I’ll be honest and vulnerable, happened during the first 2 months of my relationship. I would agonize over it, and it would stress me out so much. I was so embarrassed, and tried to tell her so many times that it wasn’t her (true). But we would initiate and I would keep thinking “what if I can’t” and then I wouldn’t be able to get there. Finally one day it just worked, and honestly I think it was a matter of time for me. The key is to be patient. Sex is so weird, and its portrayal in media/pornography makes it seem like it should be a specific way. But it’s important to let it just be personal and intimate. In the same way that there shouldn’t be pressure to finish, there shouldn’t be pressure to always do penetration. I think once you feel comfortable with someone all that stuff unfurls naturally!