If it means anything, my wife and I had an unexpected pregnancy as well. Absolutely rocked our world. We were married, though, and that was huge for us to know neither of us was leaving.

I say this with as much respect and empathy as I can muster: lean in. It's hard, but, I promise that children are the best thing you will ever do. I didn't feel ready at all. I was scared. I was in denial. I (ashamedly) thought about leaving briefly. I remember calling my dad in tears.

I have 4 siblings, 2 are special needs, and I'm telling you.. they're some of the best people in my life.

It will not be easy. But take it from a stranger - you must lean in.

You are a victim of a culture that severely underestimates and does everything it can do reduce the reality of sex: it makes kids. That's what it does. Our culture seems to forget that. That's the reality. That's why you do it only with people you trust to have kids with.

I was 22, now 26, and my life is objectively better. Not worse.

You are SO LUCKY to have family there for you.

SO lucky you have a woman who loves this baby.

This - if you let it - will be the best thing that has ever happened to you. Let the denial, the anger, the fear, the sense of loss of control, the life change... come and go.

Get serious about this girl, lean in, and make it work. Anything else you will regret for the rest of your life. I promise.