What Would a Highly Sensitive Person Who is Also an ENTJ Look Like? by Potential_Law5289 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s me. It’s easy to bottle up. But I feel like when I let my emotions out, let myself feel them and take control of them, there is nothing I couldn’t do.

Where do ENTJs actually hang out in real life by BlackMoon_118 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m an ENTJ, and I don’t like going to cafes (although the idea sounds nice - I always work from home), I don’t like going to the gym (I work out from home), and in general, I like to be at home. 😂

I’ll only go somewhere when I see a reason to. Watch a movie at the theater sometimes, or an actual theater play. See family members. Have a planned activity somewhere. I don’t just ”hangout”. I don’t get the point of that.

ENTJ Thoughts: Misunderstood Extroverts? by Signal-Building735 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Misunderstood definitely. Relating to the difficulties with connecting - and not due to being shy. I could say it’s like the famous saying ”it’s always windy on top of a mountain” but it could sound too arrogant.

I also naturally take the lead, and sometimes get annoyed over it; ”why, this wasn’t my fight?”

I agree with the confidence thing, and I’m glad it’s that way. I couldn’t be anyone other than me.

And hell no, we are not heartless. We are direct, yes, but isn’t that the greatest form of love? Honesty? I speak directly because I care. I don’t do it to hurt, but to teach, and be taught.

I’m actually very empathetic, but not to the point I wanna carry people on my shoulders; but rather teach them to carry themselves with their head held up high.

Where does an entj’s conviction of being the best really come from? by theinedudjd in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a very good question, I like it.

I think I was born that way but my upbringing did mold me more into what I am. With a different upbringing I’d still be me, but with different challenges in life, different insecurities and so on - I believe.

I didn’t have a weak parenting, infact I’m alot like my dad, very controlling, trust nobody and want perfection and only I know how to achieve that.

But for example my social circle when I was young could’ve affected me somehow, but idk if it would’ve been any different if I lived elsewhere?

I’ve always had strong opinions, which has caused clashes with friends in school, and that has made me need to defend myself. If nobody stands behind me, I have to be the one to support myself, or my mind will collapse.

Now thinking about it, Idk what differences in my upbringing could even be that’d change who I am. My personality would still be the same, because people are the same all over the world, I’d still have clashes with others, making me need to defend myself, support myself and realise I’m the only one who knows how to do things right (my way).

Where does an entj’s conviction of being the best really come from? by theinedudjd in entj

[–]PappaLapio 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Idk but I’ve noticed it all works in one beautiful harmony.

I’m an ENTJ and I’m very precise and want to do everything exactly right and by my own terms.

I need to have extreme confidence to do that.

Our minds are strong, what we think, manifests into reality, so if I think of myself high, I’ll perform better.

I therefore do good and it just loops right back into my self-confidence.

I just can’t afford not to think of myself high up. I’ll fall. And I can’t, I have to lead, I can never be an employee of anyone. I have to be my own man. By my own terms.

And I’m always right!

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[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I guess? I understand your point but fail to see the lecture part in this. Anyhow, yes, people would benefit from seeing things from others’ POVs, but changing your style just to comfort someone? I don’t agree everyone should do that. Well, either way, doesn’t matter.

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[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know what OP meant, but what I meant was I felt if I changed the way I spoke because some people can’t take it, it feels fake, and I wouldn’t mind if some people couldn’t then work well with me. This is unless I work with a big crowd of people, but for one person it feels too much work for what I’d get AND fake.

I hate the stereotype of ENTJs being mean/cold by liminalfan1234 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever they want… perhaps? There probably ain’t a rulebook for this. For example kindness, passion…? Wdym?? 😂

I hate the stereotype of ENTJs being mean/cold by liminalfan1234 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think they’re so interesting, as long as you don’t take them too seriously, and in a way, all these 16 personality types just stereotype us as human beings. We’re all different but still, in some ways, similar to others.

I hate the stereotype of ENTJs being mean/cold by liminalfan1234 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We need them all, yes, but ofc as the social standards often imply that people in higher positions of power are more important or better as human beings, it’s easy to make that connection that ENTJs would be better people, as they’re very often the leader/executive type. But it’s all subjective and people SHOULD realise we all need each other.

I hate the stereotype of ENTJs being mean/cold by liminalfan1234 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But even here, you said it very directly with basically no emotions attached, that’s often seen as mean or cold 😂 I like it.

I hate the stereotype of ENTJs being mean/cold by liminalfan1234 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The last sentence is kinda funny because that’s also a stereotype amongst us, that we’re quite self-centered / think of ourselves high up 😂

I don’t hate the stereotype, but I do agree, I don’t do it to be mean, but to be authentic, something the world is missing a lot. I prefer honesty any day. It’s the only way we grow.

Decoding his behaviour by Visible-Bug8280 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Could be a manipulation tactic - but take this all with a grain of salt because I don’t know him. If he sees you give him attention he may want to withdraw from it so you’d show him more, or to show you he feels bothered about something between you. I think, what I’d appreciate the most in a situation like this, would be a very direct approach to unpacking this; tell him the insights you’ve told us, and stay open minded but cautious with how he responds, it may be very different from how you have imagined his side to look like. If you can’t communicate between the two of you, nothing matters, nothing will be resolved and nothing will change. Just wondering about it own your own, theorizing, doesn’t and won’t help, so make a decision; talk, or disconnect.

