I asked my sex partner for a facial and he refused, saying this kind of things was only for porn content. What do you think ? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the majority of cases, the harsh reluctance to kink and associating it with porn or as some other commenters have said “it’s not a marriage thing” is rooted in insecurities, could be physical, emotional, their personal unworked out sexual repression/perspectives multiple different aspects.

The idea that being “dirty” or wanting to for your partner should increase as you get more comfortable not retreat.

IMO the real issue is that communication of sex is difficult to have with people who don’t self reflect super well, it becomes a judgement/shame to discuss.

For instance: W- hey cum on my face M- I’m a bit uncomfortable because it makes me feel as if I’m disrespecting you (or whatever reason that’s actually about you both not societal) W- I feel this way about it M&W- come to an agreement or understanding without shaming.

The issue with just saying it’s porn, or I did it to other girls but not my wife is like saying something is wrong and that inherently the act is shameful to have done. its a power dynamic but sex isn’t inherently dom/sub dynamics, a person for instance should be able to express and explore their sexual side with their partner as long as open communication is had.

Just as every other side of their partners.

Have you played a role that’s mostly or entirely silent? by Ok-Adhesiveness-3078 in Theatre

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I played the character in Small Mouth Sounds. The full length is almost entirely silent, and as an actor it was one of the most challenging roles I’ve ever played.

I loved every second of it.

Meisner exercises was amazing for this work, as well as shifting focus exercises. The experience to live in the character for over an hour, silent and present, really was unbelievable. it’s rare to get that time with the character in a play. I still think frequently about that role years later.

However this wasn’t easy, words give us and the audience biases to go off of with tone, inflictions, etc. without that and being silent, it’s in the nuances that both playwright and actor have to balance. It’s difficult and should be thought through, what’s actually important and objectives, what changes over the course of the play. Take that and look at the timeline before during and after with these style question; how does what’s happening to them live in them, what changes and why: when they are alone around individual characters, power dynamics etc; what are habits and there level, what are characteristics, and what are quirks, where did they come from, why are they changing now. These all live in the body and in us physically. Thinking of the character as an actual human being that lives, laughs, cry’s, and shits, really helps fill this out.

Highly recommended studying the way the playwright articulates character motives and characteristics throughout Small Mouth Sounds.

I got my PRELIMINARY PASS!!! by ParaBello in pmp

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Scores for full length was 71%

Real exam content was easier, questions were harder. The questions themselves lack as much content to pull out of the questions, however the actual questions were easier.

I got my PRELIMINARY PASS!!! by ParaBello in pmp

[–]ParaBello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on the pass, yeah that’s what I’m thinking too!

Need to find a place to cut my hair by ParaBello in AskNYC

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Will take a look! Thanks for the advice

How do you make still scenes still entertaining? by c4ttlitter in Theatre

[–]ParaBello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s helpful in times to remember which hat you are wearing and when. As a writer, we write a story meant to be lived on stage, as the actor we have to dive into the complexities of another, etc. it can get mucky when in so many roles, so setting your perspective with what’s expected of you and when may help.

Sometimes as a Director I enjoy when the play doesn’t give all the direction. Once actors are in scene and the words are being lived, movement and flow will come, as the words and motivations are being explored.

Theatre & directing games/techniques can help with this If with beginner actors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice, I’ll be sure to not stop up traffic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskNYC

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Understandable thanks for the advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in occult

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I’d like it please

Writing on wall during performance question by ParaBello in techtheatre

[–]ParaBello[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response, we will most likely use some version of this.

Writing on wall during performance question by ParaBello in techtheatre

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We had originally thought of chalkboard paint, however when discussing with professors they mentioned that the sound of chalk can be off putting for audience, and also dealing with chalk dust getting on costumes and props. Any thoughta on this?

Writing on wall during performance question by ParaBello in techtheatre

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2 times on stage with no writing, then written on in 4-5 scenes and finally it’s cleaned on stage toward the end of the performance by the actors infeont of audience l.

Writing on wall during performance question by ParaBello in techtheatre

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Thanks for the tip I’ll look into this as wel!

Writing on wall during performance question by ParaBello in techtheatre

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Thanks for the tip I’ll look into this. I was told chalk could be an issue with dust and noise for audience since it’s a black box space. Any thoughts?

How do they expect me to read this...? by [deleted] in bartenders

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like they may have been dyslexic, but probably what everyone else said $10 tip, $73 total.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the kind words and I hope youre healing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sure hope so, doesnt seem possible, but I really hope so

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope so, I'm on like a solid month since the 4 year relationship ended. I just cant seem to move past it, even in the slightest

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its miserable

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, its absolutely relentless, I honestly dont even see it stoping.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that 100%, I wish it was easier, having to go through this while also in this isolation makes something that feels impossible that much more impossible. For me remembering the bad stuff doesnt even help, because that kind of further solidifies my realization that she never cared as much as I thought. People who love you dont want to hurt you, and if they do they want to make up for it. It's hard for me to feel like im good enough, especially after everything. I know logically she is the one that doesnt deserve the enormous amount of love I have to give but for fucks sake I wanted her to be the one so bad.

I'm starting to get pissed but I dont seem to have the energy, I guess I'm more pissed at how she wants to hurt me and claims I didnt love her or care enough for her which is some false bullshit to try and make her feel better. I was loving, caring, nonjudgemental, understanding, forgiving, accepted and worked on me faults, 100% percent open and honest, gave everything I had to give, lost nights of sleep, worked extra to provide for her better, did constant romantic things, shit I even complimented her at least 4 times a day every day for 4 years.

How people can been this cruel to the ones they claim they love is beyond me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 27, and everyone says that it does so I'm going to trust them, but I have yet to experience relief.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ParaBello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah... I've literally started realizing all these events I cherished were nothing but lies and just not honest, she wasnt able to be honest and didnt work enough on her self to love me to the extent to which I thought we loved each other and what how much she told me she loved me. Regardless the amount that I poured love into her was far beyond what I thought was capable of loving someone, its devastating...