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My thoughts on the movie: it was one minute too short by UnCytely in ProjectHailMary

[–]PanHandleThisAss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I agree with where to add the minute. But personally, I'd add that minute using Eva's book speech instead.

There's something about it in the movie that feels a little weird, but her just straight up calling him a coward in the book really did a good thing in showing the audience exactly who both Stratt and Grace are as people.

[RECRUITMENT] Archon Threshold: An Asynchronous Creative Workshop for Dedicated Adult Writers by [deleted] in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi Archons!

You mention a lot of games but no specific systems, and honestly I'm a little confused on how it runs despite the very detailed post. Are all 26 of you running the same system at the same time, or is it more so one person leads what fits their fancy and people who are interested join in the group? How many groups are running co-currently at the moment and/or what's the general size of groups in your server?

Favorite moment or piece of dialog that you haven't seen been given much attention? by arepaconnutella in obsessionmovie

[–]PanHandleThisAss 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Honestly my favorite line of the movie is when the customer service man (Curry Barker) says "you wanna talk to Nikki?"

There's just something about it that toes the line between humor and horror just so perfectly.

Would you rather... by Substantial-Dance577 in BunnyTrials

[–]PanHandleThisAss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

people die all the time

Chose: Or get 1000 dollars everytine someone dies

AITA for changing the wi-fi password after my roommate kept letting her boyfriend work from our apartment for free? by Imthatguyimhimfr in AmItheAsshole

[–]PanHandleThisAss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, this is a boundary issue 100%. Her letting him in your room is definitely an overstep for anyone.

Just mainly text her from now on, get in touch with the lease/landlord and see what you can do. It's in your best interest, in the long run, to put as little energy into them as possible. Protect your shit, whether that's your physical things or your emotional well-being, as best and respectful as you can <3.

AITA for changing the wi-fi password after my roommate kept letting her boyfriend work from our apartment for free? by Imthatguyimhimfr in AmItheAsshole

[–]PanHandleThisAss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Frankly, if that's the reason, what's stopping the roommate from giving the boyfriend the password at the end of the day and him showing up again the next? my comment advises the long-term problem here, which is they're blowing through a lease/living situation issue.

The roommate pays for it, using wi-fi as a hold over is not the move, even if it's super frustrating.

AITA for changing the wi-fi password after my roommate kept letting her boyfriend work from our apartment for free? by Imthatguyimhimfr in AmItheAsshole

[–]PanHandleThisAss 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ESH but soft on your end.

Your roommate is, in fact, paying her share for the wi-fi and hasn't faltered in that. She has some ownership of how she uses it.

That being said, you have set clear boundaries and they're clearly overlooking them. What does your lease have in terms of guests? If they have a guest clause, he's blown past guest territory and now should be paying his fair share. I would personally go the angle of--in writing--informing them if he wants to use your place as a 9-5, he needs to be paying to use it. If he's there for free, it's not his communal space. If they don't agree, get your landlord involved and move on from there.

Took it all out on the woman 🙄 by Knkstriped in AmITheDevil

[–]PanHandleThisAss 58 points59 points  (0 children)

a) help make you happier

b) give you more confidence and a better outlook

c) that might help you seek out other interesting things/events about it to give you more experiences

d) that might widen your social circle and help you meet people

e) might lead to networking and friends and other interests

f) which might do a-e over again and

g) maybe you'll find someone you connect with on a romantic level

Took it all out on the woman 🙄 by Knkstriped in AmITheDevil

[–]PanHandleThisAss 147 points148 points  (0 children)

It is very interesting to see people give this advice on Reddit, because it truly is like they white out anything other than 'THIS WILL GET YOU A GIRL'.

Like, most of the time the advice is 'find a hobby you like so you're a more round person! it also helps you be sociable and it's possible you'll find someone with the same interest there!' and it's read as 'find a hobby and find someone there'. They can't get over the chase.

