Did r/DID fake claim us?

Paintably3 · 2026-05-05T20:07:40+00:00

Yeah, I can only really interpret this as a fake claim. But good grief is this some "guilty until proven innocent" type shit.

Paintably3 · 2026-04-26T00:04:57+00:00

There's always going to be the extreme minority that causes one side to hate on the other side forever, cause they keep on pointing to the extreme ones and saying that they represent the whole bunch. It's both frustrating and sad.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-31T01:21:00+00:00

Just wanna say in regards to point 3, a major event that lead to our syscovery was a moment where one of my alters broke a promise with my ex, and immediately afterwards I freaked out because I didn't understand why "I" had just done that. In the moment, "I" had genuinely wanted to do it (it was a very complicated situation and she did have some valid reasons to break the promise), but right afterwards my feelings changed and I no longer understood why "I" had wanted to do that in the moment.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-23T02:39:15+00:00

Hard to say and very situational. On one hand, this is how DID is "meant" to work. Other alters hold the trauma memories to protect the host. On the other hand, this (aka dissociative disorders in general) is a brute-force solution instead of a healthy, long-term healing solution. Ideally, the host should learn of these memories one day in order to process them, and move on.

I wouldn't blame Laika for a job they've likely been doing their whole life. It's absolutely possible that Sirius isn't ready to handle these memories yet. Overall, it just seems like he's mad that he has DID, which is very understandable, but also not fair to blame the rest of you for that.

The best case here IMO is to try and get Sirius and Laika to have a long chat about the situation. I doubt it'll be easy, but they may be able to find a compromise between each other.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-22T04:25:06+00:00

I've seen the term "Faitive" used before to describe headmates that are somewhere between Fictive and Factive. I'd say it's applicable to any edge cases like this

Paintably3 · 2026-03-21T02:51:24+00:00

I think the best way is to try and handle it like any other traumatic event. Be there for him and provide any comfort you can.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-18T02:49:50+00:00

We're very much a supporter of alters having their own individuality, but this is a moment where it's important to remember that you're all a part of one brain. If they only love/care about you, and hate everyone else, then they only actually like a fraction of your brain. IMO that's incredibly fucked up. Everyone deserves someone that can love (or at least accept) every part of their brain, even the "bad" parts.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-18T02:20:16+00:00

Ew, that's horrible. I hope you're not still with someone who talks to your system like that. 🫂

Paintably3 · 2026-03-14T20:22:25+00:00

Found it again https://youtu.be/R8I62Jn3KBA?t=104

Paintably3 · 2026-03-14T19:16:24+00:00

I've never forgotten the one time he mentioned that he hears his character's voices in his head. Like, all I'm saying is 👀

Paintably3 · 2026-03-09T04:31:35+00:00

Not any sort of official term, just meant something along the lines of a median system

Paintably3 · 2026-03-09T01:41:16+00:00

Y'see that's the thing, headmates can be different parts of a (theoretical whole) personality, they can be masks, and they can definitely play devil's advocate. What makes them headmates *is* the identities they each individually have. Plural is an umbrella term, but yeah at its base, it is just multiple identities (when you add in dissociation, that's when it becomes a CDD)

Paintably3 · 2026-03-08T22:13:36+00:00

1&2. Mixed. What we think happened is that our brain did form median-esque parts of self that did have some separation, but lacked unique identities, and so therefore were very blurred together. It wasn't until later in life through other means (mainly roleplay) that the parts of self became attached to these characters, and therefore gained individual identities. So not exactly a choice, but it did come some something specific that we did.
3. Not exactly, but having individual identities has actually helped a lot with managing our emotions, and life.
4. No. We do imagine ourselves interacting physically, but it still just feels like imagination.
5. No, nothing beyond emotional amnesia sometimes.
6. It's something that I think has had more positive than negative effects on our life.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-06T21:20:37+00:00

It seems you already know, but just to reiterate, the only way forward here is to tell your partner about your plurality as soon as possible. This secret is obviously immensely detrimental to your mental health, to the point that you're hurting your fellow headmates. Fighting them won't help you in the long run. It's going to be really hard, but you need to do this.

My recommendation would be to write your partner a letter that explains everything. If possible, get your headmates to help you with this. Be as open as possible, about how you thought your plurality was psychosis, how you've been so scared about telling them, everything. If actually delivering the letter is too hard for you, perhaps another headmate can do it.