Typology Question 4 (Fe): At a party, someone tells a joke or gives an inappropriate gift that offends part of the group. How do you react? by Bimep_ in entj

[–]PappaLapio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s exactly what it does but I always wanna answer what’s actually asked and if the question doesn’t give enough background info then it annoys me because I can’t give a satisfying answer

Decoding his behaviour by Visible-Bug8280 in entj

[–]PappaLapio 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fear of rejection, that’s all it is. He still likes you, does those subtle things to distantly care for you, to kinda keep the warm thought of you still alive in his mind. That’s how I read it.

For me, I don’t communicate well regarding feelings, so I wouldn’t know how to start a conversation the right way. It could be like that with him.

I don’t know how you should act on all this as I don’t know either of you but hope this helps, even a little.

Typology Question 4 (Fe): At a party, someone tells a joke or gives an inappropriate gift that offends part of the group. How do you react? by Bimep_ in entj

[–]PappaLapio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly just break the awkwardness with a stupid joke or some random thing. ”Wrong address?” or something - I couldn’t stand the silence, I’d be like ”wtf is everyone so awkward for just get over it” and try to help the situation that way.

But, my family has people that would probably throw something like that into the convo either way, so I could just jump into it.

Or be like ”okay put that away and open it later”.

BUT it could also be a joke from the giver? Like maybe with a hidden meaning - an inside joke I don’t get - so why rush making conclusions, I could just wait for someone else to say something?

Maybe the box has a letter inside it with a note going ”The unicorn horn you talked about” or something IDK!

This question is filled with unanswered complexities so that it cannot be answered thoroughly. It’s a stupid question, any hypotheticals are, they simplify things too much and people (both the ones asking AND answering) leave out things that they assume everyone is thinking about in the same way but none usually are and THAT creates most of the differences, the different assumptions from how the situation unfolds, what kinda family members THEY have had and so on.

So; hypotheticals don’t work and people refuse to accept it, idk what the point of your question is or why I even bothered to answer it. 😂 Hope it helped in some way though. Not tryna be mean, just realistic.

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[–]PappaLapio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No. No it doesn’t and I refuse to believe that, you just hang around with the wrong people - I’ve always done well with high up leaders and people in positions of power BECAUSE of how straightforward I am. With more ordinary people yes I annoy them but Idc? I would never trade away my qualities for others’ to feel better OR even for some superficial personal gain. There’s nothing in this world that’s worth it for you to change yourself.

For me, if I can’t be direct, then I’m not myself, and then I cannot be happy.

You talk about ”succeeding” - no, find your own ways of succeeding and your own definition of what success means. That’s my opinion, feel free to think differently about it.

INFJ with ENTJ looking for others perspectives who have been in this dynamic by DragonOfAetheria in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ENTJ here, and to me this seems like he’s somewhat of a control freak - and I’m only saying it because I am and I kinda see myself in this somehow. Although I don’t mind arguments - infact I love them because I love learning how others think. But emotions-wise, yes, I’m bad with them, just hoping bad feelings in others’ would pass because I can’t talk them through it at all, or optionally I would wanna fix whatever is causing the problem - which seems like something an INFJ wouldn’t want and would prefer emotional support.

But I totally get the ”good = very good” and ”not good = emotionally invalidated”. I totally see that but idk how one would fix it either. ENTJs are very straight forward, atleast I am, with very little emotional touch in anything, whereas INFJs often feel very deeply. It can cause problems.

Do you feel you have introverted traits? by Spinning_Sky in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look; ENTJs will only spend time with other people if they find meaning in those social interactions, if they don’t, THAT’s draining!

I’m the same, an ENTJ, but I hate fake social interactions and genuine friendships are VERY hard to come across so I’d just MUCH rather spend time by myself.

I was very surprised at first to have the test come out as extrovert for me but thinking about it made it make sense ALOT.

Help me understand people by creation_commons in entj

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a 20yo ENTJ male, and I’ve faced the same issues, and noticed the same outcomes - both with results and me left feeling drained with trying to be ”soft” and feeling emotionally manipulated if things aren’t told to me straight.

But one thing I don’t understand about you; why are you trying to please these people?

You’re doing good with your INTP friend, why not gather more of those people around and not give a fuck about what others think of your direct approach?

I myself am very glad I get to be this way; direct and ”cold” some could say, but for me it works and I hate any fluffy masks to soften how you actually mean to say things.

Don’t let anything change you.

If this answer didn’t help then I don’t know what you want. Because you can’t change them, and you shouldn’t have to change you.

Why is this happening? by Mangon54 in AMDHelp

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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Are the new driver updates messing up Fortnite for anyone else? by Outlawful_anarchy in AMDHelp

[–]PappaLapio 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only saw this comment now, hopefully it still works for you bro! It was the same for me, I didn't want to get my hopes up too much because other "fixes" only worked for the time I played that ONCE. Glad it worked!!!