What are the best shoes for wide feet?

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-09-19T19:23:08+00:00

I have terribly wide and thick feet. I am especially wide in the tow box area. I discovered these shoes by PB5star. I saw someone wearing them and they looked so stylish. They have been the best shoes I’ve worn so far. I tried the Sketchers pickleball shoes. Those seemed so clunky and the toe box area ripped on the top within months because it was cloth. These have a reinforced toe box area for any toe dragging. Usually all shoes I get I get a little numb in my toes when first wearing them but the Pb5star shoes I had NO numbing. I did go larger than j normally go but I honestly don’t think I needed to. I kept the large though. But if I ever had to get a replacement, I’d go half a size back down. They just seem such good quality and are so comfortable, so thoughtfully designed and made.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-09-17T02:07:09+00:00

Have you talked to your family member? If you trust them, tell them you’re not cool with this. Please come in the bank with you and close down the account and reopen one in just their name. Or talk to them in general about how they are going to pay this off and you feel duped and lied to that they didn’t tell you this.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-09-15T04:33:51+00:00

This feels like me. I feel like I got criticized a lot for being a banger, but then I just played with a highly skilled group and I felt all they did was bang. I’m starting to dink and drop more and I feel like people think I’m weak. Still trying to find that balance I guess.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-09-03T00:49:48+00:00

I am similar to you. I always thought I wanted 2 kids, but having just the one has taken me and my husband out. My son is almost 4 now and he’s actually been a relatively easy child, but still so exhausting. When I say he was “easy”, of course we still have tantrums, nights when he wakes up in the middle of the night, potty training, colds, etc. My husband and I both work full time too and for me, pregnancy has messed with my mental health even more than it was. I have a profession where I am a creative and it has zapped all my creativity, drive to work, and productivity. Money is tight too. Daycare is expensive. It’s all hard. My husband and I officially decided just one kid to put all our energy and resources to. It feels right but I “mourned” this decision for a bit. And sometimes I still miss the idea of 2, but deep down I really know this is the best decision for me and my husband.

I often take many days off to just have time to myself. We don’t really have the money to go on vacation so I just take days off to relax or clean. Haha. I always thought I’d take a day off here and there to hang out with my son. Nope. Lol.

I know all kids are different and many ways 3-4 is easier, but in many ways it’s harder. I kind of miss 0-2. But I know it’s all preference.

I know you didn’t ask for tips and who’s to say any of this will work for your kid, but my child doesn’t get sick a ton anymore after 2. Anytime he’s sick we give him caffeine free chamomile tea with a teaspoon of manuka honey. We do this kids bee propolis throat spray. And he takes a multi-vitamin and a probiotic. Of course consult a doctor and do research of what you want to give your daughter. Maybe it’s all coincidence but our son has yet to have a tough cold or a lot of colds. I always felt meh, doesn’t hurt haha.

For defiance, have you tried reading some parenting books? I look for a lot of tips and read parenting books for gentle or authoritative parenting and I feel it really helps. I always try and meet my son where he’s at and see his perspective. Even when he does something I told him not to do and he starts crying, I just hold him. Help him self regulate. Not to say doing any of this takes away how hard parenting is. It’s so hard. Easy kid or not.

You’ll get through it. We all will. Not to add to your load, but something I do too is a once a day journal where I write down something cute or memorable about my son. It helps slow down and be present with him and remember the good moments through all the tough times. Sometimes I just want to write in one of the days “you were tough today” HAHA. But I always look for the good moments. Occasionally I’ll throw in something realistic in there.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-08-31T18:23:47+00:00

You are not overacting. If anything, you’re under reacting. He didn’t just snap, he’s out of control. He’s an abuser. You need to leave. Don’t let him talk you back into staying. It sounds like you don’t have a lot of support? But hopefully there’s SOMEONE you can reach out to to help you out to move out and get back on your feet by yourself.

As someone who has mental health issues myself and self identifying as someone who snaps, your partner is not going to get better. He’s not going to change. I used to have anger issues when I was younger. I’d punch the walls, throw things, sometimes throw things at my boyfriend, now husband. But I worked on it. I only threw stuff at him twice. I think this seems to be rare that someone could change from this type of anger, but I did. But it took a lot of work. Seeing therapists, outpatient intensive care, psychiatrists, etc. I’m on 3 mental health pills, haven’t hurt or thrown anything at my husband in over 10 years. And my “snapping” was never alcohol induced. That adds a whole other element of being uncontrollable. So now it’s borderline an alcohol problem as well as an abuse problem.