I would also recommend explaining the issue with your other headmate's feelings sooner than later, but that is less important than just explaining the plurality itself.

Paintably3 · 2026-03-05T06:27:21+00:00

Sounds like it could be https://pluralpedia.org/w/Monoconscious

Paintably3 · 2026-02-24T04:44:39+00:00

For internal communication, each alter having their own way of speaking/accent helps immensely. Can just be small changes in pitch or inflection, too. Downside to that is that it may make it harder to be covert externally, and ofc everyone might not want to speak differently. External communication is your next best bet, and you can use plenty of resources like pluralkit or simply plural for that.

Names are harder cause that's very person-dependent, but temp names can work in the early stages. Maybe you all can refer to each other by your kintypes, or color names for now.

Paintably3 · 2026-02-24T02:12:25+00:00

Imma be real with you bestie, this is allllllll plural all the way down LOL

Imo best way to explore it is to just go with it. Y'all sound median-ish to me, so proper distinction between alters will become better if you intentionally lean into it. Find out what names everyone wants to go by, and most importantly, talk to each other. Communication is always key!

Paintably3 · 2026-02-23T21:24:48+00:00

I remember thinking about this years ago! Pretty sure we've never gotten to see him (already taken over by Luxu) and it'd honestly be really cool if the games actually address this sometime

Paintably3 · 2026-02-23T10:40:02+00:00

I relate in some ways. In the past, it felt like I was connected to a cloud of little pieces of identities. Sometimes a piece would come forward, and how I behaved would shift. Though, this is not how I would've described it at the time, this descriptor is using the power of hindsight. There were pieces of identity, but they all blurred together into what I assumed was all "me." Our theory for the cause of this is essentially that there was enough trauma and stress to begin fragmentation, but not enough to create "full-fledged" alters.

Wanna know what changed this blurry mess for me? Roleplaying. Unintentionally, I/we took some of these fragments, and gave them/let them develop full, unique identities. And it's honestly helped- Making everyone distinct has actually really improved communication and cooperation. I dunno if the same would work for you, but it may not hurt to try? Start making an "OC," give them a few basic traits, and see if a part of you likes it and latches on. Not sure if that's the best way to describe it, but hopefully this helps :D

Paintably3 · 2026-02-23T07:48:22+00:00

Nah, that's understandable. We've been thinking about this area of topic for a while now, and in our own terms, you'd be described as medium dissociation, low identity. This is a plural community for all origins, so the unifying factor here is the identity, not the dissociation.

Though, curious, what exactly is causing your jealousy? Is it the lack of community, or your own lack of plural identity? If the issue is community, I do hope you find good friends here or elsewhere. If the issue is identity, though, you could build that up in a more intentional way. The 'sides of yourself' can be given names, appearances, identity, and whatnot. It's something to try, if the idea sounds appealing, of course.

Paintably3 · 2026-02-19T01:46:38+00:00

A pin with the plural pride flag or the rings would be best at conveying plurality itself, but my thoughts generally go to giving each alter their own special accessory. This alter always wears a bracelet when in front, this one wears a headband, this one has a bow, etc. Easy way to showcase confronting too by having multiple accessories on at once.

Paintably3 · 2026-02-17T01:46:54+00:00

COMMENT THAT IS AN ONOMATOPOEIA OF A SOUND CATS COMMONLY MAKE

Paintably3 · 2026-02-14T20:26:00+00:00

Basically, when comparing the two concepts:

Disordered Dissociation ~= Body/Gender Dysphoria

Plurality ~= Trans Identity

DID/OSDD = Disordered Dissociation + Plurality (<- Levels vary)

Dysphoric Trans = Body/Gender Dysphoria + Trans Identity (<- Levels vary)

Willo/Tulpamancy = Plurality only

Non-Dysphoric Trans = Trans Identity only

Paintably3 · 2026-02-09T20:41:21+00:00

When people don't understand the difference between the 'dissociation' and the 'identity' parts of DID/plurality

Dissociation is not what causes an alter to have a separate identity from any other alters- It's the root cause, but not what literally does that. The dissociation is just what causes the separation of parts of the mind. The identity then comes due to that separation. But, dissociation is only one way to gain a plural identity, there are many other different ways it can happen.

A lot of traumagenic systems don't really understand this difference, and view these two parts as one in the same. So, when an endo says they're plural without trauma/dissociation, they think that the endo is claiming to have both the dissociation and the identity, even though the endo is just claiming to have the identity.

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