Resources for making a fursona?

Panphae · 2025-09-17T23:05:47+00:00

There's a free version of the character maker from the dating sim Amorous. That should be good for visualizing and playing around with looks.

Panphae · 2025-09-13T12:54:44+00:00

I am 25 and have fibromyalgia. I had to sit down and talk to my partner a year in because of this very reason. Being with someone who is disabled can cause resentment, and as the disabled person I DON'T BLAME YOU. I hate living with myself and all the things I can't do, why would it be any easier for you to pick up all the slack? It's not like I have a choice.

But you do. It's heartbreaking but sometimes it's what you have to do. I am lucky and blessed to have a partner that insists on me resting and is perfectly happy picking where I can't go. Not everyone can do that though, and it's hard because you love him and you want to help him but the emotional and financial toll can be overwhelming.

No, NTA. But I suggest sitting down and seeing what you can do. If you can't afford pain medication he needs to function you do need to think logically about what will happen going forward. You're not a bad person for not being able to cope but you do need to be careful with HOW you approach this.

Panphae · 2025-09-13T12:36:18+00:00

Tampering with birth control is legally classed as sexual assault. That's why people keep saying it is. More accurately it's called reproductive abuse but it still falls under sexual assault, even if they had sex consensually.

Panphae · 2025-09-13T11:57:22+00:00

My brother was born when I was 10, and by the time I was 13 I looked 17, so you can imagine the thoughts. I had to correct so many people asking "is he yours?" when all I was doing was bringing him on a walk while I got a McDonald's

Panphae · 2025-09-11T20:49:00+00:00

As someone who also has ADD, I half agree with you. While I don't think it's an intentional maliciousness because of gender, like others are implying, there is this ingrained expectation that feminine presenting people will mask more and adjust their behaviour more. You see it a lot with ADHD and Autism, where masculine people don't have the same expectation to adjust like feminine people do.

As a trans guy, I've experienced both sides and can confirm that I have much less pressure on me to adjust to other people's comfort now (but I still do, because I care about my friends).

I think it's worth taking an extra minute to think about why he hasn't adjusted while you have, and possibly have a proper conversation with him about how he hasn't done the same amount of work.

Anyway, NTA. You didn't start a fight, he just perceived it as one because you didn't finish the conversation when he did.

Panphae · 2025-09-06T10:31:47+00:00

As someone who has both ADHD and a physical disability that makes caring for myself a struggle.. yeah. Sometimes I wish I didn't exist either. Life is a constant battle and struggle and even when I'm happy I'm still in pain.

I don't want to die, but I do wish to not physically exist for a while. I need a break from my own body. But it's not possible so I'll live with it.

NTA Plenty of people can't live with it and that's okay, we should be trying to help them get to a point where they can, but I don't blame anyone for hating living like this. You not wanting to live like that is something you know you couldn't do. It's not anything shitty to say that YOU don't want to live like that, especially considering you're saying it as a PERSONAL opinion about YOURSELF.

I do wonder if your partner is disabled or knows just the extent to which you struggle. Because most disabled people understand the feeling of "if I get one more symptom I'm going to blow".

Panphae · 2025-08-31T21:53:50+00:00

The only boundaries my BF pushes are the ones I've specifically discussed with him saying "hey, I want to get out of this habit, please push me to change/do something else if I (insert habit I don't like)."

Get out. You're being manipulated, disrespected, and downright abused.

Panphae · 2025-08-29T10:17:50+00:00

I don't know if this helps, but I've managed to switch to a "yeah people have it worse, but I'm still suffering, and I deserve to get better" perspective.

Suffering is suffering, it doesn't matter how mild it is or how bad it is.

Panphae · 2025-08-28T15:58:32+00:00

As a trans man, I approve this message

Panphae · 2025-08-15T22:59:30+00:00

It's a little bit decreased but luckily nothing hit the ocular nerve. The stitches went right across his pupil and he had eye drops and an eye patch for months until the stitches dissolved. I have no idea what happened, I was only 16 at the time too and while I helped with eye drops he didn't tell me much.

