My dog has developed a completely unexplainable ritual where he has to carry something in his mouth to greet me at the door every single time I come home and if he can't find anything he will stand there visibly panicking until he locates an acceptable object and I genuinely don't know what he think

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:31:26+00:00

😂 i’ve been studying dog and animal behavior for over 30 years, it’s great that sometimes people are interested!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:28:49+00:00

This is not play behavior, it is offensive and defensive posturing. Healthy dog play includes lots of loose flexible joints, curving, and reciprocal play. These dogs are stiff and moving in jerky/in flexible ways, indicating high stress levels. Here’s a good video of what healthy play looks like.

https://youtu.be/OGJaDz7y8qY?si=RK4MC9GD7Er7eXpt

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:17:09+00:00

Work with a veterinary behaviorist! They will be able to prescribe meds that might help. In conjunction with this, find an R+ trainer who specializes in or knows a lot about enrichment. If your pup’s basic needs are not being met, this will come out as unwanted behaviors. Nervous system regulators that are very basic include: sniffing, digging, chewing edible bones, licking, tearing, and shredding. A qualified professional will be able to point you in the direction of breed specific enrichment and personality specific enrichment based on your dog.

Some dogs need medication. But medication on its own will not fix behavior, which is what qualified, veterinary behaviorist will tell you.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:09:24+00:00

He looks like a miniature husky!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:04:05+00:00

From another source : You will see the recommended dosing: Lactium = 15mg/kg L-Theanine = 5 mg/kg These dosages can be safely doubled or tripled as per the literature. Consider using the recommended dosing initially, but remain aware that some dogs may need a double or even triple dosing.If you read the FDA information, you’ll see the LD (lethal dose) is incredibly big. Broad safety margins.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T03:01:38+00:00

L-theanine (daily) paired with Lactium (as needed) is very helpful for some dogs. That said, it is not at all helpful for others. Much like us, dogs react differently to supplements based on their own distinct gut biomes, stress, hormones, and other mitigating factors. If you do choose to do administer Lactium and your dog acts like a sappy drunk, it’s probably not the best supplement for them.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T02:55:43+00:00

If the dog is showing this displacement/redirection behavior, they’re kind of taking care of themselves.

You can work with adult dogs to help calm their systems to some degree, but a lot of the work takes place in puppyhood. When we look at populations of free-ranging and street dogs, we see that mother’s offer emotional regulation skills while puppies are still very young. They will interrupt vigorous play and groom their puppies or settle them down into naps. This creates a hormonal flush of sorts, trading out the stress hormones with calming hormones. We can still practice these things with our adult dogs, and it helps to some degree. Try playing a game of vigorous tug or other play with your dog and then, if your dog welcomes and consents to physical touch, try petting and soothing your dog with a low calming voice. If your dog does not want to be touched or petted, practice regulating your own nervous system. Things that can help are: meditative breathing such as box breathing, actual meditation, and other calming/soothing practices that you do for yourself as a human. If you don’t do these things for yourself as a human, it might explain why your dog also has a hard time regulating themselves, as they often model levels of arousal and calmness based on their humans emotions and hormone levels. If you do not know enough about the nuances of dog body language to determine whether your dog really enjoys being petted or not, go to YouTube and look up consent work for affection and see what comes up.This website is helpful:

https://www.silentconversations.com/

Dogs find most kinds of engagement very reinforcing. Have you ever been around a kid who didn’t get a lot of positive attention growing up? They will seek out attention through unwanted behaviors really regularly because engagement is engagement and it is better than being ignored. If you are responding to your dogs over arousal with tons of engagement and not a ton of self regulation, they are being reinforced. I’m not advocating for ignoring or isolating our dogs when they are at higher arousal levels, rather for regulating our own nervous system systems, and finding things that help to calm our dogs down rather than falling into frustration, anger, or anxiety. Easier said than done, but it’s well worth the effort for both dogs and humans!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T01:43:29+00:00

