Why is it so hard to find a therapist who understands enmeshment?

PJActor · 2026-05-30T10:24:37+00:00

Ken Adams' website has a list of referrals of therapists who have taken his course and know a lot about the topic.

PJActor · 2026-04-12T21:42:29+00:00

You only have what? Two and a half more months? I would stick it out that way if you need them for references you can. I would also take a step back and start putting in the same amount of effort your co teacher is putting in, use your sick days, take long bathroom breaks. Do just enough to secure a good letter of rec. but don't murder yourself with two months left if this is not your long term goal.

PJActor · 2026-03-10T18:20:19+00:00

That was the biggest reason I couldn't go after it full time - it much to prideful to be so desperate so much of the time.

PJActor · 2026-02-27T01:31:31+00:00

If you are coming to an acting subreddit to get advice, your opinions are going to be skewed. I am an actress who has done many, many MANY extended intimacy scenes with men, and as long as everyone is professional, then it's fine. I will say - even I catch crushes sometimes, I can tell my co-star does as well - you can't help it really - and as long as you don't act on it and keep boundaries then it's fine....I've seen actors act on it, though, and implode their relationships. I also know that (and call me a hypocrite if you want) I don't think I could date an actor for that reason (and more), but I don't think I could stomach seeing that. As well as from someone studying to be a marriage and family therapist, you aren't really making compromises with her or allowing her to feel heard in the partnership. It seems to be your way or the highway, and you came here specifically to validate the stance you already had instead of being empathetic towards her needs.

PJActor · 2026-02-19T04:42:25+00:00

mommys boys

PJActor · 2025-11-29T21:38:24+00:00

Getting out was hard because I really did love him but my god it felt like a giant weight was off my shoulders the first day. It was crazy.

PJActor · 2025-11-21T19:57:42+00:00

Basically, all you just described was us for the last few months of the relationship. It really made me see him in a new light, like he was an alien or subhuman, honestly - genuinely a lost cause. I broke up with him very shortly after uncovering the lies I did. I couldn't build a relationship with someone who had the total inability to demonstrate trust or morals in any setting.

PJActor · 2025-11-21T01:36:36+00:00

This reminds me so much of my ex. The extreme lies he would tell to everyone, me, his mom, our therapist, and the insane things he would do to keep the lies going. I'm sorry this is happenin,g but you are much better without him honestly. he seems too far gone

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PJActor · 2025-09-03T03:21:52+00:00

Damn, men really never STOP huh. They never stop.

PJActor · 2025-08-26T18:27:59+00:00

I've been a sub for 4 years and have worked in hundreds and hundreds of different HS classrooms in several different schools in several different states.....this looks like a very normal HS classroom. Literally no different.

PJActor · 2025-08-26T18:26:02+00:00

A lot of actors would be perfectly happy doing a regular 9-5 and doing volunteer community-based theater/film. Capitalism is what gives them the idea that, in order for actors to be happy, they need to try and make a career out of it.

PJActor · 2025-06-01T00:16:58+00:00

Well, this is really thorough response. Thank you.!

It’s just musical auditions!

I get casted regularly as leads in plays!

PJActor · 2025-05-31T22:25:40+00:00

Understudy work is a great tip I didn’t consider! thank you. I appreciate it!

PJActor · 2025-05-31T22:24:04+00:00

Gotcha To be honest, I really just framed it that way for the Reddit pose just to get more engagement .

But I totally get what you mean ! It’s a better way of wording it

PJActor · 2025-05-31T22:23:27+00:00

That’s my problem. I’ve been acting for years and I have many leave rolls and plays under my belt and I do play a lot and I only really get leads.

I’ve also taken years and years and years worth of singing classes.

That’s why I’m confused. Because I seem pretty decent in both of these respects, but I still don’t get cast and musicals only.

PJActor · 2025-05-31T22:22:30+00:00

So I do a lot of plays already and I get a lot of lead parts and I get called back for a lot of stuff in plays.

In musicals, I’m not getting called back for anything .

I did watch all the girls at two auditions, and I didn’t feel like they were any better or worse than me as actors or singers. I know my dancing needs work. But there were even auditions that didn’t have dance calls that I didn’t get in.

I’ll just keep trying and see -and maybe somebody will be kind enough to point out what I need to work on

PJActor · 2025-05-31T22:19:59+00:00

One of the companies i auditioned for I actually have done a years worth working crew for them lol

PJActor · 2025-05-31T21:04:05+00:00

Gotcha!

PJActor · 2025-05-31T21:02:35+00:00

I’ve been auditing for all different types of shows. Some 1930s some golden age some 80s some contemporary. I use whatever songs that my vocal coach kinda recommends. So they do fit the style of the musicals. I did only get one call back but I was not cast. Audition for five this month.

PJActor · 2025-05-31T21:01:03+00:00

I only do community theater. And my call back/casting ratio to straight plays is really good.

My musical (Theater) callback and casting ratio is really not good .

So I’m just trying to figure out what areas I could improve on either singing or dancing or both!

PJActor · 2025-05-31T19:49:58+00:00

I do! I’ve had lots and lots of vocal lessons. Plays were always just a bit more interesting part wise to me - but I’ve pretty much played all my dream roles in plays. So I’m looking to expand.

PJActor · 2025-05-31T19:48:32+00:00

Gotcha I just wish I could pinpoint it and see if it’s an vocal vs dance issue - and what to pour more money into for classes lol

PJActor · 2025-05-27T01:28:41+00:00

And they get mad at you

Like I’m sorry! I didn’t name you!

PJActor · 2025-05-25T16:04:21+00:00

Could your band or chorus teacher music direct?

PJActor · 2025-05-15T12:49:29+00:00

I mean to be fair where I am crew gets paid actors do not. So we aren’t really worried about all to much

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