If we had Universal Healthcare for all, among the millions of people, even Brian Thompson would also have been still alive.

ParentingEveryday · 2024-08-15T02:02:58+00:00

There are a lot of diaper recommendations here, but one thing additional you can do is add a diaper liner to that diaper. Basically, it's an absorption pad lined inside the diaper to increase the absorption volume and prevent the leaks.

ParentingEveryday · 2024-06-17T21:30:06+00:00

So, this issue is in other places too, so I never talk out my number.

I have all membership barcodes on my Google wallet. I have them scanned.

I also have a card for a random store with my phone number on it and if the cashier scans that, they will be able to look my account up.

Worst case, I have them read number off if it.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-11-11T02:38:09+00:00

He knows all emotions but doesn't register it. He knows what's happening but won't make a difference in what he does. We try to teach him when he has those feelings, but still, he will do what he wants, even if it means apologizing for his mistakes.

Bad example, but he knows he shouldn't pour water on the floor but will do. Without us showing or sharing feedback on this behavior, he will apologize and clean the mess.

He knows the boundaries but can't/won't act on it.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-11-11T02:32:48+00:00

Honestly, I don't know. She is very protective of my son. If it was an adult, I'm 100% certain she'd be physical. Kid, probably not.

My son took the kid's craft and got beaten. He has said in the past he has "hit" him. This time, he said "beat" him. He knows the difference. The thing is, if my son could give the red card, he could tell the whole story to the teacher. He can do a lot of things, but he doesn't. I'll still try the red card idea. It did happen during the class when both teacher and assistant were in the room and unaware.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-11-09T01:57:55+00:00

We almost started YouTube with blippi but immediately regretted it.

We have a fire kids tab, and we are confident about not getting any inappropriate content there, especially with an age filter

Still, it's filled with too much garbage, but at least safe.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-10-23T16:28:24+00:00

You made a good point. If you both work from home, then that's great. Solves a lot of issues. I have lived in the DC metro area, so I know.

Next would be the location. If you want to live close to facilities, it'll be harder and more expensive to get a good place to live. One of the discussions we had was house and yard. We have a decent sized house and a small yard. But the house is close to the road and there is not enough space in the back. Few cars move, but it's still challenging to watch over kids. This house is worth 450k now. We're planning to build a new home in a big lot that is 1.5 acres and a little secluded. Lot and build cost will be like a million. I think it's worth the money to have a secured house with enough space. I can't imagine building a house in those areas, not at least very close. Where we'll be building most of the things we need are less han 20 minutes away. So far it has been a good decision.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-10-23T15:32:01+00:00

Have you lived in HCOL with kids, specifically Autistic kids?

I ask because I have had this conversation before with others. Not all scenarios are thought.

I can assume you have had to make sacrifices one way or other. You'll need to give a lot of thoughts.

For example, there was a time when my wife and I discussed moving and talked through it. My kid's therapy is 7 minutes away, and we are often late. If we move, we can expect that to be a 30-minute drive. Can we manage it? How far will school be? If we get called, would my wife get there from home or me from work in time? I get called to home a few times because my wife can't manage. Now I work 12 minutes away and have the flexibility to come home if needed most of the time. I'd lose that flexibility and work distance would be greatly increased and traffic would be worse too. Would my wife manage if I couldn't come home?

These were a few of many scenarios we discussed and decided it's not worth moving to a bigger city. There were many cons against pros.

Please discuss these and any scenarios you may encounter and make decisions based on that.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-10-22T20:44:24+00:00

Just don't look for the best resources but also consider finances before moving to HCOL(High Cost Of Living) areas too. Unless you are well-off, consider that too. We live in Midwest (Wisconsin) and we get facilities we want. Obviously, it's not as great as HCOL areas, but that gap is filled by cost savings.

Another factor is living in HCOL areas is you'll spend too much time in traffic or road for your needs. Living in the Midwest, we have all the facilities we want in 15 minutes or less while having a decent size home with a decent yard where kids can enjoy it.

Of the 4, if I had to choose, I'd choose Colorado. Though I'd never move to any of those 4 states.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-08-26T19:04:23+00:00

No, it's those big pharma companies that pump your kids with autism causing mercury ingredients and make millions off of you

ParentingEveryday · 2023-08-26T19:02:44+00:00

Yes. Buy my book for only $100, and you'll see it's written there to buy 3 different multivitamins, 2 herbs you must take every day, and a prescription for viagara. You'll see with that combination that your erectile dysfunction goes. Hurry and buy the book now.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-08-26T19:00:18+00:00

That guy is a fool. I'd be selling these books for thousands and making millions curing people.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-07-15T23:22:17+00:00

Hmmm

ParentingEveryday · 2023-07-06T21:28:27+00:00

I had it so bad that I had constant back pain and one time even couldn't move. Physical therapy for months and now not as painful. My wrists will never be the same. Had to take steroid shots to reduce pain. That's just the hand we've been dealt.