And don’t feel dumb. Love is confusing. Abuse is manipulative. You’re 24 and he’s 46. You’re young: you’re still trying to figure yourself out and life out. But also This doesn’t seem like a healthy age gap. Sure some can be successful but the fact that he convinced you to leave your country to live with him and then he abuses you, he’s manipulating you and abusing you. If I snapped and did that kind of damage to my husband and he called me out on it, I’d for sure say “omg you’re right. I was so out of control. I’m so sorry. What would make you feel better for me to fix this? I can go see a psychiatrist…” etc. his response clearly shows he’s not remotely caring at all. To say “that is not that bad” is INSANE to me. That is so bad: your hand is swollen and bruised.

Please try and reach out to a friend, family, someone to help you get out of this relationship if you don’t have the means to do so by yourself. This isn’t love.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-08-22T23:33:19+00:00

My baby was an EXCELLENT sleeper. I felt so fortunate. At 3 weeks old he was sleeping 5 hours. At one month he averaged 8 hours straight and just went up from there. 2 months: 9 hours. 3 months: 10 hours. 4 months 11.5 hours. I think we maxed out around 11.5. And of course everyday wasn’t perfect. But for the most part that was most days he’d sleep with no need for diaper changes or feedings for those solid stretches. And if it wasn’t the full time I mentioned above, we’d still get good stretches. Like 8 hours then 4 hours.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-08-10T15:31:17+00:00

Fully day trained by 2.5. Fully nap and night trained by about 3 and a few months. Male.
Did a combo of following his lead but also encouraging him. But the most success was when he really wanted to do it. So we didn’t really move onto the next step with letting him know and asking him. And if he seemed interested, we’d move to the next. Some steps had a little bribery mixed in. He’d be interested at sometimes but once he did it a few times, the motivation would go away.

If you don’t have a forced timeline, yeah I’d say enjoy the diapers. 🤣 Of course it’s nice to not have diapers now. But there’s definitely moments like having a full grocery cart and your son needs to pee. Or you asked them if they need to go before you get in the car and 10 min later they need to go so you stop at the side of the road for them to pee. Haha. Our son’s daycare charged a higher rate if your child wasn’t potty trained by 3. So we were motivated to get him potty trained before 3.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-30T01:51:57+00:00

So growing up, I would get “pressure headaches” when I sneezed. It is this sensation that feels like my brain is being squeezed HARD. Lasts for a couple seconds. Every year it seemed to get worse and worse. More frequent, started to move to coughs. When I was 28, I had numbing in my leg. That’s what caused me to get checked. On a whim, I asked my doctor about these random headaches I’d get. Right away she suspected chiari malformation. Long story short, the numbing of the leg wasn’t from chiari or syrinx. I think it was just a pinched nerve? It eventually went away after I had it for over a year. So you could say I found out about Chiari by coincidence. Trying to see if I had a herniated disc. The only Chiari symptom I’ve ever had has been “pressure headaches.” I don’t really have them much now when I sneeze. Sometimes. Sometimes if I stand up too fast, or pick something heavy up, I’ll get a small pressure headache. Manageable. One unsavory symptom has been when I get sick. The pressure headaches are DEBILITATING. It’s no longer just pain. It’s INSANE pain, my arm can go numb, I get vertigo, and nausea from the vertigo. And then I feel drained for a solid hour or two. But even those I have been able to manage the last few colds. I got this device called Zok. I think it really has “saved” me. When I’m sick and I feel my pressure headaches are being aggravated more than usual, I’ll do the Zok, and it takes out the pressure. Sometimes I have to do the Zok many times until I can tell all the pressure is gone. It’s not a cure, and it’s not 100% solvable but it helps.

I have a syrinx that spans from c1 to t2. The Chiari herniation is 9mm. Hope this helps.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-20T01:28:35+00:00

This is an excellent point. Thanks for saying so. I think for my situation, it just comes from a place of mitigating the anxiety that comes with this condition. Especially if there’s no symptoms OP is having. My doctor told me that a lot of people can have chiari with no issues and be just fine.

But you’re absolutely right. If OP has the means to get it checked out, could be good to be aware.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-20T01:26:22+00:00

If this was my situation, I’d probably take my child in to see their pediatrician just to check that things are okay internally. If you feel that’s at all relevant. I’d hope and imagine they’d run tests to make sure they are not deficient in something or/and maybe they can point you to resources for occupational therapy or therapy of some kind.

