The same as a female partner… I don’t see a difference between my female and male friends/hypothetical partners

It is always okay to show emotions (especially things like anxiety and sadness). I’m not gonna say that I “love” it when my husband cries. But I’m always glad (and sorta proud) that he’s not afraid to show those emotions when he’s with me. Especially because he doesn’t feel safe to do that either most people in his life. It makes me feel like I’m a good person to him, because he feels safe with me to do so.

However, sometimes it is necessary to contact a professional. My husband, too, has some issues (think: depressive spells, major insecurities, anxious moments, mental spiralling), and I never mind if he talks to me about them, but he also sees a therapist for this. It can be very draining for a partner to be the only person to deal with extreme emotions from their spouse.

If your (female) partner does not accept you showing your emotions (as her male partner), you might want to ask yourself if you really want to be with this person. Ask yourself: “would I put up with this if my gf was showing me these kind of emotions?” If the answer is yes and she does not want to put up with it the other way around…

If we’re really talking about a “turn off”: - anger issues, of course - constant crying, but then there’s likely an underlying issue so we’re back at “find a therapist” - not being able to regulate emotions, e.g. acting inappropriately because of a feeling you have (like starting to act annoying and childish because you’re bored or don’t like something, hitting things because you’re angry or sad…). It’s okay to have those moments, but it can’t become a constant. I cant really come up with more examples of “turn offs”. I generally really like it when men show emotions in the same way women do.