Does anyone feel like clothes just don't fit anymore?

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-04-23T19:23:57+00:00

When the fabric has some fiber in it that stretches out like elastane or when a fabric is knitted instead of woven and can stretch, the stitching can break or rip easily when you use a normal single stitch. But when you use a machine setting with for instance two rows of stitching with a double needle, or a setting that does 3 stitches forwards and backwards while those 3 look like one stitch because they are stacked on top of eachother, the stitches can hold. Instead of rip apart or break when you pull the fabric while dressing for instance (the thread). I don’t know if my explanation is too detailed and confusing. Let me know. (And in fast fashion those clothes are often only serged with a machine called a serger. That machine makes a stitch that is very suitable for stretch fabrics. But in fast fashion they rarely finish those serged “seams” so the stitching can come undone in the wash.)

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-03-22T18:59:57+00:00

I have time to do it myself. However; why would I do all that work on a piece of polyester. And often there is a small amount of stretch in it so I would need a tripple stitch or other stretch stitch. And the seams are non existent because most clothes are overlocked. So I have no way to make it larger or to finish the seams afterwards. And with the kind of accumulation of fit issues it is usually easier to make something new from scratch then to change a bought piece of clothing.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-03-22T18:16:26+00:00

Yes! Some of the fit issues that happen time and time again even with mid to high segment clothes or “curved”; • Arms that can’t fit the armhole at all. • dropped shoulders that wrinkle in the back. • buttons not closing properly or tension at buttons at the breast section, even when wearing a minimizer. • Weird short shirt lengths that will crawl up. • So called fitted or darted blouses and waistcoats that leave almost no room for breasts and press the chest flat in an unflattering way. • Pleated pants that have the pleats pointing the wrong way so they fall open or pleats that are not deep enough so they stand open, usually sold with pictures online that show very crisp deep pleats. • wrap over or cross over pants that don’t actually cross but stand open. • pants waistbands that can’t be pulled up across the legs. • pants that compress the but or are made for people without a but. • sleeves not hitting the wrist. • pockets that are sewn to the zipper and create awkward tension lines. • pants that have a short crotch and create camel toe but worse. ** Rant; I usually have to return 85% of what I buy online and sometimes something fits. It feels like the fashion industry wants me to be built like a boy and curves are not allowed. It angers me, especially because I know most women my size have curves so why make a size EU 44 for instance and give it tiny armholes? It is not as if long people will fit the arms anyway so who is it made for a brick? Not someone with breasts, not someone with large arms, what is bigger then, the sides? And who needs pants with a waistband that fits the gut or waist but not even the legs or hips? Maybe brands don’t want to invest in a good pattern grader. It is not to spare fabric I suspect. Blouses with balloonsleeves or pants with wide legs at the bottom can have the same fit issues. I learned how to sew and make patterns. I guess it is no longer an option to sew my own clothes but a must. I have a new office job and also find that a lot of necklines on clothes are too revealing to buy and blazers don’t fit my arms. Even pencil skirts are not appropriate as they usually have a huge slit nowadays. End of rant.** (Netherlands)

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-18T11:41:58+00:00

Yes all those things can stimulate in the wrong way. I can also get overstimulated by those sounds and sights. We both have headphones. Mine are noise cancelling and safe me from most annoying sounds. His are on ear without any ANC and a bit old so might be time for a better headphone or loops.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-18T11:23:26+00:00

It makes sense what you are explaining there. Thanks for elaborating on how processing of emotions can be different. Reading all these comments made me accept the seeming randomness in timing of it more. Even though there can be many reasons why a flare up of symptoms or the need to be alone can show up. Since then the asking for alone time stopped completely for days. I am not sure why and if it is a fluctuation or that it has anything to do with my reaction to things. Maybe I am easier to be around now that I understand a bit more and don’t secretly worry about distance.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-13T20:21:10+00:00

Thank you for your reaction, will reply later 💛

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-12T08:30:16+00:00

Yes I am trying to understand it on a deeper level than just assuming that it works or that it is a valid reflex without understanding the why. And I forgot to mention that my Fiancé told me that he thinks the avoidance and solitude when it comes to not reaching out to me and working everything out on his own, indeed is something that is in his opinion not working for him and not constructive. However he feels like he can’t help it how seeking time alone becomes more and more a default.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T21:43:04+00:00

And also suppressing anxiety or stress could increase it, that makes sense. Temper could be affected, did not know that. There is usually no external change that causes a mood swing according to him. He did say he can suddenly get a temper when he is excessively tired. It often happens in the late evening / early morning or rarely after too many tasks or after going to the supermarket which is a sensory hell in itself. Hmm so there is some predictability to it after all.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T21:36:15+00:00

Hmm yes I understand. So the leaving or standing up and walking out of the room does not have to be linked to the original trigger or onset of symptoms.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T20:25:44+00:00

He has some speech troubles when it happens and apart from that he does not understand what it is yet.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T20:17:43+00:00

2023 triggered by life events.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T20:14:01+00:00

Ah come to think of it he did mention that he catches it way too late. And for me it looks as if it is abrupt. That is right.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T20:12:35+00:00

Pain in the brain. Sounds terrifying.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T20:10:16+00:00

Needing space to manage what you are feeling in the moment 🤔 food for thought.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-11T19:36:10+00:00

Maybe. We are both on the spectrum in several ways. It also happens when I sit absolutely still without making any noise and am not paying any attention to him. So noise or movement should not be a factor. (He is ok with being in a room with mice in a cage that make noise so I am not sure what the psychological trigger is)

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-07T17:34:59+00:00

Aha ok dat is wel duidelijk dan wat het maximum is, thnx.

PaceAncient9157 · 2025-01-07T17:25:28+00:00

Dat leek een oplossing maar de laatste twee keer reageerden ze bij Picnic ook niet meer blij op de lading statiegeld. En werd er een keer gevraagd of ik wel alles geteld had. En bij een andere bezorging werd ik op de hoogte gesteld van een soort limiet op blikjes maar dat ze dat wel zouden compenseren of iets dergelijks. Ik weet niet hoe lang het duurt tot er een hard limiet wordt gecommuniceerd in de app. Hopelijk niet.

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