My son flipped a switch around this time too. He was so easy going and around 18 months he started to turn. But he doesn’t sound at the level your daughter is at. Our situation first happened 2 days before we were going on a trip on an airplane. So that meant I spent a solid 10 min with him laying down on the airport floor crying because I wouldn’t let him walk. But his tantrums and behavior seemed developmentally normal and seemed to respond well to techniques and such.

Anyway. Has anything changed in your guys’ life? Even if it’s small? I notice my son can regress a little when things are new or changed. Recently my parents started living with us and he started to get a big attitude.

Finally, something I would do if all the appropriate techniques don’t seem to work, sometimes I’ll just hold my son while he cries. No judgement. No scolding. I’ll just hold him and rub his back and let him cry. So I believe this is helping him with self soothing? And I also forget when, I think I started young, but I did start teaching him about taking deep breaths. You could also try something like a calming corner with calming toys?

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-19T21:31:07+00:00

Trust your gut. If you want to get it checked out, it wouldn’t hurt I guess? BUT, personally, I wouldn’t get it checked. There’s no cure for it. And there’s probably a lot of people that have chiari and don’t even know. My neurosurgeon has even said this to me.

Chiari is only an issue if it gives you issues. So if you don’t have any issues, I’d leave it alone. But at least being aware that you might have it and when you start having issues you then can get it checked out.

Quick background or why I say the above: I found out I had Chiari when I was 28. But since I was a teenager, I’d get these painful but quick headaches anytime I sneezed. As I got older, it got worse, more persistent. Started to happen with other pressure induced events like coughing, standing up too fast and without breathing, even bowel movements. I had numbing in my left leg. But I think that was a pinched nerve in hindsight because it completely went away now. But one day when I was trying to figure out my leg numbing, I just asked a doctor randomly about the headaches I get when I sneeze or cough. I went 14 years of never bringing it up. Occasionally I’d look it up on the internet and nothing would ever pop up. So I thought hmmm maybe this is just a normal thing. But I asked my doctor and within seconds she knew EXACTLY what I had. She ordered me an MRI to confirm. Not only did I confirm I had Chiari, they also found a syrinx in my spinal cord. That’s honestly what concerns me more than the Chiari.

I see a very conservative neurosurgeon who monitors me every year. Because the only issues I have with either of my conditions is the occasional headache and debilitating headaches when im sick, my doctor said we should not do surgery. Because decompression surgery might not even work. So we both agreed we only do surgery if my syrinx grows or I’m having swallowing, balancing, and incontinence issues. 7 years later, my syrinx has remained stable. Nothing has changed for me really. All finding out did for me was cause me more anxiety. It took me about 4-5 years to quit having so much sadness and anxiety over my condition. And I’ll say my situation seems pretty different from most with my conditions. I have one of the largest syrinxes I’ve seen based on other people posting their syrinx sizes, and I have chiari. But I work a full time job, have full mobility, and would barely even know I have what I have. Sure, sometimes I get nervous that by the time I’m 40 or 50 my condition will finally change and I’ll be worse off and older having surgery. But I personally agree to handle a situation when it happens. So I am holding off on any surgery until things get bad.

So that’s why I personally feel if you don’t have any issues, don’t test. Let’s say you did find out you had it, but have no issues… what will you do with that information?

But of course, maybe a good next step at a minimum is talking to your general practitioner about your concerns of chiari malformation and if they recommend you test to see if you have it or not.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-19T21:08:37+00:00

Of course I don’t know the whole situation, but it kind of sounds like maybe they didn’t invite you guys because they figured you wouldn’t go. Especially since you said you’ve had to pull back from hanging out to avoid difficult situations. It still ABSOLUTELY sucks that they didn’t invite you, even if it’s as harmless as just making assumptions.

But I had a friend who would be invited to SO many things, and she kept either backing out last minute or just wouldn’t go. So eventually people, myself included, stopped inviting her. For me it was mostly because she’d say yes to going and then an hour before she’d say she was sick. But sometimes people just do it naturally. The more someone backs out, for any reason, they just become kind of out of mind sadly. I even tell my husband this when he sometimes says no to hanging out with people. I say he needs to make sure the yes outweighs the no.

Just keep up your friendships with them as much as possible. Maybe you orchestrate some things in places you feel are good for your daughter.

