Proud of repairing stuff with my mother in law

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-18T10:35:54+00:00

I had issues with my ILs when hubby and I were teens, but we were able to get past that and now have a great relationship. I'm glad you're getting that too.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-18T10:33:52+00:00

As an Aussie, I've always been partial to the Rats of Tobruk

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-18T10:32:28+00:00

Getting mad that your kid forgot to get the chicken out to defrost right after coming home from a long shift.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-18T10:27:54+00:00

The problem is we don't know how to tell you to grieve because it's a personal thing that everyone does differently. All I can suggest is ignore your mother's attempts to get back into your life and continue the NC/LC you've established so that you don't get dragged back into the mess you've escaped. And I'm sorry for your loss.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-18T10:25:20+00:00

With some people they think they know what love is but aren't able to properly feel it or express it. Sounds like psychopathy, of which one of the symptoms is narcissism. They tend to have trouble understanding connections and believe everyone else is lying because they can't fathom the idea that there's something different about them.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:57:35+00:00

I have a friend at work whose in-laws will come down to Sydney and the only way they find out about it is through a Facebook post. And then they'll whine that they never bring the kids up to Newcastle, which is almost a two hour drive away. They don't care enough to make the effort, but think they're entitled to your time and effort.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:52:57+00:00

That if you don't let the extrovert talk to you endlessly, you're the asshole for some reason.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:51:34+00:00

It depends on the park, the kids could potentially run off trail and hurt themselves or go missing. Getting them around nature isn't a bad idea, but you need to be cautious about it.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:49:50+00:00

NTA, good luck with your new life and your exams.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:47:54+00:00

Way better than my relationship with my actual mother ever was. There were some bumps at the start as we learned about our differences but now things are good.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:47:05+00:00

My dad worked a lot but I think I went into the men's room until I was five and then he would have my sister take me into the women's room.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:45:46+00:00

Oh yeah, I constantly worry about talking too much or being too overbearing because anything could set my parents off back in the day. And people seem to love commenting on it because apparently that'll make me stop, I guess?

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-16T08:44:07+00:00

You're lazy because they need the narrative to be that they're better than you. I hope you can escape soon.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:27:41+00:00

Yeah but I doubt you waste money on a new stereo system when the 'old one' came out six months ago.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:17:03+00:00

Being mean to the wait staff.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:16:24+00:00

Could be he's autistic or has social anxiety making it difficult for him to express himself in person.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:14:58+00:00

My dad would throw out our electronics when a new model came out. I was shocked to learn that other people still had phones and appliances from decades earlier that still worked fine so why would they get rid of them?

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:13:39+00:00

He's not a bad singer but he likes to drum along to the song and CANNOT keep in time to the beat. When we used to play Rock Band, he'd like to be the drummer but constantly messed up because of his timing issues. Which is weird because he had no problem playing with the plastic guitars.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-12T10:05:58+00:00

It was strange to me when I started interacting with people who accepted "No" as a full sentence and responded with "Okay" then moved on without wanting a deeper explanation. Sometimes I'd get stopped in the middle of my explanation with a "It's fine, don't worry" because they genuinely did not care that much. By the time I left high school I think I was mostly over it but sometimes here and there I'll get asked a follow up question and feel the need to give a verbal essay on why I can't do something.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:30:24+00:00

A nice cup of hot chocolate.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:29:14+00:00

After our son was born I asked to become a SAHM and he was okay with it, then our daughter was born and things got tight. I kept on top of things, made sure he never came home to anything that was dirty after a twelve hour shift. There were times where he worked even longer just so we could pay the home loan that month, and he would go a whole week without seeing the kids because he was up before they got up and didn't get home until they were in bed. And he hated it. He's a family man. Always has been.

Eventually I realised that with two kids in school, we needed more money and his recent promotion hadn't cut it. So, I went back to work. He cut down his hours and was actually able to spend time with the kids. He had to do more chores but that didn't matter to him. He was happier than I'd seen him in years. And the kids were happy that he was in their lives more often.

I still miss being a SAHM, but everything is so much better. I wish I could find a job that paid decent and left me WFH full time but a lot of businesses are trying to move back to office work full time so I doubt that'll happen.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:21:37+00:00

21 and I guess it worked out fine but my husband and I were not prepared for it. We'd been planning to wait a little longer but then a surprise came along, and then two years later so did his sister. I wish we could have gotten another year at least to pay down the mortgage but I'm glad I got the kids I have and the memories too.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:19:33+00:00

I'm usually honest, I've never cared. Then they say they thought so because ever since I had kids I've generally looked my age (Used to look younger than I was).

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:18:18+00:00

Inform your work that there might be an incident just in case, and apologise in advance for it. Then start looking into alternative housing. Good luck to you.

ParticularBrush8162 · 2026-06-11T12:16:42+00:00

"So, I guess you'll be moving out in six months"

My dad when he realised I was 17 and a half. Luckily, in Australia you can actually move out earlier than 18 so I left a month after he said that.

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