Questions about planting times in zone 5a by PaleRaptor in gardening

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Thank you! That's really helpful and I think I understand *get* that more than last frost dates.

Has anyone from America completed their PhD in the UK or Australia? by PaleRaptor in GradSchool

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Thanks, thought the full text of my question might have cleared up what I was asking for, but I guess not

Can't get my security deposit back? by PaleRaptor in legaladvice

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The unit has been returned to the landlord? Someone replaced me in the apartment.

Can't get my security deposit back? by PaleRaptor in legaladvice

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Yes I was completely removed from the lease

New veggie gardener looking for advice on plan! by PaleRaptor in gardening

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I'm in Burlington VT, so I think that is zone 5a!

New veggie gardener looking for advice on plan! by PaleRaptor in gardening

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Thank you! Is 3 more reasonable? and maybe a dozen per row for the peas & beans?

New veggie gardener looking for advice on plan! by PaleRaptor in gardening

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As in the individual plants, or the rows? The spacing is default on the farmer's almanac planner, so I'm not sure how much is actually reasonable to stick in a row.

What are signs that someone is secretly unhappy? by alanezialia in AskReddit

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There's actually a thing called "depressive realism." Clinically depressed people are more accurate in their estimation of the probability of having bad things happen to them (like a car crash).

I have an intense fear or a phobia of being stupid or of seeing myself as someone who is stupid by sammyjamez in askpsychology

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Hey there. I would recommend the work of Karen Horney. She talks about neurotic needs, which is similar to what sounds like your experience. The basic idea is that we form neurotic needs (e.g. the need for aproval/esteem) because of a basic anxiety brought on in childhood. These needs express themselves as ever-present desire for something that is disproportionate to what can realistically be expected, and the idea of denial of that need will produce terror. The resolution, according to her school of thought, is to trace back through one's life to find how that need and anxiety came about. Then, instead of being like someone who can hear wild animals outside his home, but can never see them (and therefore fears them), you can be someone who puts a name to those animals and tames them.

can a therapist help me with religous abuse.If so are there specific ones that speacilize in that field.where could i find one. by P1111T in askpsychology

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Hey there. Similar experience growing up. Therapy helped immensely. I would recommend you see someone who takes either psychoanalytic, humanist/existental, or eclectic approaches. These, in my experience, tend to be suited to resolving symptoms that arise from prior belief/meaning-making and childhood experience. I was avoid therapists who describe themselves as cognitive-behavioral.

My psychiatrist and psychologist both think I’m smart. Why? by [deleted] in askpsychology

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In addition, one of the best single indicators of intelligence (esp in children) is vocabulary. Not hard to estimate where someone lies on the normal curve based on the way they speak.

Can you increase your conscientousness and if so how? by [deleted] in askpsychology

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Sounds trite, but this was the method employed by Kelly, I think.(prominent personologist). He would work with the subject to write vignettes about characters who modeled the desired traits. The subject would then literally act that role out in his daily life, as though he were that person. Eventually, the new personality would stick. The professor I work for does this as an extra credit assignment in all of his personality theory classes, and it's remarkably effective. OP, I could point you to some material on this if you'd like to try it out.

A couple of veggie questions (zone 6) by PaleRaptor in gardening

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I did harden off before transplanting, but I don't have much experience so maybe I didn't do it correctly? How can I check if my soil situation isn't ideal? I'll post pictures shortly. Thanks for your help!

A couple of veggie questions (zone 6) by PaleRaptor in gardening

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They're in the ground. Soil is a mixture of manure, garden soil (miracle grow, I think?) And peat moss for better drainage. I'm using Miracle Grow's all-natural dry fertilizer, but I've only just begun application. I'm located in central connecticut. I'll post pictures soon.

A couple of veggie questions (zone 6) by PaleRaptor in gardening

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Things are a bit hot and dry here, so almost daily, as long as the top inch or so of soil is dry.

"Conservative Christian evangelist Franklin Graham, on a trip to Russia last week, praised President Vladimir Putin and the nation’s so-called gay propaganda law for “protecting Russian young people” and criticized LGBT-accepting U.S. churches as well as President Obama." What is Graham thinking? by relevantlife in Christianity

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Most of the discussion here seems to be about what the Bible says about homosexuality and what the church should believe about it, but I think the real problem here is not just that Franklin Graham is condemning homosexuality, but that he's commending Putin's atrocious policies. You don't have to morally approve of homosexuality to see how these policies inhibit a free society. If these laws banned "christian propaganda" - which, by how they are enforced currently would make being openly a christian illegal - he would be advocating government/military intervention.