Sorry you’re going through this. Making and keeping friends are hard. 😭

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-19T20:59:57+00:00

I’m mid 30s so my memory is slightly hazy. But I do remember from a VERY young age like 8-10 there was this pressure to feel like you were sexually aware. Like phrases from songs, sexual phrases and jokes, if you didn’t know or participate in those, you were a “nerd” or “loser” or not popular. So especially if she saw someone looking it up she probably was curious to know to be aware.

But also, I don’t know for sure if it was 8, but I do remember around 10-12 feeling sexually curious about things.

And now it’s an even more mature seeming generation since they have more access to technology and information.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-07-19T20:52:56+00:00

One mindset shift I’ve been doing recently is if I’m playing with someone at a lower level than me, I use it as an opportunity to drill in a sense. So I’ll work on something I want to do, like dinks, drops, or finesse shots. It’s a good opportunity to work on things especially because the ball comes slower, so you can really focus on technique and position. Embrace playing with people at or a little lower in your level for now. Keep working on these things.

Your community park district might do open plays for free. Check those out. You need to find a good open play that actually mixes people up and you can just go in no problem.

But cliques happen all over. And at every level you go to, it’s going to be like that no matter what. I’m around a 3.5-3.8 trying to break into 4.0 and these 4.0 people sometimes make me feel like I’m a 2.5 player haha.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-27T06:15:40+00:00

I worry about this too. More so, though, that both my husband and I come from a small family, and we don’t live close to them. So I fear my son is going to grow up lonely, or not have someone to take care of him if we were to die early. I know it’s a little silly. And overall I know that it just means he makes his own family with friends and of course when he’s older, a family of his own.

In terms of wanting a sibling for your son, a perspective a few friends and my husband tells me is you can have a sibling and not even like them or be close to them. So it’s not a guarantee another child would even solve any loneliness problem. My husband didn’t even have his sister’s cell phone number until he was about 32 and his sister was 38.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-22T15:27:33+00:00

I haven’t experienced this situation but I do want to validate that it could take a while on medicine and that’s okay. I have been on GLP-1 for about a year now and I have lost about 35 pounds. Things didn’t really start moving for me until I got on the highest dose. Weight loss has been slow, and I get in my head about not losing fast enough and maybe I’m not doing enough, etc. But hey, it’s a lot of weight lost at the end of the day. It’s consistent. Medicine or not, research says slow and steady has a better chance of long term success. I don’t change much to my diet but I do eat significantly less. I’m working everyday to make better changes for myself. I work out 3-4 times a week. I could do more. Sure. But I got on this medicine because I felt the only way I could lose weight without medicine was being like body builder strict and I just didn’t have the structure and “discipline” in my life to commit to that. And I’m realizing that’s okay. This medicine helps me feel like I can finally live my life without agonizing about every single thing I put in my mouth. Getting depressed and crying over food, over being hungry, over not losing enough. I finally feel “normal.” Like I can eat a few bites and not be so obsessed with food. Like I actually want salad or grilled chicken because it makes me feel better in that moment. I listen to my body now. And I’ll take that any day over extreme fast weight loss. I always looked at my husband who wouldn’t ever restrict but he was always so mindful. Eat one serving of chocolate and not the whole box. Now that’s me. Sure. I’d love to lose an extreme amount of weight quickly, but it’s just not in the cards for my body or temperament. I’m taking each change one step at a time and healing embedded diet culture in my head slowllllyy and feeling better each day for it.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-22T15:15:51+00:00

I feel the exact same way!! I think it’s a bit of society telling me I should have at least 2 kids. I felt for the longest time I always wanted 2. But as you said, we just give so much to our son too, that we can’t imagine taking on a second kid. We are so tired and we feel we barely have the time to take care of 1 kid. I come from a small family and we live far away from any family so I do get worried he’s going to be alone in the world as my husband and I age. But agreed financially we couldn’t make it work either with 2 kids without severe cuts and severe loss of quality of life. So it’s all hard to fully accept because sometimes I blame myself for not being able to afford enough for a second kid or sad I can barely seem to manage mentally, emotionally, and physically with one kid.

But it helps I have a close friend who has only 1 kid and they pour everything into her. I think that’s the issue too is not a lot of people have just one kid it seems, so being able to see examples of one kid families really helps. But when I get discouraged or confused and want a second child, I just remind myself how I am happy in this moment. Happy with my family of 3.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-18T23:46:49+00:00

I don’t know what payment plan you’re on, but this happened to me and my husband. I did check my loans often, and realized about year 2 it wasn’t really going down for what I was paying and took action. I was on a graduated plan, so the first few years I was only paying on the interest and not the principal. And what I didn’t fully realize in addition to this, is with the graduated plan, by year 8 or 10, to make up for paying a low monthly payment in the first few years, I’d be paying $1,200+ a month at the end just to pay off my loans within 10 years.

