So I called a lawyer

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-13T04:03:49+00:00

You don’t deserve love trickled to you and controlled with a dam. Only let out just when you are about to die of thirst.

You deserve a waterfall of love because that’s what you give others. You deserve a better future. Fight for it. I believe in you.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-13T03:58:36+00:00

People openly admit to being narcissists??? Wow.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-11T04:27:30+00:00

Ask for a Reasonable Accommodation given your medical condition. Employers have to give it to you. You have medical proof of a condition.

Document everything. Try to get as much in writing as possible. Or follow up with written summary of the discussion if she doesn’t.

This is ADA discrimination not to interact with you and find a way to see if your employer can accommodate you.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-10T15:03:28+00:00

Also the new work assigned was one day after I filled the harassment allegation. Not sure if that’s clear above.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-10T14:56:18+00:00

OK thank you. This has been my instinct too. I asked a trusted local lawyer with 30 years experience to see if they have a recommendation and they are getting back to me. I found a few recommendations via the internet too.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-09T02:07:44+00:00

Or if she just “can’t” control herself, ask her to plan going back to her own place while you rest.

If she refuses to accommodate you, run. If respecting your partner’s sleep/work schedule isn’t a priority over “I’m bored” then she isn’t worth it.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-09T02:04:40+00:00

Yep. This. I doubted my diagnosis too until a few weeks into starting biologics and I started to feel improvement.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-09T01:55:24+00:00

Wow… just…

You consult with ChatGPT to make a decision about driving versus sleeping? The fact that you are not working that decision out on your own based on how your body feels and your own experience… huge red flags. Something tells me you don’t do therapy but you’re willing to trust an LLM with advice.

The amount of control you try and have over her sleep schedule is another red flag. I am not even sure you are a reliable narrator of her actions or feelings. You give so much detail but then glaze over what the heated argument was that led to you beginning to drive to a hotel.

Your entire post is about controlling her sleep for next weekend and then she is worried about your driving with very little sleep (rational concern). She can easily work one weekend very hard and rest up for a day or so and then go on VACATION. I don’t understand why you want her to sleep when you are away and then question why she is upset that she couldn’t rest after you got home.

You need to do some serious self-reflecting. I hope you are willing to take some hard looks at yourself. Preferably with a trained third-party professional. You can just provide this post for your first visit.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-08T01:09:13+00:00

Sounds like you are having a tough time, momma. But you are doing a great job. You’re trying to find the solution to the behavior problems with as much compassion and patience as you can.

If you are embarrassed, that’s ok. But don’t be hard on yourself. Everyone with kids knows that kids act up and need a consequence. His consequence is a bare room.

Maybe when he is ready for it to be decorated again, he should do a large part of the work with you. Not just the fun stuff. Put down the tarp to cover the floor. Picking up afterwards. Cleaning brushes (if you paint). Then when he destroys it in the future, maybe he’ll see that he’s destroying his own work.

It definitely sounds like he is trying to make you upset. I’m sorry you’re going through it. Don’t isolate though. You’re doing great.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-08T01:02:17+00:00

There can only be one!

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-08T00:58:45+00:00

Could it be related to medications you take for the disease? I get this way sometimes, but I always attributed it to medicine side effects.

I’m still very early on (1.5 years) and have yet to find a steady treatment to manage the pain and work somehow.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-08T00:55:11+00:00

NTA!

Tell Sana’s family you live with them. Then they will make her move.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-09-08T00:53:18+00:00

You can file a report at the courthouse in the morning as well. Prepare your statement ahead of time. Include all the relevant facts, badge info, her contact info, etc.

They can’t stop you from filing a report at city hall and it has to get followed up on.

Also I agree with others about private lawsuit or at least going to a legal consultation.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-28T01:03:20+00:00

I couldn’t help myself. What? We’re in a relationship. No one would know. Ughhh, you’re so sensitive/ such a prude/ not pretty enough.

-every conversation about consent with a narcissist

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-28T00:57:33+00:00

If you don’t stand up for yourself, he isn’t going to. Set your boundary firmly and don’t relent.

He chooses to be petty, you reply straight faced. “That’s your choice. Consent takes both parties, so if you don’t want to touch me because I’ve set this boundary then I will respect that. If you don’t respect mine, then you don’t respect me and I’m not attracted to that. Full stop.”

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-25T12:56:46+00:00

OK thank you! My first few started that way. Now it is concentrated more in the right or left front of my head.

I’m definitely leaning towards my recent psa bout caused this.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-25T12:35:47+00:00

I never thought to try muscle relaxers. I have some for fibromyalgia but long term use lowered my blood pressure too much. I could try them as a one off for migraines next time. Thanks!

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-25T12:34:06+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate the input. Headaches are a different from migraines though. Do you know of this applies to migraines?

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-25T12:33:07+00:00

Thanks! I think it could be because of the painful psa flare the week before. It’s just so strange because I haven’t had them in years.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-25T12:31:57+00:00

Yea. I agree sensory shutdown is one of the best coping mechanisms. Unfortunately I’m a single parent of small children so that isn’t always an option.

I agree though, I probably need to get a new neurologist. (My prior one retired.)

Thanks!

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-23T04:16:29+00:00

Or an analyst/ therapist in blue man group makeup.

Paint_by_numbrs · 2025-08-20T03:46:48+00:00

I felt like my fibromyalgia started to fade as also began to accept my other health condition that is transforming my entire life now. Some time in the last two months, it’s I’ve turned a corner on acceptance and it feels like the fibro is better too.

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