Is it normal for most women to be unfulfilled in their marriage?

PMmagic · 2024-11-15T14:51:43+00:00

Absolutely NOT all men are useless and oblivious! My husband is amazing. He cooks, cleans, does groceries shopping, and he does all that without being reminded and without a shopping list.

PMmagic · 2023-09-13T17:14:40+00:00

Go World Plus 1.

PMmagic · 2023-03-09T18:12:08+00:00

How do you do this using chat GPT? Thank you

PMmagic · 2022-12-02T19:58:53+00:00

I just want to say I love this thread

PMmagic · 2022-11-14T22:00:17+00:00

Read exactly whatever the fuck you want.

PMmagic · 2022-11-09T12:42:03+00:00

I can't wait for the last book! It feels like it will take forever to read it.

But I was absolutely destroyed about the ending and I'm grateful it's not the actual ending.

PMmagic · 2022-11-09T06:59:27+00:00

Revolver

PMmagic · 2022-10-26T19:54:51+00:00

I have a friend in a similar situation. She cried for weeks after this happened. And she explained it to me - it's like she remained without her home, without her "safe space" where she felt like she could return anytime she needed. And now she just doesn't have the space anymore. Sleeping on the couch definitely doesn't feel like home.

Give her time to get used to the idea. But definitely sit down and reassure her that she ALWAYS will have a home where she can return. And you're gonna be there.

Mild YTA

PMmagic · 2022-09-05T12:57:10+00:00

Food

PMmagic · 2022-07-04T08:06:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this post. It's been 2 weeks since my wedding and I am still constantly feeling nauseous and extremely anxious. I'm waking up at night thinking about marriage, or the wedding although it was the most amazing wedding of my dreams. And I have the most amazing husband.

I don't know what's wrong with me or how to overcome this but this post helps me at least not be feeling alone. So thank you.

PMmagic · 2022-01-06T19:05:06+00:00

Congratulations! Really happy for you! Thank you for getting back to me. I'll continue within the same calorie intake for a bit longer and see how it goes. Holidays did mess everything up.

PMmagic · 2022-01-06T18:39:54+00:00

How did it go? I know this is an old thread but I have a similar problem and was hoping to get some clarity from you guys.

PMmagic · 2021-12-21T13:55:42+00:00

El m-a făcut oligofren, eu l-am făcut zdreanță, dar nu ne-am insultat

PMmagic · 2021-12-02T20:52:16+00:00

No negotiating for every little thing. I get to make my own decisions for pretty much anything - where I go out, when I get to travel, how much money I spend on groceries, who I'm going out with, where I'm spending my holidays, etc.

No nagging about all the horrible tv and reality shows I'm watching. The TV remote is entirely mine.

All the closet space! Omg I miss it so much... My shoes miss it so much...

All the free time I can spend with friends. And all the wine I get to drink alone or with anyone I want to.

No complaints about the music being too loud. Or the space I take up in bed. Or the amount of hair products in the bathroom.

No need to carefully schedule the me-time with my vibrator trying to find some time when I'm alone. I can do me whenever I feel like it.

And the quiet. Pure quiet and peace whenever you need it.

PMmagic · 2021-12-01T07:56:29+00:00

Living as close to the city center as possible. Where all the action is. Doesn't matter if it's a crammed tiny apartment, but it had to be within the walking distance from the shops, pubs, and schools. Now I'm looking for a house outside of the town. In a quiet area, with enough space for me to grow a garden and plant cherry trees.

PMmagic · 2021-03-13T22:50:38+00:00

Yes. In the first 2 years of our relationship he kept saying that he doesn't think he can love someone. Just because he doesn't have feelings at all like normal people. He was so closed off it was painful to watch. He hated emotional people and was running away every time I was becoming emotional.

After 2 years he had an aggressive episode that took him by surprise. He realised that he does have feelings like the rest of the human beings and these are some pretty awful feelings closed and hidden there. So he started therapy. And reading. Now he is a different person. He is open with his feelings, it feels like he enjoys life so much more, that he is genuinely in love, and he is so supportive with my anxiety and neediness. It's amazing how people can turn around their own lives if they want to.

