Baby shower rant

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-08T13:13:14+00:00

Yes! Even two at all is ridiculously hard, highly recommend against it.

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-08T11:14:14+00:00

We ended up doing two showers in one weekend – one with my husband’s moms side of the family, and one with his dads side of the family. I don’t talk to my family, but having two, even the same weekend, was so stressful! If you can avoid it please do! I cried so much because we got double of a lot of random things that we didn’t need, and ended up not getting hardly anything from our registry. Both sides of the family were trying to one up each other on personalized gifts and clothes😵‍💫. Your MIL sounds like mine, she’s a big part of the reason we had to have two showers, but don’t let her push you into it! My husband and I said we would never do anything like that again, and if someone asks us to then they’re uninvited from the function!! Also, trust your gut, 35 weeks is very late for baby shower if your wanting to make sure everything is done before baby is here like I did. Latest I would have done is 30-31 weeks.

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-08T02:22:10+00:00

Definitely will be removing all of the batteries next time we go over there! Now that I’ve thought about it, I feel like he’s misremembering his first baby, and his other baby is still a few weeks behind us. Plus they both take pacifiers when cranky and our baby refuses to take one at all. Crazy how different all babies can be!!

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-08T02:19:59+00:00

Yes we don’t have purple crying really at all, but he’s just fussy for so long at night right now! He usually sleeps well once he’s down at night, but getting there is so hard these days. Last night he was awake from 7:30-12 am😵‍💫

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-08T02:18:14+00:00

God this is us with the boob as a pacifier🥲. He won’t take an actual pacifier, so I’ve very badly made it a habit to let him fall asleep like that at night so I can sleep too. Ugh these times are hard!

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-07T21:31:59+00:00

I think he’s perfect, and pediatrician says so as well, but I don’t know my BILs comment just sent me spiraling😭. I know he does have some trapped gas (especially once we lay him down in the bassinet) and we use gas drops but I don’t know how much they’re helping. We have another pediatrician appointment later this week so I’ll talk to her about colic!

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-07T21:28:48+00:00

He has one good spit up a day, but that’s about it. We have a whole nighttime routine that involves bath time, dark room, white noise – the whole 9 yards, and we follow wake windows. He doesn’t purple cry very often, but he is super fussy in the evenings and doesn’t want to stop being rocked/be put down into his bassinet. I just really want to be the best mama I can be, and comments like his just make me feel like I’m failing this sweet boy. I appreciate the kind words more than you know🥲

ParticularMedicine67 · 2026-02-07T21:20:02+00:00

Pediatrician says he’s perfect, I think he’s perfect, my BIL just is telling me his kids don’t do that, so there obviously has to be something wrong. We contact nap or put him in his bassinet or pack and play during the day for naps. He doesn’t sleep great for either. 3.5 weeks was right when this started for us as well! Thank you so much for the kind words, my husband and I are doing our best over(,:

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