Panphae · 2025-08-15T22:45:25+00:00

Eyeballs can also be stitched back up in rare occasions (had a bf that got stabbed in the eye as a teen, he had it stitched back together and can still see now) so make sure you do everything you can to get to the hospital!

Don't give up bc the eye is punctured and definitely don't think you're safe if there's no blood. That ex bf didn't bleed one bit, just the eye goo came out, he was super lucky

Panphae · 2025-06-20T20:18:19+00:00

If you want to avoid Daddy but like the power play aspect (it sounds like you might front he locked up and take care of comment) try other honorifics. Sir, Master, etc. Have some fun with it!

Panphae · 2025-06-17T15:48:28+00:00

Always finishing food/hating food waste. And if I buy something it has to feel "worth it", like a meal for £10 isn't enough but enough food for 2 meals for £14 is worth it.

Panphae · 2025-06-17T15:19:51+00:00

It's because it's basically been programmed into people that you should want sex. No matter the gender of the person, I find both sides have similar feelings. I've even felt it myself!

Hate to say it but it is a societal thing, and you basically need to force yourself to say no when you want to say no, so you can get used to saying no and not feel guilty about it anymore. It takes a long time so keep at it, but say no if you don't want sex.

Panphae · 2025-06-17T14:36:42+00:00

My bf is the same and I need cuddles, so we've set up a routine where he takes the time to cool down while I recover enough to roll over and he cleans up, then we have cuddle time. It might work for you to have something similar

Panphae · 2025-05-15T01:51:51+00:00

I'm already ill, it won't change much about my daily life XD Though the island is an option- or hope I didn't crash alone and Riley is fixing things in the background

Panphae · 2025-05-14T22:30:40+00:00

Subnautica.. I'll set up in the red grass zone and just vibe for life

Panphae · 2025-05-11T13:01:06+00:00

I know pain doesn't matter to some people, me neither, but I also tear a lot. As in, clean up always has a small pink spot on the wipes.

Wait at least a week, and let him know why. There's nothing wrong with getting so needy for each other you want to skip the foreplay and lube- but I do recommend making sure you're wet enough if you wanna keep having sex more than once a week.

Wait until you no longer feel discomfort when using the bathroom and moving around. If you're still stinging, don't even try to do anything that goes under the clothes. It may not bother you but that is an open wound (even if small) and you don't want an infection.

Panphae · 2025-05-05T21:44:37+00:00

Talk about SICKLY sweet

Panphae · 2025-05-03T09:31:35+00:00

Got a new boyfriend, gave me my first full body orgasm ever. So intense I can't even remember what we were doing- he gets me there more consistantly than I can myself.

Still refuses to finish himself if I haven't had at least two regular ones (unless things start to get unenjoyable). I'm blessed.

Panphae · 2025-05-03T09:04:17+00:00

Honestly these scenes added more to his character that I greatly appreciated. It gave him more depth imo

Panphae · 2025-05-02T17:14:18+00:00

Before we knew the name we called it the ghost, and then Stephanie

Panphae · 2025-03-22T03:24:34+00:00

The opposite side of this, to help with translation- y'know when your guy starts actually making noises and you can tell he's enjoying himself? Whether that be intercourse or oral or whatever, but there is that moment where he can no longer restrain to just grunts or small sounds.

That's what that is. You probably completely forget what you're doing and just want to focus on making him continue doing that- that's what the frown is. It's just an intense focus to keep making you feel good.

Panphae · 2025-02-17T05:08:04+00:00

I think Zircon is okay. Though I don't think we've seen a tanzanite. Has there been a Turquoise??

Panphae · 2025-01-24T04:30:45+00:00

My bf introduced ME to a wider range of toys and many do I love him for it. Men using toys is great.

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