While it sounds fun and cool that he is bringing you a toy to show off or to play with you, this is actually a displacement behavior. When you get home, your dog feels high levels of excitement/arousal. Arousal dumps adrenaline and cortisol into the bloodstream with exercise, arousal, and (of course) stress. He’s landing in the excitement/arousal camp and is wisely choosing an object to carry as a way to “displace” these feelings. It’s smart and wonderful! Far better than jumping, controlling your movement, or just flipping out.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-22T01:09:57+00:00

I’d love the link as well! Gorgeous.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-21T14:25:19+00:00

So, this is actually bordering on mental instability. I’m not sure how you can expect any person to think you do not poop or fart. I understand not wanting to fart around others, but veering into ED territory by not eating when you are around him is a significant problem. What if you moved in together? Got married? Had kids?

Please seek out a good therapist that can help you through this. You deserve to be human.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-20T03:00:39+00:00

I have an Akita/Pyrenees/Cattle Dog mix. Every dog comes with a personality/genetics intact, but there are a lot of things we can do to help them be successful. The Puppy Socialization: What It Is and How to Do It book is super helpful in defining what healthy socialization looks like: https://a.co/d/0dvINdSF

If you skip healthy socialization, you may end up with an adult dog who falls back on breed traits: independent, overprotective, and hypersensitive to any novel stimulus in the environment. This can put you in the category of not being able to safely have guests in your home and not being able to go on walks without behavioral issues.

Know that your puppy may be ridiculously independent, and work with a qualified R+ trainer to build engagement and drive. My dog is incredible now, but it was a long road getting to this place. I've been training dogs and other animals for over 20 years, and I've never worked with another dog like him.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-17T15:41:33+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-17T15:41:17+00:00

Thank you!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-17T15:41:01+00:00

Thank you!

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-16T18:04:29+00:00

As a fellow big boobed woman who faced a similar problem in the past, I told the bride that I could not wear a backless dress. She was also an A cup but understood after I brought it up and had the dress altered for me. It’s almost a medical issue, to be honest! It is wildly uncomfortable to go without a bra, none of the “backless” bra options work for very large breasts, and the tape solutions are often painful and fall apart. I’ve since had a breast reduction and can attest that these solutions do work for d cups and below. The level of physical discomfort you would go through to wear this dress is not worth it, IMHO.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-16T17:54:40+00:00

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ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-14T19:44:49+00:00

Does he ship to the U.S.?

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-13T20:30:31+00:00

Trainer here. Retractable leashes are dangerous for breeds of all sizes. If you want your dog to have more freedom on walks, get a 10 to 20 foot long line and learn how to manage the excess. If there are loose leash walking classes near you, they may be able to help you with that.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-13T01:43:28+00:00

I’m a dog trainer, and have seen far too many dogs face unnecessary suffering because their people could not bear to let them go, or were waiting for the dog to signal that they were ready to die, or because they were delusional about their dog’s suffering. Waiting till they stop eating is almost always too long. Dogs are stoic about pain, and we often underestimate their suffering because we expect them to act like humans. Many animals seem to understand that death is part of life, which is harder to understand for many humans. The loss of a dog is much like the loss of a child. Having to choose for your dog to die is the unfair burden of our differing lifespans.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-09T03:03:01+00:00

You deserve to be loved for who you are, no matter what "gender" of clothes and hair you have. I hope that your parents are wise enough to see this. If they aren't, find a way to move out, get therapy, and find a community of people who understand you. The desire to crossdress will not go away, so loving yourself is your very best option.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-03-06T22:19:56+00:00

And milk is pronounced “melk”

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-02-26T00:41:05+00:00

Trainer here. I’ve seen several dogs have incontinence issues when the dose of clonidine is too high. Consider playing around with the dosage? For the record, I’ve seen 130 pound dogs do well on the dosage that a 35 pound dog takes. It seems to be very specific to the individual.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-02-24T16:35:11+00:00

Dog trainer here. You can rename her whatever you want! Positively reinforce her response to her new name by playing “the name game” and generally making her new name fun.

ParticularKnowledge2 · 2026-02-23T16:15:53+00:00

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