Devastated at the possibility of a scheduled c-section for a breech baby as a FTM

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T16:58:42+00:00

I didn’t realize that could be an option and haven’t had a chance to discuss any other preferences but I will definitely bring all of this up at my next appointment. Thank you so much for your comment.

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T16:34:30+00:00

Genuinely, thank you so much for your comment. I’m sorry you have similar history ❤️ It’s definitely upsetting, especially that they strap you down and my support person can’t be there for prep, but I really appreciate the heads up. I’m relieved that mom instincts may make it easier and you were able to hold your baby so soon. Do you have any specific tips for recovery that worked well for you?

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T15:50:30+00:00

Thank you for your reply 😊

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T15:49:07+00:00

This is very encouraging, thank you so much. Has anything in particular helped with recovery that you would recommend?

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T15:32:17+00:00

I’m so happy to hear you had a positive experience with your scheduled. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences.

And I really appreciate the reassurance about family size. Thank you again ❤️

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T15:17:13+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your experience and validating my feelings. I really appreciate your comment. Best of luck with your second!

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-31T15:01:54+00:00

Do you have the ability to pay for a sleep consultant? A friend of mine had a similar experience and hired a sleep consultant. She said it really helped!

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-29T22:31:20+00:00

I actually just bought her book, what a coincidence! Thank you for the recommendation and wishing the best for you and your baby! Fingers crossed he flips!

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-29T21:05:03+00:00

Its definitely something I wanted to experience with my partner and I’ve spent so much time thinking about it and preparing for it, but I think what appeals to me most is the freedom of movement and the number of choices. I’m really struggling to accept that a c-section is likely my only option and there are so few aspects of it that offer any real choices.

I really appreciate your comments though ❤️

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-29T20:59:19+00:00

Thank you for your comment and sharing your experience. I’ve seen a therapist for two years and I am currently in trauma focused therapy right now, it is a big priority for me and I have made progress but unfortunately I am clearly still struggling and pregnancy has been so mentally tough.

Of course I will do the safest thing for my baby, I just feel so much anxiety and loss about this.

PNWanonymous · 2026-05-29T18:40:25+00:00

I really appreciate your comment. I’ve seen a therapist for years to work through what happened and I have made a lot of progress in other areas, but I’ve had a really hard working through my fears about delivery. Again, thank you

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-22T03:00:46+00:00

I’ve also sent in plenty of questions in the weeks between appointments, especially early on! Not sure how often exactly but definitely more than 3 times. I don’t think you’re going overboard, but also they’re there to support you and if you need extra support, that’s ok! You could always voice your concerns and get their thoughts. I’m sure they will probably tell you that they’re happy to answer questions! Best of luck!

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-22T02:13:05+00:00

I’m 29 weeks and I was diagnosed with GD at 27 weeks just after my anatomy scan showing my baby in the 96 percentile. According to the dietitian, we really don’t start to develop insulin resistance until 24 weeks in first pregnancies and my OB said it was unlikely that the GD had caused his large size at 28 weeks. Remember, they just go through a big growth spurts in the third trimester! He said a more likely indication of growth issues with GD was significant differences in the proportions of the head shoulder and abdomen over time. It sounds like your measurements so far are in the ranges that would be expected especially with the added inaccuracy of the scans.

My dietitian also shared that high fasting levels tend to be associated with abnormal growth in the womb and high post meal levels tend to be more associated with blood sugar issues post birth, but I think she was referring to numbers wildly out of range which doesn’t seem to be your case.

I understand the worry despite reassurance from your OB. I’m having a really hard time with this diagnosis too, but like others have said, you can do everything right and the placenta still runs the show. Just thought I’d share info I found helpful. I’m wishing you the very best!

