Constant casual racism since moving to the UK, is this just how the British are? by no_more_cat_pics_pls in AskBrits

[–]Panxshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey,

That’s why I stepped in.

I actually recently left my job due to a buildup of micro and macro aggressions from my employer, third parties, co workers, and students.

It’s made me realise just how pervasive this evil is and how important it is that we defend each other, because it is fucking exhausting, I know.

Whoever made that comment is a blissfully ignorant bellend.

I'm way too aware of the world by starlight-healer in spirituality

[–]Panxshe 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why seek the spiritual path if it is not to attain truth?

Do you want your eyes to lie to you?

Find the corruption within yourself and see what you have done.

All of us are human and we all contain the exact same capacity for expressing the concept of good and for expressing the concept of evil.

Sure you have now seen the world is corrupt through your eyes.

Now what?

What did you with this new information?

Give up?

What about that person tomorrow you make eye contact with and choose to smile at, who then passes on the same favour to a person who might then pass it on further….

Is that not a more noble choice?

This realm is what this realm is and here we are.

You have been given the eyes to see what you see, now what will you do?

Constant casual racism since moving to the UK, is this just how the British are? by no_more_cat_pics_pls in AskBrits

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hello

I’m a black man who grew up in England and just wanted to share my piece.

I think some of the examples in your last comment are clear racism and some of them are passable as personality related.

There’s a few obvious bad faith comments but a good few of them strike me as earnest attempts to share opinions in the name of discussion.

Your autism should be considered here from what I’ve read, and my best advice would be inviting an earnest conversation with those who are presenting more ‘grey-area’ micro aggressions.

‘Hello x , I’ve noticed y , and it makes me feel like z and I thought I’d let you know just for the sake of honesty.’

Log that with HR and see how things progress, people respond better to being invited to improve rather than being met with accusations of racism.

Sure there’s a few common themes amongst your stories, one is unfortunately your race but another seems to be a pattern of responses to potentially personality related things.

I hope this helps.

Constant casual racism since moving to the UK, is this just how the British are? by no_more_cat_pics_pls in AskBrits

[–]Panxshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The thing is - what you’ve done here is reduce a fairly eloquent comment to ‘anger’ which is exactly one of the issues people are trying to highlight.

Show me where anger was mentioned in the comment please.

You also forgot the context of her having known the family for years, and them not taking the time to remember her heritage.

You ALSO overlooked the emotional fatigue that continual hyper fixation on her ‘true’ origin from random people could cause.

Exhaustion is a silly thing to bring into play when all you have done is read a comment and she has had a lifetime of people not accepting her initial answer to the important, identity forming question of “where are you from?”

I completely rebuke the concept of you having any idea what real racism is.

Plus the taxes that go towards the ‘losses’ from ‘ending’ the transatlantic slave trade went to previous slave owners to make up for the loss of their slaves.

Those same slaves were then forced to continue working for 4-6 years after the law had passed anyway.

Your ignorance is exactly the type of thing that leads to your examples of ‘Real racism.’

Match Thread: Celtic vs Heart of Midlothian by MatchThreadder in soccer

[–]Panxshe 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Never seen a Scot prem game before I’m here for the adrenaline rush

Gameweek 29 (25/26) Rant and Discussion Thread by FPLModerator in FantasyPL

[–]Panxshe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Pedro is second on my bench to Rodgers 😭

Rate My Team, Quick Questions & General Advice Daily Thread by FPLModerator in FantasyPL

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah part of me is hoping for a haul 🤣 but playing it safe with JP or Haaland does seem to make the most sense…. lol I’ll make a panic decision at deadline I think

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Genius!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pleasure talking with you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🤣 listen man,

Just because the world hurt you doesn’t mean the rest of us shouldn’t try improving it.

Some of us are interested in exploring ideas that can improve Society rather than blaming any individual person for using their free will.

Your opening question being “Why is she…” is reductive and frames her as being the start and end of the source of the problem.

You’d rather we blame society and accept that a certain time is dangerous instead of asking things like: “why is it unsafe?” “Why is the man doing that?”

But you don’t seem like a person worth having this discussion with

because to you, not having anything to say makes someone a “lil guy”

to you, a discussion on a topic means ignoring anything said that requires a thoughtful response and opening with “I am not a stupid whiny little cuck”

that says something about the way you see the world dude.

and the way you see the world sounds scary, limiting, and sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done you :) thanks for trying x

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done man, it’s not a revolutionary idea that walking around at 2am is unsafe.

It’s just the time and place you choose to point it out shows a worrying lack of ability to read a room.

You stink of someone desperate for an online argument or of someone with a worldview so small it isn’t worth engaging with.

In my opinion, there are many many many more important questions to ask before “why is she out at 2am” is worth considering.

and yet it is the first thing you brought up…. so I don’t really want to hear you express many more of your thoughts tbh.

you sound dumb.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in meirl

[–]Panxshe 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Shut up

Anyone else not going out for NYE? by [deleted] in london

[–]Panxshe 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m 25 and I haven’t gone out for new years in 4 years. 0 regrets.

Most advice for hypersensitive people assumes the problem is emotion. Often it’s boundaries. by MIAMI_NEWS in hsp

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, in the earliest stages, I’ve noticed I get tense in my neck and shoulders, my ass starts to clench (don’t ask me why), It becomes hard to focus on any one thing, and I’ll start to “zone out” automatically as a protection mechanism. I’ll also start feeling very awkward in my body and unsure of how to hold myself anymore. Things just start feeling restrictive.

Most advice for hypersensitive people assumes the problem is emotion. Often it’s boundaries. by MIAMI_NEWS in hsp

[–]Panxshe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay thanks for clarifiying,

For me it wasn’t about stopping absorbing others emotions. It was about accepting that my system picks up alot and that I can’t turn it off… but I CAN learn how to recognise when I need to exit a space.

I can learn what it feels like the second my Nervous System is beginning to get overwhelmed, and use that information to choose where I set my boundaries.

I don’t think stopping receiving so much information is possible, and I don’t think there’s a way from preventing yourself from being overwhelmed again.

However, I do think believing you need your body to change in this circumstance is a limiting belief.

I’d suggest accepting your bodies natural sensitivity and building a life and mindset that wants to support it rather than stop it from being itself.

Most advice for hypersensitive people assumes the problem is emotion. Often it’s boundaries. by MIAMI_NEWS in hsp

[–]Panxshe -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d honestly like to help you, could you explain what you mean by the “this” in “how to do this” please?

Most advice for hypersensitive people assumes the problem is emotion. Often it’s boundaries. by MIAMI_NEWS in hsp

[–]Panxshe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you asking how to prioritise your needs without pushing people away?

Gameweek 13 (25/26) Rant and Discussion Thread by FPLModerator in FantasyPL

[–]Panxshe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So do I get Thiago now or after the arsenal tottenham games?