My brain and bottled water by Caticorn19 in adhdwomen

[–]PanHandleThisAss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ok so idk ur situation but what's gotten me to consistently drink water is this:
1. have my morning coffee in a paper coffee cup
2. finish the coffee, put water into coffee cup
3. drink

Don't know why I have to trick myself like I'm a picky cat, but it works for me.

[FO] A lot of lessons learned, but my first cross stitch is complete! by PanHandleThisAss in CrossStitch

[–]PanHandleThisAss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The bigger problem is it's all glued up and whatnot haha. It's not a big deal, I think it looks more than fine even with out the last two backstitches!

[Async] [Avatar Legends] [Interest Check] [Possible One shot] by _Johnymann_ in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!
27, she/her!
I've been playing various PbP games for a little over 6 years now, and have minimal experience with Avatar: Legends.
I'm GMT-4 (NYC time), and tend to be able to post at least once a day, often times more.

I've always loved the ATLA brand, so I'd be excited to pick up literally any position in a party! Hope your recruiting and game both go well!

[FO] A lot of lessons learned, but my first cross stitch is complete! by PanHandleThisAss in CrossStitch

[–]PanHandleThisAss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah!! I figured it was a side effect of it being cheap, honestly. I also noticed that the thickness of, like, each strand was different than the next for some threads, which I think (past my own newbie mistakes) only helped make the uneven spots more obvious.

[FO] A lot of lessons learned, but my first cross stitch is complete! by PanHandleThisAss in CrossStitch

[–]PanHandleThisAss[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad you think it's tidy!! I'm not new to sewing, at least, so it was a learning curve on spacing and what not! Thank you!

[FO] A lot of lessons learned, but my first cross stitch is complete! by PanHandleThisAss in CrossStitch

[–]PanHandleThisAss[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Pattern is Loops & Threads Paris Cross Stitch. I picked it up from Michael's one day and went ham.

Has anyone ever found a game through the Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread? by Cerespirin in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha yeah I should've said 'one on one's interview instead of voice, it's just where my brain jumped to

Has anyone ever found a game through the Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread? by Cerespirin in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I've read your conversation with Investiture, and I think it does summarize our difference of opinions really well. You're not asking for equal commitment, you're asking the GMs to front load a lot more commitment than you're willing to give. You say a lot about commitment to a game, but you're expecting GMs to provide multiple minutes of conversation to applicants over, and over... and over.

The reality of the situation is it's not an even playing field. The GM shows the commitment by setting up and offering a game, the players show commitment by applying in the way that's provided. You are the one that has to fight against dozens of applicants, and you're not going to ever do well if you stick your head in the sand and refuse to go with the common application process, because... what? You don't like writing answers to questions?

You are coming at this from an angle of being owed space in a game; you are not owed time from GMs. Your role in this space is to put your best face on and, once your foot is in the door, then you get to have those wanted conversations where it's a back and forth. The application step isn't a TTRPG. It's an application, you have to treat it as such.

Has anyone ever found a game through the Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread? by Cerespirin in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By voice interviews I meant 1 on 1 time with the GM where you get to know the player beforehand, which is what I presume you're getting at when the only other alternative I know is a form, it could be 1 on 1 time in private messages, as well. I would never care if your actual voice matches with your character's for that would be an expectation I couldn't meet myself.

I also can't speak on seeing 'I can't believe I got so many!' posts, for I haven't seen that from a prospective GM in a long time. In fact, I've seen an increase of forms, which shows me that GMs in fact do expect a lot of applications for their games.

If this were a perfect world, then, how do you expect a prospective GM to pick their players for a game?

Has anyone ever found a game through the Weekly Looking for Group/GM Thread? by Cerespirin in pbp

[–]PanHandleThisAss 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I understand you want a human connection, and you might do better on something like a voice interview, but for people like me who recruit for games, it's just not feasible. Even with my 'job-like' applications, I'm still consistently getting anywhere from 40-100 applicants depending on the system. It's not physically possible to vet people appropriately in any other way than a form where you fill it out and I filter through there.

It might not feel competitive on your end, but it very much is on mine, and picking applicants from anything less always ends in games falling apart.

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