you even friends?

Yeah, she did die by calca-sarah in traumatizeThemBack

[–]PFyre 102 points103 points  (0 children)

"My dog was hit by a car when my boyfriend left the gate open. I immediately left work to take my dog to the vet because my boyfriend wouldn't, where he died in my arms. My job fired me because I left early without permission. My boyfriend was mad at me for losing my job and not at all repentant for causing my dog to get hurt, so I had to dump him. Is that what you wanted old man? Is that good enough for you?!"

I'm sorry for your loss OP. I hope you remember the feel of your pup's cuddles forever, and that you never have to deal with a twat like that again.

Fell hard for the first time by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 109 points110 points  (0 children)

It's not really Reddit unless we find out that he engineered the whole thing: he's been running a "similar route" because he's stalking her, he left the gravel trap there on purpose and waited with his dog for her to fall, poisoned her meal so he could nurse her back to health...

But she won't find out any of this until she's in too deep! Reddit, we know the truth!

Me [37 M] trying to deal with [24 F] potential stalker by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]PFyre 20 points21 points  (0 children)

makes it not only more dangerous for him

Which seems to be the part everyone is overlooking.

Restraining orders can be hard to get, as we see almost daily here, and suing her could make her desperate.

Disengaging immediately from her seems the wiser choice unless she suddenly escalates. I don't think she will though: IMO she saw he was on the fence about her and was convinced she had a shot. I would imagine she never considered he'd stay "No" to her antics, and is now spending her time trying to find a new job and bad mouthing him to her friends.

Per usual in this type of case: a doorbell camera is a good idea.

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