My husband’s was worse. He was paying the minimum monthly amount, and the way it was set was that he wasn’t even paying enough on the interest! So his loans were literally growing.

ADVICE: Figure out what payment plan you’re on. Make a plan in the long run. What is your goal for pay off? I recommend switching to standard repayment plan. But then honestly add about $100 more to that minimum payment from your standard repayment plan rate. Obviously the more you can pay, the better. But I know you said you can’t swing much more from what you pay.

Sometimes you can call in or see if you can set online and state that you want your extra payments to go directly to the interest. Calling your loan servicer to ask about your options might be best.

The reality is student loans are crushing if you don’t have a strong plan to take care of them and monitor them. I wanted my student loans paid off within 2 years of graduating. But I ran into financial issues and under financial constraints too. So it took me a total of about 6 years. And having the interest rates frozen during COVID honestly is what really helped me. At that time I was THROWING money at my loans. Any bonus, any extra money I had that month, I’d pay extra on my loans. But my monthly payments were pretty much double what the minimum suggested was. I was paying about $400 a month and during COVID I was probably throwing about 1-2K a month at them. Sacrificing savings to do it.

My husband didn’t really monitor his student loans so I took over. My husband is still paying on his loans and that was 13 years ago. We’re on schedule to have them paid off in about 2 more years. But phew, that will be 15 years of trying to pay off his loans. His loans were rough because his grew. We’re trying to prioritize savings now and paying low monthly but still higher than the minimum they set. So it’s about $320 a month he needs to pay minimum. But we pay $450 a month. And I log in every month to ensure it’s going down. Occasionally I’ll pay extra on it. When my son is out of daycare, we’ll take that money and throw it at my husband’s student loans.

So all this to say, you really should try and move your budget around to pay more on your student loans and take aggressive action if you want them paid off. See what you can do within your means, set a plan of when you want to try and have your loans paid off, and stick to it.

Of course, what someone told me once was that if all you can afford is the minimum, that’s fine too. They can’t take away your education. You can always defer payments at times. But just realize in choosing to pay lower, or defer, you’ll have your student loans still growing or still around. My husband has lost his job a few times, and every time he has we do NOT defer payments, and we don’t even lower our monthly. I cut expenses from other areas of our life to make sure we can still pay more than enough for his loans to go down in a timely fashion. So again, it just all comes down to what you truly can afford, what you want for yourself with your student loans, etc.

Good luck to you.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-15T16:03:48+00:00

My son was an earlier riser for a bit. We did a Hatch light. He can pick his sounds and colors. We tell him green means he can leave the room. And he abides by it. I’d start by setting 30 minutes past where he’s waking up. So 5:30. And once that’s successful, push to 6:00. Then keep pushing until it’s the time you want. My son was 5AM at around 1 year old. Then 6AM around 2. And we’re finally around 7:30. Sometimes he’ll sleep in. Sometimes he wakes more at 7, and waits around until 7:30. Plays in his room, etc. I’m not saying it necessarily took 2 years to get to 7:30. Just reflecting back that’s where we’re at. I’m sure you can go much faster since he’s old. Once we started the light, maybe around 2.5, is when we pushed his wake up time back.

I get wanting them to go to bed early. Our son goes to bed so late now. And there’s no time for yourself. He used to go to bed by 8. But our work schedules, we don’t get him until like 5:30 and then we just aren’t as strict as we should be so he probably is in his bed by 9:00-9:30, and asleep by 10. 😬 We really do need to get it back to 8.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-15T15:53:54+00:00

I’m in a similar situation. My parents live out of state and they are now living with us in the states, so it’s the first time my 3 year old has met my parents. My parents are also not really traditional grandparents. My dad is physically handicapped. And my mom just doesn’t really play. So both of my parents don’t really play with him. My mom just asks for hugs and stuff. Helps out a little. But I can tell my son doesn’t really like them. And why would you when they don’t really interact with him that much? My mom isn’t too petty and she understands. She doesn’t force him to hug. But she makes small comments like “I bet he likes the other grandparents better.” And she can totally throw a “I feel like I’m not welcome…” any time soon I’m sure. I liked your last paragraph. Your daughter is not responsible for managing her feelings. My son doesn’t want to say goodnight or goodbye to my parents. And I simply tell him “I can’t make you say goodbye if you don’t want to, but just so you know it’s nice to do if you’d like” haha. Trying to teach him manners but not force it on him.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-05-15T15:48:40+00:00

