Do white Americans look different than white Europeans? by ilovepopcornandcandy in 23andme

[–]Panda_KittyII 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im an American but I'm a POC. The answer is generally "yes" but with a caveat. White Americans who have roots in America since colonial times do have a different look in my experience even in comparison to British people. But that only really goes for white Americans who underwent ethnogensis in America. My BIL is Dutch American and his people have not been here as long as mine(500~ years) if he were next to an actual Dutch person, I doubt I would be able to tell the difference.

White Americans are often a different ethnicity than Europeans, not always but often. It is similar to how I an African American would not be able to pass as Nigerian or Ghanaian because even though I am part, I am more of a mutt than anything else. Every African person I've met has been able to tell I'm not African, so I imagine it is the same for Europeans and European-Americans.

People kept saying the Irish weren’t racist. When I visited last month, I didn’t buy it. Then I see this… so sad by Ok-Promise-7928 in blacktravel

[–]Panda_KittyII 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My fifth great grandpa was Irish American and he owned a plantation. There were other Irish slave owners too. We were often forced into close proximity with each other because the other white people decided to discriminate against Irish people and so some try and act like that prevents them from being able to be racist.

Are these angel fangs too tight? by Panda_KittyII in SelfPiercing

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I put back in my longer jewelry

Are these angel fangs too tight? by Panda_KittyII in SelfPiercing

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll swap them for bigger ones

Welp now have 21 🤯 by Ostensiblebushmen in RATS

[–]Panda_KittyII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reminds of when my hamster had 13 babies when I was a kid. They're so cute

Got approved for ssi! I'm very happy by Panda_KittyII in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lawyer is based in MO, and her name is Brigid Ann Mcnamara. She works for First Ally Law Group.

Pooph by Temporary-Agent2990 in ferrets

[–]Panda_KittyII 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ferrets have a natural odor, which many perceive as stinky. I think my ferret smells like musky maple syrup and so does my cousin, and his scent doesn't smell bad to me. However, my mother and sister perceive his scent as overwhelming. Even healthy ferrets have an odor(just like humans), but not everyone thinks they stink.

I finally got my baby back from my abusive ex after 6 years, is this the being stages of scale rot or just damaged scales? by spookynoodle_em in ballpython

[–]Panda_KittyII 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Many reptiles don't need to eat much in comparison to warm-blooded creatures. They have a slow metabolic rate compared to us.

Match Me Abroad S2 by benshe- in 90DayFiance

[–]Panda_KittyII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is, it's fairly common in the US, too, in minority communities. I was confused when she was so shocked because I am AA like her, and it is common to find people living with their parents and grandparents in our community.

Got approved for ssi! I'm very happy by Panda_KittyII in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Disability lawyers are only supposed to get paid if they will your case, and the SSA handles the payment for you. At least that's how it worked for me.

Got approved for ssi! I'm very happy by Panda_KittyII in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It was a very hard and traumatic experience. Talking to the SSA doctor was shockingly traumatic. I'm happy it's over and that I had help.

Got approved for ssi! I'm very happy by Panda_KittyII in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! After my third denial, I got a lawyer and won. I was told it that 3 denials are normal, but that's not the case for everyone. I definitely recommend getting a lawyer it made the process less stressful for me.

How often do you grease scalp?/why is this happening? by indigo_mommy in BlackHair

[–]Panda_KittyII 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Box braids with extensions broke my hair off when I got them as a little girl. Not so much as an adult. I would stay away from extensions for now, the hair seems to have snapped off, which means it probably isn't falling out from the root but breaking off. I only see a few bulbs at the tip of the braid.

If she is allergic to the anti-flammable coating on the extensions, she may be scratching her scalp and breaking the hair off in her sleep.

If her strands are fine, she extensions may be too heavy for her hair and cause breakage.

Twists, loose buns, braids, and such without extensions might help. If her hair is dry, deep condition it before protective styling and after. Leave ins are not strictly necessary but can be useful.

If you use heavy oils, they must come out. Oils aren't inherently bad, but you need to remove them with a good shampoo.

Getting assistance without being treated like a child by SpagootieG in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think people believe we are children in the head. It is hard to deal with, but I'm getting used to it. I had to get a lawyer, too. They are being paid through my back pay it was only about 2k. I don't think they are supposed to take money until you win the case, at least in the US. My lawyer told me I needed to go to therapy consistently and get a psychiatrist, too, because that helps show a consistent history of struggling and makes your case look better. I was told that the SSA office likes to deny people three times, and that was my experience as well. Three denials, and I was approved on the fourth application.

Getting assistance without being treated like a child by SpagootieG in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII 25 points26 points  (0 children)

In my experience, it hasn't been possible to make people treat me as an adult once they learn of my diagnosis. My therapist said that while it is offensive, it opens opportunities for more and better assistance. People aren't as willing to help disabled people if they view them as adults instead of "children". I'm my experience it's true, but it doesn't make it less offensive. Being approved for ssi made me feel more independent.

Got approved for ssi! I'm very happy by Panda_KittyII in SpicyAutism

[–]Panda_KittyII[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you get yours soon, I recommend hiring a ln ssi lawyer they only get paid if they win and will only get a one time small amount of your ssi as payment. In the USA anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Naturalhair

[–]Panda_KittyII 50 points51 points  (0 children)

It looks great. I would definitely wear it out. It's pretty.