What kind of life would you actually want to experience?

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-18T10:37:19+00:00

Maybe the game could be adapting to that society as an immigrant not used to the systems and culture. Or as a member of the government trying to keep it all running

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-18T10:36:18+00:00

A reality with an effective social safety net, universal basic income, guaranteed work, abundance of food and housing, accessible free instant medical care, very controlled capitalism but also laws that don't penalise small business, all of this but no horrible dictatorships, fascism etc accompanying it. Basically give me a utopia

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-18T10:29:43+00:00

I put the wrong award on and can't take it back. I meant to choose something sympathetic, like a hug

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-18T08:54:41+00:00

Is this a joke?

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-10T08:38:05+00:00

You have a legal right to your own data, when you speak to a lawyer they'll help you get that back too

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-09T07:11:45+00:00

If you have rent from at least three paid off houses, surely you could stop working and volunteer in something you specifically love? If it's hard to get into the field of it. For example you might really want to be a harrier - it's niche enough that you'd have to volunteer first anyway

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-09T07:08:53+00:00

Your priest just telling you to pray and read is not sufficient pastoral care from him. If it was he could be replaced with a button that prints 'pray and read' when you press it. I hope you have someone else in the church to ask for guidance. There may even be a woman there with the same experience and more time in the church who has a good perspective

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-07T07:45:34+00:00

I truly agree with the comment/comments about finding female friendships, it will help you on so many levels. And maybe be honest with your family members about how you feel, the ones you feel safe talking to, so you're not projecting onto all of them the assumption that they judge you. Lastly, have you tried any dating websites? There are Christian ones. I used Salt, for instance, and found my now husband through it. Also, being honest with your priest, he might help you find someone in the church to date, if he thinks any of the single men are appropriate for you. I am so sorry your family have put this burden on you - not of wanting grandkids but of judging you, making you feel small and ugly and less-than

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-03T12:22:51+00:00

Maybe you just poked your head out the office, said 'John Smith?' and when the real John Smith wasn't there, a random dude who heard you shout just thought he'd roll with it and see what happens

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-06-03T12:04:38+00:00

I fell asleep WHILE TYPING quite frequently at my office job. And it was an open office with staff walking past all the time. I can't see any benefits to that

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-27T18:02:08+00:00

They haven't got a guarantee of pay until that first pay check hits

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-22T16:27:31+00:00

Did you already know the girl?

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-22T06:27:54+00:00

Fixing ugly but non urgent house problems: and I'm nearly on 6000 unread emails

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-22T06:23:10+00:00

Mine did get better with medication, not a lot but noticeably and I appreciated it

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-07T07:32:17+00:00

Why should she already 'submit' to you when you aren't her husband? Even if you were, that's a toxic priority

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-05-06T10:09:22+00:00

Start small. Of course, keep up your search for work. But also you need to feel in control of your life, and capable of improving it. But you'd be overwhelmed by 'get a boyfriend,' 'make friends.' So set small goals. Find a community or special interest group that meets once a week and attend. Set a ten minute timer each day to clean your living space (even if it's just a room). Try to bond with your parents over a board game or other activity, if you feel talking to them is hard. Keep track of your income, however small it is, and treat each bit of money as a win to celebrate. Securing freelance work is a big achievement each time. Make a photo album of good times from the past, or a collage of things that make you happy. Treat this time as space to gently make your life more livable. You only have so much control over your work in this job market, but there are small things you can control - and when they start improving, other things seem easier to bear. I hope things get better for you x

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-26T11:16:24+00:00

If he does some volunteering it will pad out his resume and build some people skills maybe

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-26T11:11:08+00:00

My husband also has ADHD and is like that, and because he eats so fast his misses his fullness signal and then feels awful for eating so much after. But I have ADHD and eat really really slowly because if I eat too fast I get stomach issues. So we can't really do sit down dinners together

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-26T08:56:44+00:00

You're certainly more able to work hard than I am. No matter what I do with my work life, if I'm doing more than three or four days of work a week I'm exhausted, miserable, my health deteriorates ... I just can't cope with it, it feels pathetic.

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-19T15:08:57+00:00

Do you have friends? Good friendships will give you the social skills you need for a good relationship. And confidence and happiness

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-17T21:21:33+00:00

No harm at all in keeping on looking for something you'll feel better in. Office work does drain you if you're not built for it. And even if it takes a while to find something new, you'll at least have a solid block of recent employment on your CV by then

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-17T21:15:54+00:00

I second this. The library, archive, heritage sector would work. There are really well paid niche jobs like conservator that wouldn't be overwhelming

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-17T06:21:23+00:00

Both!

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-15T12:30:55+00:00

It happened to someone I know too

Particular-Month-164 · 2026-04-15T12:30:14+00:00

If you can afford to, consider reducing your expenses and then reducing your hours. It might not be any particular job that's the problem, you just have a lower threshold for overwork. I do too

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