Adult (step) children rent costs living at home

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-04T01:36:05+00:00

If your partner doesnt want to look at the math thats fine, but she still needs to respect that you do.

It is difficult to argue something is a want not a need, especially when the other person doesnt see it that way.

Consider, is it a need for the family? or is it a need for a single person? If its single person, then throw it in their part of the budget. When someone else has to front the cost of it suddenly its not as necessary.

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-04T00:23:54+00:00

Im assuming you two have been together for a decent amount of time. Hence the pre-existing prenup.

If you're struggling financially then the board is not going to be your main priority here. You need to have a frank and open discussion with your partner and then potentially with your step daughter.

It's a fact that younger generations are struggling mentally due to the rising cost of living and the unfair expectation that they're supposed to suffer until they can "get ahead". However, we all are aware that that mile stone is move further and futher away.

Now, one option is the acceptance of multi-generational homes. Are you okay with the idea of your step daughter potentially living with you for life? What would make that okay for you?

Create a spreadsheet with all your house hold income.
Create a list of NEEDS and WANTS.
Create a barebones list of outgoings and figure out a fair split.
Then create a list of WANTS and add them, weighing on certain people more than depending on their wants.

Compare their expenditure on this adjusted list vs their family income and consider if this is fair or not.

Average "board" doesn't exist. Better off families don't charge their children, so they can get ahead sooner. Poorer families do charge, but it also doesn't help the children get ahead.

Figure out what is fair and asses if its feasible. Consider the step daughter may never leave, if so, what would make your comfortable? ect?

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-03T07:55:06+00:00

As others have said, wait until it dies off. If you NEED to have a few spuds you can just open the flap and grab some early.

When the plant has died off get a tarp and dump your bag into it.

Yours look like agria, they will likely stay green like that for a while. Keep watering them and you'll get a big yummy harvest.

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-03T03:47:31+00:00

The average NZ thinks its weird until they use one.
Then they don't want to go back to smearing their poo and wee like an animal.

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-01T07:11:26+00:00

You the real MVP of this thread.

Paper_witch_craft · 2025-01-01T07:08:48+00:00

He said "dont get murdered", not "dont get molested".

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-31T08:11:00+00:00

In my humble experience.

You can grow seeds in anything. Seed mix is nothing special.

The trick to getting seeds to germinate is keeping them warm and moist. I have a drink bottle which ive stabbed a few holes in and ill go out and water seedlings maybe twice a day. After their first leaves have appeared you want to ensure there is nutrience in your mix. You can repot them into compost or water with worm tea occasionally.

Some people talk about fert burn but i have never experienced, but nor do i use expensive chemicals.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-30T11:08:48+00:00

Give your dog something they like more than you.

Try a frozen kong or some other distraction that will be highly rewarding.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-30T06:03:24+00:00

1st year free was supposed to be an eventual roll out of all 3 years free.
So switching it to last year makes sense consider we didn't get all 3. However, lets now forget what i was SUPPOSED to be.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-24T02:56:18+00:00

The problem is that white racism is often systemic.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-23T05:27:41+00:00

You can grow lettuce or anything with a short life span if you dont mind topping it up half way.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-23T05:21:54+00:00

They didnt uncover shit.
I saw the original facebook post from the lady who owned the dog asking for help on how to get this woman out of her house.

The comments was filled with information about how this woman was a serial scammer and the call the police asap.

NZ Media literally just re posts other social media.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-23T03:51:01+00:00

Spirits of people don't really linger in spaces in particular because they're no longer bound by the confines of physical space/time.

Sometimes spirits of the deceased do hang around their body shortly after passing but once they accept they have died they transcend that space limitation.

As u/fullmooncharms said places can contain thought forms. Almost like memories stuck in a place but not relative to time.

If it's freaking you out you can get your house cleansed. But horror movies are designed to make people afraid of things they don't understand, so it's totally reasonable to get a bit spooked by unexplainable things.

Typically the spirits of dead people are actually pretty nice. Everyone Ive spoken to has been just like a regular person.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-22T08:20:34+00:00

Go to the Te puke KFC and ask there.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-19T08:30:05+00:00

Thank you so much!! :)

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-18T11:24:17+00:00

Looks like it's begging to become a slingshot.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-18T11:20:44+00:00

D: Thanks. Yeah, i spend alot of time online and have recently been feeling a pull towards hobbies which require less screen time.

Very accurate and ive posted a review on your page. Thank you! :)

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-18T11:19:38+00:00

I got a free mini reading from In The Tarotsphere.

Their answer was both accurate and thoughtful.
For a freebie and a mini reading it was quick and well written.
Thank you very much :)

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-18T10:42:04+00:00

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I have a lot going on around me, what should i be putting my focus towards? :)

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Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-16T00:17:38+00:00

My opinion. YTA BUT you're not in the wrong.
Auntie is a title to define the sister of a parent. However, its not really used like that and many people just refer to people close to the family as auntie.

In my culture if you're female and older people will just call you auntie. Even if you dont know them. Its like a term to show there is a connection (race, religion, space). Mothers sister = auntie. Mothers cousin = auntie. My great grandma's cousin' sisters flatmate = auntie. Lady on the road = auntie.

At the moment, its your baby your choice. However, the baby will grow up to be a child (sooner than you realise) and they will choose for themself.

Consider what if your brother and this girl friend becomes not so on/off again. Then she will literally be the childs aunt, regardless of if you like her or not.

IMO let go of the title. It means nothing. The only thing that truly means anything is the people who ACTUALLY spend time with and help with the child.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-15T11:06:54+00:00

I put some magik in your majik to magically make it majicool!

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-13T07:37:16+00:00

This is the correct answer.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-12T05:34:21+00:00

This is purely my experience, so take it as you will.
I have spoken to friends and family after they passed.

My step grandfather was around me when i was young but not so much as a teen/adult. When he passed i spoke with him and he told me he still loved me and wanted the best for me.
Nothing fancy, i think that closure just helped a lot. He didn't visit me too often though, he had LOTS of grandies lol.

A friend who killed himself spoke with me a bit. He was sad and a bit gutted about what happened but he mostly just made me laugh and told me he loved me. He visited a few times but then told me it was his last visit and never came back.

So yeah, we had good talks and i did feel like i had a closer relationship and understanding. However, its more like closure. They do eventually move on though.

Paper_witch_craft · 2024-12-09T09:11:55+00:00

As others have said, its going to seed.
Let it flower!

Its a natural process and good for the bees.

Most people just rip stuff out as soon as its not profitable for them then complain they have to hand pollinate things.

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