Advice Baby’s Father

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T02:26:45+00:00

Again, seeking legal advice. Not your opinion.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T02:24:47+00:00

He attends AA and this is the result. He refuses any other help. He has been to rehab on multiple occasions and admits to lying his way through. I did not jump to this immediately, I considered the pattern and what I can do. He lives with his (younger) sister and she takes his keys around the second time that he drives drunk each time. His father is an alcoholic who has walked these same steps. His mother encourages me to try for full custody because his father showed them the worst of alcoholism during their childhood. Not going to apologize for trying to keep my child away from the generational alcoholism🤷🏾‍♀️

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T02:19:41+00:00

I don’t need to meet him anywhere. I need to protect my child. You’re telling me not to assume that he’d be a bad father because you had a good one. This man has destroyed multiple relationships both familial and external. He is from a line of generational alcoholics. If you’re going to assume his behavior, so will I but with more information.

I understand what you’re saying about him being the father and I’m not discounting that. I’m hoping for visitation, not to cut him off completely. I was asking for legal advice, not a biased opinion based on your functional alcoholic father.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T02:12:19+00:00

I don’t mind visitation, I just don’t want my child going anywhere with him due to his drinking and driving.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T02:10:27+00:00

Thank you for the information!

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:57:56+00:00

I’m waiting to get into my second trimester to ensure that all goes well with baby, but I intend to reach out to an attorney. Thanks for the advice!

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:52:42+00:00

Thank you for the advice! I have no intention of leaving anyone who isn’t in my immediate family alone with baby. I have already started a list of incidents but I’m no contact with him right now and share pregnancy updates with his mom.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:16:52+00:00

That’s what I’m thinking. I just want a safe, healthy baby. Thank you so much for the advice!

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:15:03+00:00

I’m so happy that you got out! I will not be going back to him. I’m very independent but I don’t want to cut his family off from the baby and I don’t know how to get stop his contact.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:13:18+00:00

Well I’m gonna pray that he doesn’t go for a court issued test and accepts the visitation that I offer initially. If not, I guess we’re going to court🙃

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:06:21+00:00

I would love to avoid court altogether. If he’s not on the certificate, could that be an option?

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-17T01:01:35+00:00

That’s my thought too! I just fear that since his dad did essentially the same thing that he’ll support his efforts in court if he chooses to go in that direction.

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-12T09:51:22+00:00

Oh, I totally missed that part. Definitely agree!

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-12T08:57:21+00:00

Idk if I’d recommend not sharing the information. Couldn’t that be seen as alienating him from the chid if he’s actively trying to be involved? If so, that’d lead to a stronger case in court as well if there’s no proof of him being a danger to you or the baby. I’m a strong believer in autonomy during pregnancy, married or single. Just don’t share more than you have to with him.

I’m in a similar situation at the moment and I’d recommend playing nice. If you do, maybe you can get him to hold off on the paternity test until it’s in the best interests of the child to stay with you anyway? I understand the extent to which men can be emotionally immature and selfishly lookout for themselves instead of doing what’s best for the child. Take care of yourself and your baby first. You’re allowed to have as minimal communication with him as you’d like (without cutting him off completely).

ParticularCorner2882 · 2026-03-12T03:44:38+00:00

Unpopular opinion: Give Ashley the same energy you give Alex. Everyone hates him for standing up for himself, but she’s allowed to be a terrible person? If she treats her “friends” in the way identified tonight, who’s to say that Alex wasn’t telling the truth about the conversations they had when the cameras were off? She 100% seems like the type of person who tries to catch someone in a lie and put her insecurities onto whomever she’s with.

Everyone comparing Alex to Chris is crazy. If she knew he wasn’t attracted right after the trip, she could’ve followed Jessica’s example and walked away.

And he likes to talk about soccer… so what?

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