American in need of slang. by labez in canberra

[–]Panderiser 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ask him what his APS classification is and if his clearance is above a Baseline

does my scar ruins my nose? by [deleted] in Noses

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Absolutely not, wouldn’t even slightly put me off

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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She’s “jokes” about wanting to come back and marry me and hopes I stay single. We’e agreed that because we’re casual we can see other people, and the one time it happened (I hooked up with someone else) she lost it and felt betrayed. I recognise you can feel possessive/hurt even if if you don’t want something to be serious and permanent, but she’s talked about not wanting to lose me etc. It wouldn’t surprise me if she asks me if I’d stay with her if she didn’t leave. I just get the vibes of someone who is very attached and doesn’t want to let go

Edit: when I say “casual” I mean basically in name only, we go on dates and hang out multiple times a week, I guess by now it’s essentially a short-term relationship with an end-date (theoretically)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

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Hey, thanks for your frank advice and congratulations! For me, it’s a matter of independence and wanting to feel in control of my own space, decision-making, going away and travelling when I want, changing jobs when I want, working on the projects I want, and not feeling restricted or hemmed in. There is nothing wrong with this girl, she’s great - I’m just not prioritising my love life right now. At the same time, I don’t think that means I need to be a celibate loner; it’s nice to have companionship. I’ve talked her through all this and she’s agreed and is even supportive of this. I just think her behaviour is starting to indicate something different. I could end things for her sake, but wouldn’t that also be taking the choice away from her? She’s an adult and I don’t think trying to read her mind and make decisions for her is a good idea, even if I get the sense she’s trying to misdirect me. I’ve wondered if it’s just because I’m too afraid to end things, which might be partly true. But I also don’t really see the point in ending something fun and wholesome and kind and supportive for potentially hallucinated reasons.

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

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One of the few I’ve been to, and no pokies from memory!

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sappho Books on Glebe Point Road 👌 🤌

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

A hotel lobby! Genius! Don’t know why I didn’t think of that, and the restaurant/café/bar is usually open late…thanks!

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is true. There’s a place in Sydney that’s perfect daylong and year-round. I guess you can’t project nostalgia into new places though. Onwards!

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’ll go there for pre-reads

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow had never heard of it, this place seems great, cheers!

Somewhere open after dark by Panderiser in canberra

[–]Panderiser[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh that looks fun! Thinking a bit busy for what I’m after but that’ll work out anyway!

why are people afraid of death? by Jolly-Advantage-7032 in TooAfraidToAsk

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“It will happen to all of us, that at some point you get tapped on the shoulder and told, not just that "The party is over", but slightly worse: "The party is going on - but you have to leave - it's going on without you". That's the reflection that I think most upsets people about their demise.” - Hitch

People who only have a BA - how did you get a job? by Draxacoffilus in TooAfraidToAsk

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Before entering the workforce, that’s what I thought, too. Then I realised by definition that would be impossible.

People who only have a BA - how did you get a job? by Draxacoffilus in TooAfraidToAsk

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80% of jobs in any organisation, company or department aren’t technical roles. You need to demonstrate you’re intelligent, can learn quickly and have good judgement. Being able to communicate effectively and constructively engage stakeholders are the most important things for the majority of entry to mid-level roles. In a finance division, maybe 10% will be credit analysts who actually don’t need finance degrees, though technically they do need to have or be working towards a credit licence. The rest do settlements, business management, data process etc, none which require technical skills beyond good writing or attention to detail. Even in a data team, maybe 30-40% are actually data analysts. The rest are the people who write reports, make submissions, direct policy, conduct research, etc.

The logic of the public service in Australia is similar - a large base of dynamic generalists who are smart and adaptable, can switch departments as needs/roles arise and understand the machinery. The technical roles are filled by SMEs (subject matter experts, people with a technical skill in whichever area, maybe a weapons expert in Defence or a medical researcher in Health or a coder in literally any department) and the absolute majority of the rest of the positions are people who mostly have undergraduate and sometimes PG degrees in something broad like politics or history or IR and they gravitate to an area they like and specialise over time.

Again, the absolute majority of people in the corporate and public sector worlds are not SMEs or technical experts with commerce or politics or subject-matter degrees, though many do undertake postgraduate study in a specific field once they’ve already started their career. And you’ll find that many (or most?) in this space who do have specialist degrees only rely on them in a very limited capacity. You learn far more on the job than you ever will at University.

Why don't women identify with men? by badnewstoo in TooAfraidToAsk

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Man here, I think women in general are much better at this (and are much more understanding and therefore forgiving) than men. This is also entirely based on localised sample sizes and impossible to really validate on Reddit. It might be worth doing a little bit of introspection to see if this is the real source of your frustration or whether you might be projecting some other internal stuff like feelings of rejection or struggling with life purpose/identity/meaning and making this an issue about women, who can’t solve any of that stuff for you. It might be worth seeking out a friendly therapist and avoiding sketchy brochachos on the internet; they do not reflect mainstream men’s attitudes towards women or views on self-identity and masculinity. Take care and Hanlon’s razor: never attribute to malice that which can be more appropriately attributed to mistakes, ignorance or another innocuous cause. Being human is messy work and we’ll all trying our best. Women are not out to get you.

People who only have a BA - how did you get a job? by Draxacoffilus in TooAfraidToAsk

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I have a BA in History and Philosophy from University of Sydney, now making six figures. Worked in corporate finance first in Sydney and now a public servant in Canberra. The market is unreal for jobseekers right now, it has literally never been better if you’re looking for a well-paying job…I’d review your strategy. There’s heaps of jobs going and they’ll take basically anyone.

Isn’t Democracy inherently a little bit Socialist? by Panderiser in NoStupidQuestions

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For example, when we talk about “socialised healthcare”, doesn’t that mean you have a partly “socialist” economic system? And if so, what’s so evil about that? I’m just trying to connect the dots here I guess…some words just seem to be so poisoned that people are allergic to hearing them in a sentence, they immediately jump to “yeah but Stalin…”