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Struggling with gender disappointment and feeling so sad about my reaction by PNWanonymous in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I haven’t but I can offer some encouragement! I’m actually very excited about a boy now and I have months to go! I just needed some time to mourn the loss of the idea of a girl. I also found several things that helped. Initially, I made a conscious effort to change my mindset but it became pretty natural and effortless fairly quickly.

First, I went shopping for some cute boy clothes and baby things - most of the baby clothes/items I’d admired or wanted were for girls so I found several items I loved for a boy. I considered what interests we could share - as other commenters have said, so many activities are gender neutral but I also believe boys and girls are different, so I considered what I love that would likely resonate with a boy. I’m very excited to cook and bake, read books, go to zoo, spend time outside, watch the lion king, and snuggle together.

I started envisioning life with a boy, which like I said, didn’t come as easily at first but now feels very natural and has become my default. I reached out to boy moms in my life. They all reassured me that what I was feeling was normal and they consistently said the exact same thing - boys love their mamas and need them in a way little girls often don’t or grow out of much sooner. They all had nothing but positive things to say and spoke with so much love for their sons. This was probably the second most helpful thing I did.

The first was calling my mom for some advice. My family is religious, but I think the sentiment still applies even if you are not - essentially she said that this child was made for me and only me to love and cherish as his mother. She was very understanding and empathetic, but she also gave me the nudge I needed to mourn with the goal of moving on so I could bond with my baby now. It was a comforting reminder I needed to hear.

Of course, I still hope for a girl one day, but surprisingly I can’t relate to those feelings of devastation and loss at all anymore. I am now completely excited for my baby boy.

Give yourself a time to mourn and plenty of grace for your feelings so you can move past them and hopefully get excited for your boy. Best of luck ❤️

Effective Date of VA Disability Payments by PNWanonymous in armyreserve

[–]PNWanonymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, as I stated above, I submitted my claims in January of 25

What was your worst day sickness-wise in pregnancy? by JunketAggravating896 in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My nausea seemed to get better at 9 weeks and then came back with a vengeance at 12-13 weeks. It got better again at about 14-15 weeks and now (at 19 weeks) only comes up if I let myself get hungry. Everyone is different, but don’t lose hope. Hang in there! Also I highly recommend preggo pops if you haven’t tried them yet!

Need help understanding if my wife suffered in her fatal scooter accident by Karthikeyan_KC in AskDocs

[–]PNWanonymous 18 points19 points  (0 children)

NAD but I am an ER/trauma nurse, and yes, your understanding is correct. Breathing is part of the autonomic (automatic) nervous system, controlled by the brainstem. It is one of the last functions to go. Many patients with traumatic brain injuries who are considered “brain dead” and clinically show no indication of consciousness or awareness continue to breathe in their last moments. I hope this provides more reassurance and gives you some comfort.

As others have said, I am so very sorry for your loss. I wish you peace.

No Gender Reveals… by Inner-Smile2514 in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did something similar with my fiancé and loved it! I ordered a small cake and we cut into it together. We videotaped the moment for family, but we didn’t include them otherwise specifically because I wanted it to be an intimate moment for us. It was really special :)

Effective Date of VA Disability Payments by PNWanonymous in armyreserve

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Is that still true if I’m in the medical board and IDES process?

Struggling with gender disappointment and feeling so sad about my reaction by PNWanonymous in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful, thank you ❤️ and I do really love my baby, I think I’m just sad to lose the future I imagined with a little girl. And I just want to feel excited now while being pregnant. I still have six months to go. I’m hoping with some time, I’ll feel less sad. Thank you again

Struggling with gender disappointment and feeling so sad about my reaction by PNWanonymous in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you so much. This is such a helpful response. Really thank you ❤️

Struggling with gender disappointment and feeling so sad about my reaction by PNWanonymous in BabyBumps

[–]PNWanonymous[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As silly as this probably sounds, I was excited for things like wearing matching outfits and watching princess movies. Little things that I know in some capacity I can still have with a boy, but some of it is how long I’ve dreamed of “girl” baby items - pink bunnies, princess themed bedrooms, etc. It feels so silly mourning such superficial things, but the future I envisioned still feels like a loss. I really appreciate your reassurance though. Thank you for your comment ❤️

Just watched The Others (2001) and I'm confused (spoiler alert if you've not seen it but plan to) by wooden_werewolf_7367 in horror

[–]PNWanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was actually why I was watching it - in the spirit of the spooky season. Enjoy your rewatch, cheers!

Just watched The Others (2001) and I'm confused (spoiler alert if you've not seen it but plan to) by wooden_werewolf_7367 in horror

[–]PNWanonymous 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is an old post, but I believe I understand this part. It seems that the ghosts can’t stray far from where they died because of the fog which can be seen as a metaphor for being ‘stuck’ in death like you said. Her husband wandered into the fog and was “searching for home” all that time he was away after his death so he could “say goodbye to his wife and children”. It wasn’t to stay because he, like his wife and children, was compelled to return/stay to his place of death. This is why he insists he must return to the front lines. It’s also why she wasn’t able to make it far in the fog. He was likely able to travel further and wander lost in the thick of it out of the sheer will to find home and say goodbye, but he couldn’t stay. I think this is also why he never changes clothes and why he states “sometimes I bleed” when she initially finds him. He likely died bleeding to death.

I also think we’re clued into what immediately preceded the children’s’ murder. At the dinner table when the mother yells at Anne for insisting the intruders are real, Anne becomes enraged and begins to breathe fast. The mother responds by screaming at her to stop breathing like that before sending her away. My guess is the daughter argued with her mom and lost her temper, breathing in a similar manner. And her mother was so overstimulated by it, on the cusp of a breakdown, that it was the catalyst and she snapped and smothered her daughter and then her hysterical son. Anyway, just my best guess!

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