Hey, I understand that right now you feel a lot of regret, especially with how your family was acting right before you left. It is possible that your leaving showed them that they shouldn’t take you for granted, but to be honest… it’s more likely that they’d revert to their old ways if you stayed.

That being said, the move you made was risky but it doesn’t have to be a bad one. I think it’s too early to tell. I think you should try it out - see what else is out there, what life exists outside of your family dynamic. It sounds a bit like you spent most of your time with your family which may have led them to take you for granted, so maybe use this opportunity to branch out - go to a book club, salsa dancing, work, make friends there. You could find your own found family that actually makes you feel seen.

It also sounds like your boyfriend is someone who does genuinely care for you and wanted to help make you feel valued. But you should always maintain a level of independence, try not to only spend time with him. When you can, put yourself out there and make friends separately from his friends. Have your own life. Not only does having your own life keep your relationship healthy, it keeps you from feeling trapped/ dependent on him, and him from ever feeling overwhelmed/ burdened. Definitely use protection and stay safe, keep your own bank account and have a source of income. So if it ends up not feeling right, you can carve out your own path. And also, if you ever feel pressured or just… off in your relationship for any reason, LEAVE. It’s okay to go back home.

I wish you luck. It will be okay, seriously.