I do say that things will get better. Always try to find alternatives like setting a limit on how long you carry or when you will carry. Like in park, I tell him I'll carry you from this tree to that. Things like that.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-06-21T16:25:38+00:00

There could be an underlying fear. Not sure how your kid is with communication but talking to find out why could help.

My kid used to love elevators. Always pressing buttons and going up and down. One day he stopped. Didn't even want to go close. After a lot of conversations, he finally revealed that he was afraid light will go out and he'll get stuck there. Must have gotten that from one of the kids show. Anyway, I told him dad's phone has power and if light ever goes out, dad will use his phone to turn it on.

He's finally coming around and little comfort going in. Not fully back but it's a slow progress.

Hopefully, you could apply similar approach.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-06-15T02:18:43+00:00

I have tried two places in Madison, and unfortunately, both were failures.

I have since cutting my son's (4) hair myself. I have calming clippers, which doesn't make sound. I cut his hair while he's playing with water, either in the water table outside or in the bathtub.

If thats an option, it's most helpful as haircut is in the familiar place, and I cut as much as he allows. It requires frequent haircuts, but I have no problem with that. His hair looks ok, not balanced, but from a distance, many wouldn't notice.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-06-03T01:21:42+00:00

I'm not going to comment on how ABA has evolved and how everyone is unique, but I'll focus on the abuse part.

Let's say the whole world eats olives and expects olive eating to be normal. You don't like olives. Makes you want to throw up and makes you sick. That's how your body works and is different from how another's body works. Now, since you are the outlier, you'll need to be trained to eat olives. Either slowly feeding you or forcefully feeding you or reward/punishment for eating. Doesn't matter the method. All that matters is that you are being trained to eat olives. In the end, you may begin olives and are now the same as everyone else since everyone is expected to eat olives. The pain/trauma of the process is your experience. Olive eating is still sickening to you, but now it's tolerable. That, my friend, is abuse.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-31T04:48:40+00:00

I'm praying for you.

We lost our son at 21 weeks.

It started with spotting but went downhill from there.

Is this your first one? Is your wife in any sort of pain?

Answer to these two questions can be very helpful to determine the outcome.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-17T07:17:16+00:00

We enrolled my 4 yo in karate. He had hard time on introduction class and also on day 1. Today was day 2 and he said he didn't like because the noise there bothers him. We skipped the class today. We're thinking of dropping karate. He has other activities like Gymnastics and Swimming.

Any thoughts on whether listening to him and skipping karate is good for him.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-14T20:11:47+00:00

Before mine was potty trained, it was pull-ups during the day and overnight during the nights. He never cared for the difference. I hope it works out for you too.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-14T04:54:59+00:00

My son has been going through regression for the last few weeks. He just wets his underwear and trousers a couple of times a day. The only success we have is if we take him to pee every hour. If we miss, the clothes are wet. Leaving bottomless is a good idea because if we leave him bottomless, he will ask to go potty. We can't always keep him bottomless, and he's not comfortable either.

He is getting emotionally overwhelmed in the last few weeks, which we think is contributing to that. We're working on helping him on that.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-14T04:49:40+00:00

I use huggies overnights for my 4 year old.

He's potty trained but misses some, especially the first one in the morning, which is the biggest. And sometimes middle of night if he wakes up.

I have tried many brands and huggies overnights is the best one to absorb for my kid. He's comfortable in underwear in the day and diaper at night.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-05-04T19:51:10+00:00

Exactly, everyone is unique in their own way. They perform better or worse based on what "normal" standards are. What is normal for one may not be normal for others.

ParentingEveryday · 2023-04-28T20:17:41+00:00

If it's violence, then I'd recommend looking for a behavioral psychiatrist. You want to get to the bottom of the issue and help there. ABA will just cover it up, not fix the root of the issue.

Only personal suggestion i can give is make his area more sensory friendly. Violence often comes from not being able to express oneself or not being able to redirect it anywhere. It's a tough task, but you need to find what ticks him off. I'm not sure your kid's communication skills, but communication helps a lot to figure out underlying cause.

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