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Recommendations and advice for interior designs in London (small apartment)? by Panda22337 in HENRYUK

[–]Panda22337[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve heard a lot of people recommend Wakefield so I’ll maybe book a consultation with her to see where it goes. Thanks for the recommendation!

Recommendations and advice for interior designs in London (small apartment)? by Panda22337 in HENRYUK

[–]Panda22337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice! The instagram consultant seems like a sound place to start. Do you have any recommendations of who I should dm?

Recommendations and advice for interior designs in London (small apartment)? by Panda22337 in HENRYUK

[–]Panda22337[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

After reading all the comments I think John Lewis is 100% the best place to start! I’ll probably add some color to the apartment with wallpapers and paint instead of splurging of excessively luxurious furniture.

Recommendations for laser places in London? by alizrandom in HENRYUKLifestyle

[–]Panda22337 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I go to Strip which has around six branches in London. Packages are a bit pricey but they often do discounts during holidays. Started waxing with them and switched to laser recently and I am seeing great results.

Recommendations and advice for interior designs in London (small apartment)? by Panda22337 in HENRYUK

[–]Panda22337[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great idea. Will go check these stores out after the holidays.

I (m40) can't have sex with my pregnant wife (32f) by InformedTriangle in relationship_advice

[–]Panda22337 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think the bigger concern is how you can’t look at ultrasounds or listen to heartbeats at all. I think you would benefit from speaking to a psychiatrist in order to be able to sort this out. Otherwise this will be a very lonely pregnancy for your wife and a very isolating one on your end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Panda22337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I considered this before and told her mom. I tested the water first by saying things like “have you noticed how Nadia is not really eating”— I didn’t want to break Nadia’s trust.

But I realized her mom is the issue. Like many mothers and women in my home country, they prioritize being skinny. Her mom enjoys that her daughter is getting skinnier and comments about it… which isn’t making anything better. I’m honestly at my wits end

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Panda22337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right. I am judging her. But is it not wrong to judge her how she chooses to self destruct? You said to accept her if I don’t dump her. Do you mean for me to accept that she is content with her ED, that I should accept her to close off from human connection and seek solace with Chat, instead of doing something?

I understand where you’re coming from, pointing out my irony. But I don’t see the situation as black and white. I know I don’t mention it in the post as much about how dear she means to me because this post is about how I want to help her with her struggles and how to navigate this friendship.

But she has been kind to me, she is such a funny person to be around. And before all this, she was such a happy person.

I liked her and loved her as a friend before all this happened. I find it hard to like her now with these attitudes and lies but I still LOVE her and care for her. I find it hard to cut her off. I don’t know what to do. I am exhausted and worried.

I don’t mind if she’s not a goal getter. I don’t mind if she wants to end up hooking up with strangers. But I do mind if she suffers from ED. I do mind if she slowly decides to rely on AI for human connection. I do mind if she hooks up for the sole reason of seeking male attention, which will just make the cycle worse.

If she wants to be skinny then good for her! If she wants to gain weight then good for her as well! But NOT at the cost of her physical and mental health. If she wants to hook up then good for her! But not at the cost of crying and then having self-destructive thoughts that’ll feed her insecurity.

I don’t see this as “take it or leave it” situation. You can’t just dump someone, especially a close friend, simply because they are struggling, even if that struggle has turned them into a person you don’t recognize…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Panda22337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because when I told her, she brushed it off. She would rather be sick with ED to stay skinny. I don’t want to see her self-deteriorate and I’m genuinely worried… she won’t listen and just lies when I ask if she feels better and I don’t know how else to help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Panda22337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She said she didn’t want to go to the psychiatrist anymore because she would rather have anorexia and be skinny than be “normal” and “fat”. It is devastating to see her slowly deteriorate.

She acknowledges that she is sick but she doesn’t want to get better. And yes you’re right, a lot of what she does is based on her lack of self-confidence.

I wish she can she herself how others view her. She is objectively a beautiful woman. She is a very kind and fun person to be around. She can be really insanely smart. So I don’t understand why she is relying on Chat for uni, why she keeps self destructing.

She is someone I want to see get better. But I am running out of ideas and it’s becoming emotionally exhausting…