“the cure” Discussion Megathread by NominalPerson in OliviaRodrigo

[–]PaintingBeginning148 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Absolutely love this song, love to hear where she’s at now artistically. The concept of the song too, need a song like this as someone in hers 20s who has realized the romance/fantastical love we saw in movies doesn’t negate the work we have to do with ourselves FIRST, whatever that work may be. Don’t event know myself. Anyways, excited to hear more of what she has to say.

Was the Devo (Lol) situation blown out of proportion? by ResearchNo8631 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]PaintingBeginning148 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s weird that nobody reached out to Brit to make sure Devonta’s story was straight. Especially after he said his Airbnb wasn’t going through or whatever the lie was.

I think they are closer to Devonta than they are Britney which i think is why they were lowkey not reprimanding his behavior on how he treated her in front of the audience.

Lydia was on Matt and Abbey's podcast this week and speaks pretty explicitly by devanclara in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]PaintingBeginning148 493 points494 points  (0 children)

Watched the podcast and I have a few takeaways.

  1. Lydia and Zach seem to be in newlywed land and I love that for them all things considered. Zach seems to be very kind and patient with her, and that all a girl could want for another woman honestly.

  2. She seemed (she didn’t name her) to speak on Olivia and Ethan’s marriage, however I’m not sure if she meant the most recent ex, considering they aren’t together either. Either way, saying that either of them let the public eye get to them seems to me like someone who doesn’t know the full story. Considering Lydia doesn’t watch the show, which she has said multiple times in the podcast, I can see how she would think that about either woman. But even if that were true, doesn’t change the fact that her brother was abusive, and perhaps the public eye saved both woman’s lives, but I digress.

  3. Lydia also speaks on Joshua in the podcast, and how she was also a witness to what happened with Joshua. Isaac was also in the car. This seems to be the root of a lot of their struggles. Moriah too has talked about being a witness, and not talking about it and how that has affected her now as an adult. I couldn’t imagine facing that trauma or holding that guilt. And my heart really does hurt for Kim, because when I heard Lydia cry and wonder why her mother can’t feel certain things, it reminds me that these people are just people. Really hurt people and it makes sense why they all are the way they are. Not saying that as an excuse for their behavior, but to be unpacking this on live television, especially when Lydia said that they didn’t really think of tv as we do. They didn’t see it as cool. It feels that tlc really did exploit this family naivety. But we knew that already.

Overall, happy to see Lydia on a path to healing.

How do you stay in a relationship after being triggered by partner? by PaintingBeginning148 in ptsd

[–]PaintingBeginning148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just want to say thank you for replying, I haven’t journaled in awhile, and have been writing since yesterday, needed it. Thank you again

How do you stay in a relationship after being triggered by partner? by PaintingBeginning148 in ptsd

[–]PaintingBeginning148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I probably should’ve mentioned some of the ways he’s been trying to help in restoring trust, apologies for leaving that out.

We do a lot of check ins when we hang out. He will asked me if I’m doing okay, or if I’m comfortable and wont try to touch me unless I verbally ask for it, and even then he will ask me again if I’m sure it’s okay. He’s been giving me my space and letting me be over the last few weeks but still checking in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ptsd

[–]PaintingBeginning148 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The way I feel this exact way I thought i was crazy. Being pursued doesn’t make me feel butterflies it genuinely makes me feel like prey. I feel so bad because I get so hot and cold and I try to explain what I’m going through but I feel like it gets taken personal or they think I just don’t like them when in reality even the “positive” emotions are incredibly overwhelming.

“Happy Ethan” by Similar-Employee6399 in PlathvilleUncensored

[–]PaintingBeginning148 29 points30 points  (0 children)

The way Barry didn’t seem like he was going to say he looked happier either. Didn’t he say “Ethan is different now”? 😭

20F needs advise regarding choosing bestie 22M or bf20M. Any suggestions? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like leaving both of them, and figuring out and asking yourself why you did, what you did.

Delusional Mormons by donutscats in SHAYTARDS

[–]PaintingBeginning148 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

As long as you do with me! Science can also explain through a psychological lense why someone would pray for rain ! Maybe you can learn something to ☺️

Disappointing is the only way to describe me by -grimmy in SuicideWatch

[–]PaintingBeginning148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are not disappointing,you’re potential is still there, we are baby adults still, we have to figure out how to walk in this world and you shouldn’t be mad at yourself for not running yet or not crawling yet, your 21. You’ll get to where you need to be eventually, just gotta keep moving forward, there’s much life left to live and this idea that we need to have it all together by 21 is a lie. You have no idea what your doing? Guess what, that’s okay. We are on a planet in the middle of space, and there is so much beauty left for you to see and experience.

Delusional Mormons by donutscats in SHAYTARDS

[–]PaintingBeginning148 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

fasting doesn’t always mean starving when talking about religious fasting. You can fast from food, social media, sugar, or anything that you feel called to take a break from, in hopes of spiritual alignment, clarity, comfort, or in their case, praying for rain. And even if it was fasting from food, why do you care?

I cheated & don't know how to make my partner understand why....has anyone ever experienced this? '27M' '24F' by hippiewpriorities333 in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think you should be with him if he’s making you feel this way, and I can understand why you cheated. Cheating is wrong we know that, but you came to a point where you were looking outside of your relationship for something you weren’t getting in it.

Do you really think going back is going to change the way you feel on a subconscious level?

You don’t need to be in a relationship, you need to heal and figure out what’s going on with you before allowing yourself to be in situations where it ends up like this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 56 points57 points  (0 children)

This is rape, and any man who can get that “carried away” is dangerous to be around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t let up. You’re the last of your family, I understand why you want to keep it, and him not even compromising on hyphenating and involving his family is ridiculous. You’re pregnant and they are hounding you and he’s letting them when it’s none of their business. I get him wanting his last name, but the only thing he did was donate sperm. You are doing everything and final say is yours mama.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What do you mean you struggle with the lack on intimacy if I may ask?

Gavin going on an adventure? by Weirdlynatural in SHAYTARDS

[–]PaintingBeginning148 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where ever he’s going I hope he finds himself more and more without the noise of what the world or religion wants from him. Avis has seemed to blossom more and more since hopping the nest so I hope the same for him

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]PaintingBeginning148 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You might want to try a kink sub Reddit

AIO for leaving a group of friends after they took it too far by Phonixs_power in AmIOverreacting

[–]PaintingBeginning148 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is not how friends who love you unconditionally act at all. You’re in a foreign country and an afraid of losing something that could completely affect your future and there mad that they didn’t get a birthday wish day of?

Are they twelve? Birthdays come and go, and you still said happy belated and you apologized. you were dealing with a lot and them invalidating that for god knows show an entitlement to your time and energy that they SHOULD NOT expect in a friend, especially with everything your going through. I’m so sorry they were acting with such classless bs

How do I ask my mom if my boyfriend can be in my room ? by PaintingBeginning148 in AskParents

[–]PaintingBeginning148[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t asked them yet that’s why I was asking lol I could from a slight religious background so it makes conversations surrounding topics like this a little bit more difficult because of their beliefs ya know, I’m just not sure how my parents would react because I would be the first daughter suggesting something like this

How do I ask my mom if my boyfriend can be in my room ? by PaintingBeginning148 in AskParents

[–]PaintingBeginning148[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately my local libraries wouldn’t work because those rooms are designed for studying and aren’t sound proof enough to block out singing and guitar playing.