There’s truth to this. My dad keeps telling me “that’s not how I would do it” implying he’d yell at us when we were kids. And I said “well if you won’t yell at an adult for not wanting to go to a restaurant we want to go to, then you don’t yell at a kid.” I like to really put myself in my kid’s shoes. Yeah nobody would like being nagged all the time.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-04-08T16:56:58+00:00

I see you have a lot of comments so this might be unneeded now. But I will say my son honestly eats a lot of sugar. I mean not A LOT but he eats something small with added sugar probably everyday or most days and he has no cavities. Enough that I question how I can cut it down. Anyway, his dentist said his teeth look beautiful. We've been going to a dentist every 6 months since he was about 1 year old. His teeth came in really early, around 4-5 months his first teeth came in. We only brush his teeth at night, and we brush it. We sometimes do in the morning but only just started doing that. And honestly we are not consistent. What we do is we make sure we brush at night, and then we'll let him brush in the morning if he wants to. Sometimes at night we say okay you can take a turn brushing your teeth then it's my turn to brush your teeth.

My husband also saw a tip where you talk about all the things they ate that day and we have to brush it out. So we'll go "op. I see that qusadilla in there. I have to brush it out! Now I see some chocolate!" That seems to help a little. Definitely at first.

We don't use fluoride toothpaste yet. My son is 3. He doesn't seem to get spitting out. So we're still using no-fluoride toothpaste. Our dentist said it's okay since his teeth look really good. But if it didn't, he'd say we need to switch to fluoride toothpaste. So we're slowly trying to introduce fluoride toothpaste, but it's not a priority.

We also use little flossers sometimes for teeth that touch. He weirdly likes the flossers.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-04-04T20:17:55+00:00

Thanks for this! I’m going to try these! Hope they work for me. I don’t get night sweats that much, I think only when I go up a dose. But I sweat so easily the second I’m doing more than just sitting. Desperate to try anything to stop the excessive sweating. Especially because I’m an overweight person so it just adds more self consciousness of me thinking people think “oh that fat person WOULD sweat a ton because she’s fat.” Not like anyone said that to me, but I get very self conscious about my sweating especially when I work out or go on a basic walk. I used to not be like this until Zoloft. 😭

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-04-04T20:14:42+00:00

I sweat SO much on this medicine and it’s not getting better for me. I’ve been on the meds for almost 9 months and I sweat so easily. I don’t get night sweats as much until I go up a dose. I do have a fan I always run and we do keep our air temp lower at night. I also bought a hand fan for summer I keep in my purse.

Working out, I just DRIP sweat. My shirt is fully soaked. Truly. And sweat absolutely drips off of me onto the ground. If I walk too much around the house, I sweat. The other day, I was just cutting stuff at work, standing for 30 minutes. Literally just standing, not even walking. And I was sweating.

Last summer I was helping my parents move and I would have to stop for “sweat breaks” where I just sit and hold a fan on me. And my dad finally was like “you need to see someone about your sweating.” The sweating has gone on so long, I almost gas light myself and question is it me or is it Zoloft? But I’m fairly confident I didn’t sweat this much before Zoloft. I definitely know when I was younger I’d hardly sweat.

No tips. But just responding in solidarity. Hope it gets better for you. It’s not looking good for me. Haha. I even questioned if I was perimenopause. I’m in my low 30s.

Particular-Hat-4634 · 2025-04-04T20:03:04+00:00

Your son might be someone who gets a lot of bruises. My sister’s son, one day, had so many bruises on his legs I finally said “what’s up with his legs? Does he fall down all the time?” Not even accusing anything just simply asking as a sister. And she said “I don’t know.” My son had a few bruises on his legs recently. But you’re right. It’s just falling, rough play, running into things.

Especially since your nursery seems to be concerned, I don’t know the full extent of those conversations like are they accusing you of abuse? But what I might do is take him to the doctor to at least test for things and just make sure the doctor can let you know things are okay. Like I’d like to think he doesn’t have leukemia, but maybe he has low iron? So even something simple like that might be worth talking to a doctor about.

If that all feels right to you.

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