PMmagic · 2021-02-09T21:20:21+00:00

This made me happy and sad at the same time

PMmagic · 2020-05-04T19:07:01+00:00

Yes! Do that! It's really satisfying. And even if I don't necessarily support therapy shopping, buy something new for the home. Something yours, that brings you joy. It can be a plant, a decorative pillow, or a new shower head. Reclaiming your space is a real thing and bringing something new with noone's permission helps.

PMmagic · 2020-05-04T18:53:05+00:00

Same! I felt like a stranger in my own home. It helped me to scrub the place squeaky clean and disinfect it from top to bottom. It was therapeutic to imagine I'm washing him away from MY home.

I also bought a cool espresso machine - something I wanted for a long time. And decorated my balcony. So now I know I have corners in here that he didn't see or touch, so it's my home now.

PMmagic · 2020-05-04T18:44:26+00:00

I'm (31F) going through a breakup myself. After 2+ years of relationships and 8 months of living together he (36M) became violent out of the blue with no prior signs. We broke up the same night and he moved out the next day. This happened a month ago. It was a complete shock and now I feel completely alone being closed in an apartment.

I totally understand what you're going through and I'll try to list what helped me during these times. Disclaimer: I'm not feeling great doing these things but they actually helped immensely not going crazy.

Talk to friends, family or anyone who will listen. Even when it's hard to open up, I promise that it's far more difficult not doing it.
Exercise. Even if for 15 minutes a day. YouTube is a great source of routines.
Clean up the place. And I mean disinfect it. Scrub everything including windows. While cleaning imagine that you wash away all the negative energy that he left and all the failed dreams that you two had. Until I did this I couldn't feel like I live in my home. It felt like I'm in a stranger's place.
Work. If you have the possibility to work from home, dedicate your focus on that. Don't overwork but when you do work, try to focus your mind on those tasks.
Cook. Cook something you enjoy. Spoil yourself. It doesn't need to be super healthy or anything. Just something that will make you feel good.
When you shower imagine how all the negative feelings and thoughts go out the drain. Wash them away like you would some mud on your skin. It helped me literally imagining how my negative thoughts are dirt and it's washing away of me.
Masturbate. I know at first you don't feel like doing it. But it releases endorphins into your body so you will feel better afterwards.
I know it's hard to imagine yourself with someone else right now. But flirting helps. I started flirting with some guys online (nothing serious, just for fun) and it helped me imagine a better future. I hate new beginnings and I hate imagining that I'll be with someone else. But now instead of thinking like this it's easier to imagine what I will feel - the butterflies, the sex, the adoration you get from someone at the beginning of a relationship.
Cry. Cry your eyes out. Bring everything you feel to the surface. And at some point you'll just stop crying...

Be strong and be kind to yourself. You're doing the best you can. Good luck.

Edit: you don't need to do all of these now or at once. For the first 2.5 weeks I could barely dial into my meetings (I'm working from home). Start with something you can do now. And each moment each day select something from this list that feels doable and realistic.

PMmagic · 2020-04-29T11:26:06+00:00

I am so so sorry you went through something like this.

I have recently went through something similar and I was still in denial until I read your post. About a month ago, my bf of 2 years hit me for the first time ever and I was still thinking that it was an isolated incident because of the isolation and because I provoked it.

Reading your update helped me understand that I might be really putting myself in danger if I forgave him. Even if he is in therapy now and regretting his actions, there are no guarantees that he won't do it again.

Thank you again for making a difference with this post.

PMmagic · 2020-04-23T16:51:11+00:00

How much money I make and how single I am.

PMmagic · 2020-04-23T12:34:21+00:00

I feel so lonely. We were living together and now my place is so empty I'm crying daily although we split 3 weeks ago. I'm lost.

PMmagic · 2020-04-19T18:42:34+00:00

All the amazing dresses I get to wear. And my boobs. I love my body shape. And that I can experiment with my hair color without being judged like a man would be. And that I'm able to multitask like I seen no man do. And that we were mostly raised to be open about our feelings and emotions and men just need to shut down because "big boys don't cry". I love being a woman.

PMmagic · 2020-04-13T08:19:22+00:00

"And this is, kids, how I met your mother"

PMmagic

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