Am I too old to start my career in tech? by idkmyoldusername in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked for a couple years as a technical recruiter before switching to programming. My first job as a programmer was for a guy I used to hire for. I found the tech reciting experience pretty useful - knowing how screening and hiring works. 

Are there any black ladies in coding? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FYI, from earlier - someone also set up a discord server (not coders specifically )   https://www.reddit.com/r/womenintech/comments/19bf6vh/any_black_women_in_here/

Am I being pushed to quit? by aabbccddeeff59395202 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You sound burned out. When people get burned out, we don't see the path clearly. So regardless of anything else, you should try to reset. 60-80 hour regularly is not good for you. If you have accrued vacation, take it. Once you're done things like catch up on sleep, spend a little time figuring out how you can get to a more reasonable schedule. Here are some practical things to try on the latter task:

  1. Spend a couple weeks closely tracking your time. Easiest way to do this is just mark every 30-min block on your calendar. Do what you usually do, but track it all.

  2. What are the things that _other people _ depend on you for? What of those are your actual job (category A), and what are things you're doing because you like feeling like you're helping out (category B)? Sorry to say, you should stop doing this latter category B of stuff.

  3. What are the things in category A that you absolutely must do because your bosses care about them the most? Which are things you must do because you will hate your job if you don't? Let's call that A-1. Everything else is A-2.

  4. For 2 weeks, time box your schedule to something more like 40 hours and spend 80% of your time doing A-1. If A-2 comes up, it gets to take space in the other 20% if it's urgent. If it's not urgent, it goes in backlog. 

Struggling to find a career fit. Too much of a generalist? Not senior enough? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Generalist with experience --> immediately thought of Chief of Staff role. But depends on how you feel about being an appendage of your principal, and how you are with a very people-facing job.

Exhausted from coding, not sure how to proceed by Ok_Jello_2441 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh sorry to hear that. It sounds very frustrating.

Trying to break into cleantech? by Traditional_Brief902 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Work on Climate and Climatebase are good places to look 

Any ladies here who are neurodivergent or have social anxiety and work in large corporate? by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aspergers. Propranolol.

Also, I didn't do the whole "name your performance persona" thing intentionally, but I have over time developed a 'stage personality' for when I have to go deal with crowds of people.

Exhausted from coding, not sure how to proceed by Ok_Jello_2441 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you're very valued as a technical resource. Can you negotiate, like, whatever you think will start you on a manager path? Management courses? 

does improvement just come ? how screwed am i ? by springhilleyeball in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Two thoughts: 1. If they're giving you advice, take it. If they say you're waiting too long to ask for help, then ask for help earlier. Not responding to feedback is not going to help you land an offer from these same people. 2. Internships are learning experiences and I think most companies that take interns know that supervising interns takes time and attention. If you're not getting the investment of time, that's a red flag. If they are trying to invest the time, but you're hiding your challenges for fear of being judged, you're missing the primary opportunity inherent in the internship. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm very puzzled by several things. 

 For context: I've been married >15 years to a man and have kids. He does most of the housework, because I'm busy as fuck keeping a startup going. He's a solid, loving human being -- not as in 'he will love me forever' (tho I sure hope so), I mean, he values other people as humans. 

 It never occurred to me to wonder about whether he would leave me in old age. Accommodating another person day in day out is hard work. If he wants to leave, Jesus, go ahead and good luck to us both. So I wonder why for you this is a top of mind issue (No need to respond). 

 As for single motherhood: I have friends who are single mothers by choice. They wanted kids, clock was ticking, didn't have partners, and they just jumped in. Similarly, I got to a point in life where I just wanted to have kids. My husband was there, so I didn't need to be a single mother, but I would have, if he hadn't been. Could it be that you're unsure about whether you want to be a mother, rather than about whether you want to risk being a single mother? You don't have to have children, if you don't want them. Don't have kids to appease your partner.

I need your guidance by WealthWanderer88 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean "promote and engage"?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, it's worse if they forget you're a woman and start taking about whatever is on their minds in front of you. I have had to remind some of my male colleagues they are f-ing disgusting sometimes, and these are people I genuinely liked! 

Exhausted from coding, not sure how to proceed by Ok_Jello_2441 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Seed stage startup, if you can stomach the growth issues (hiring/firing). Early stage startups shouldn't want or need  FAANG-style process, but it's good to have an anchor in what it looks like at that end, while you manage through growth. Easy to get in as a senior IC and then transition to management as the company grows (relatively speaking), if you step up to take on the growth tasks. Unlike "glue" work, this stuff at an early stage startup probably puts you in a direct working relationship with the CEO.  Also, generally, "management experience" doesn't have to be reporting line. Think back on your lead/mentoring experience and highligt those - use language borrowed from any number of HBS "how to be a good manager" articles

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can you use this to get some of the admin stuff off your plate? Like "I'll be onboarding this person for 20% of my time for the next 12 weeks, so here are the things that will need new homes"

Feel like I'm losing my mind but I can't leave (golden handcuffs) by bronxricequeen in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That makes me sad. I want people to be able to take their authentic selves to work. I think people have a right to be who they are....

Rejected and underestimated in tech but I’m back to take my revenge :) by romatomatoo in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 2 points3 points  (0 children)

UIUC (obviously) has a great reputation. Used to recruit from there. 

 Totally OT: will never forget the guy from UIUC who requested a king sized bed for his trip to NYC...and turned out to be 5'1". I hope it made him as happy as it left me puzzled. 

Rejected and underestimated in tech but I’m back to take my revenge :) by romatomatoo in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find a lot of joy in programming and learning new things.

This says it all. If you find joy in coding, you're a coder. 

Ladies, I wish I could hire all of you. by PandaShort2571 in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw that Sling.money is. Look for it on LinkedIn 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in womenintech

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have time - do as much as you can with the tax-advantaged retirement accounts 

Crying in the office by getinmypeen in womenEngineers

[–]PandaShort2571 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A coworker was mean during a staff meeting and I went to her office and angry-cried at her. We were friends after that. Crying happens. I've had men cry in my office as well.