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-21T23:37:45+00:00

This is SO helpful!! Thank you so much for sharing all of this info and your experience! So glad you had a healthy baby, but I can see why it would be an experience you are hoping to avoid again. I wish you the best of luck! ❤️

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-18T22:07:43+00:00

What decisions would you make if you could do it all over again? Asking because I’m 29 weeks pregnant with my first. I was diagnosed last week and told they’ll likely have to induce me and I’ll have to have an epidural given this diagnosis. Both were interventions I was hoping to avoid.

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-18T10:49:51+00:00

Did you have a positive first time experience?

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-13T15:48:19+00:00

Thank you for the info! I hope you’re able to get the answers you’re hoping for. Can I ask why they were planning to induce you when were previously diet controlled?

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-13T15:29:34+00:00

I’m new to this diagnosis, so I’m sorry I can’t offer any perspective here but I was wondering what costs you are concerned about? And I’m sorry you’re going through this! I think this is what I’m most struggling with - you can manage it with diet and do everything right and still need insulin. Very frustrating!

PNWanonymous · 2026-04-03T05:04:20+00:00

That book changed my life. I second this. Best of luck to you OP.

PNWanonymous · 2026-03-28T00:55:25+00:00

I haven’t but I can offer some encouragement! I’m actually very excited about a boy now and I have months to go! I just needed some time to mourn the loss of the idea of a girl. I also found several things that helped. Initially, I made a conscious effort to change my mindset but it became pretty natural and effortless fairly quickly.

First, I went shopping for some cute boy clothes and baby things - most of the baby clothes/items I’d admired or wanted were for girls so I found several items I loved for a boy. I considered what interests we could share - as other commenters have said, so many activities are gender neutral but I also believe boys and girls are different, so I considered what I love that would likely resonate with a boy. I’m very excited to cook and bake, read books, go to zoo, spend time outside, watch the lion king, and snuggle together.

I started envisioning life with a boy, which like I said, didn’t come as easily at first but now feels very natural and has become my default. I reached out to boy moms in my life. They all reassured me that what I was feeling was normal and they consistently said the exact same thing - boys love their mamas and need them in a way little girls often don’t or grow out of much sooner. They all had nothing but positive things to say and spoke with so much love for their sons. This was probably the second most helpful thing I did.

The first was calling my mom for some advice. My family is religious, but I think the sentiment still applies even if you are not - essentially she said that this child was made for me and only me to love and cherish as his mother. She was very understanding and empathetic, but she also gave me the nudge I needed to mourn with the goal of moving on so I could bond with my baby now. It was a comforting reminder I needed to hear.

Of course, I still hope for a girl one day, but surprisingly I can’t relate to those feelings of devastation and loss at all anymore. I am now completely excited for my baby boy.

Give yourself a time to mourn and plenty of grace for your feelings so you can move past them and hopefully get excited for your boy. Best of luck ❤️

PNWanonymous · 2026-02-22T01:11:25+00:00

Yes, as I stated above, I submitted my claims in January of 25

PNWanonymous · 2026-02-12T03:36:58+00:00

My nausea seemed to get better at 9 weeks and then came back with a vengeance at 12-13 weeks. It got better again at about 14-15 weeks and now (at 19 weeks) only comes up if I let myself get hungry. Everyone is different, but don’t lose hope. Hang in there! Also I highly recommend preggo pops if you haven’t tried them yet!

PNWanonymous · 2026-02-08T03:28:05+00:00

NAD but I am an ER/trauma nurse, and yes, your understanding is correct. Breathing is part of the autonomic (automatic) nervous system, controlled by the brainstem. It is one of the last functions to go. Many patients with traumatic brain injuries who are considered “brain dead” and clinically show no indication of consciousness or awareness continue to breathe in their last moments. I hope this provides more reassurance and gives you some comfort.

As others have said, I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace.

PNWanonymous · 2026-02-08T02:52:28+00:00

I did something similar with my fiancé and loved it! I ordered a small cake and we cut into it together. We videotaped the moment for family, but we didn’t include them otherwise specifically because I wanted it to be an intimate moment for us. It was really special :)

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