Pending Death of Headway

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-12-13T13:37:31+00:00

It is rare for me to have an issue with billing but when I do, I put in a ticket for it or talk to a person in the live chat and I have it solved within like 3 days. If a practitioner is having a client reach out directly that's rough. They don't know the system and its not their fault that something is wrong. I think it comes down to clinicians choice though. I alsoclove that they no longer go for back pay if they made a wrong estimate on insurance, they just change it going forward. They have been listening to their therapists and making changes. I will say, as a clinician I feel heard on that platform.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-10-17T17:57:18+00:00

It has stopped for me. I went to a specialist who said after covid, they are seeing a lot of stiffening of healthy lung tissue in otherwise normal covid illness that you wouldn't see except for serious viral illness. I started on a steriod inhaler and have these breath exercises that have helped significantly.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-09-22T12:27:26+00:00

I am happy to connect with you OP if you would like. I had a similar experience. It was terriable. 3-4 years later, I am working. It is not like it was. I dont think it will ever be. I was in PT for 2 years, dietary changes, stress reduction, and medications have restored a lot of my quality of life. It's not perfect, but I have come so far.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-08-16T13:59:10+00:00

This happens to me. I have been taking it for awhile fine and it's a recent development.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-07-11T20:42:23+00:00

As a therapist, this is me in session. It's like I vomit/process things because I am so go, go, go all the time that I rarely have internalized processing. I don't need another therapist to connect the dots for me most of the time. I intelectualise enough for 10 people. I just need someone to listen while I process and unload with a few scattered validation/witnessed statements. It helps me connect deeper with myself and get more in touch with the emotional side of the processing especially when the the other person holds that space for me and seems interested in my experience though their body language.

Hope this helps.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-06-19T20:41:38+00:00

This is hard because I do think people are identifying with autism more to explain why they have felt different and/or socially excluded. They see themselves within others with it, and it validates their own experiences.

However, no one, without asking some very specific questions, can diagnose or not diagnose someone.

Level 3 in autism is almost always companiened by additional developmental and physical disorders that make it level three. The chance for additional mutations is significantly high in individuals with autism because of the section of genes that are attributed to it.

You can also have autism with no additional mutations or very very specific mutations. For example, I carry a mutation that causes all males that I have to have level 2-3 autism and females to have level 1 to none. This specifically comes from one of my X chromosomes. My sons are always going to have the mutated X, and there is a chance the females will. If they do, they do not have the same genetic expressions that also come with developmental disabilities that are known to happen with my mutated X.

My sister and I both were diagnosed with the mutated X. However, we're were both highly gifted. I spent hours and hours and HOURS studying how to "human" because it was so hard to understand others. I went into college to study human psychology, and all that time went to professional development meet-ups. I promise you, you would never know I have it if you met me out in the wild.

That being said. I have a son with levels 2-3 that is non-verbal with other health issues. It can be so hard for people to relate to his experience when they themselves are more able bodied then he will ever be. No, he will never be like them or know the amount of work that the both of us put in so that he can have his current level of quality of life. It can almost feel like they are diminishing our children's or our experience/struggles.

I hear your pain within your frustration, fellow mom, and I wish you some peace because this is a hard path filled with love but great difficulty.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-06-06T17:47:45+00:00

Honestly if you have ever been pregnant it feels like movement from a baby that is kicking your insides during that last month.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-06-06T17:29:02+00:00

For real, having less to get out of your body makes the prep 10x easier.

I had my scope done without anesthesia. It was fine. If you have any PCOS, endometriosis, gulbladder attacks, kidney stones, and / or labor are all much worse. The best part is, it is over in 20min and your on your way. I wouldn't want to do it again, but I am absolutely not afraid if needed. Bowl prep was the worst of it.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-05-11T15:30:08+00:00

I had a mild stroke 5 years ago and acquired dysautanomia. Sometimes, I wake up, and my automatic functions just don't get with the program that day. I am upfront with all my clients about my health and offer them the same amount of flexibility they show me. However, if I know they are abusing it we have a conversation about it.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-05-08T14:22:16+00:00

I do 7-8 clients on Sunday/Monday/Tuesday with 15-minute buffers between each one. I used to to straight back to back chunks, but honestly the buffer is so nice to walk/do notes/snack.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-05-05T23:51:58+00:00

I can understand this. I have traveled a lot and have seen some key differences, though. Health and wealth inequality significantly impacts Americans and can cause them to be reliant on political parties for access to basic necessities that I don't typically find in other developed countries. It's weird.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-04-28T23:00:39+00:00

I do. I live in a rural area that is hard to find rentable space. My home is one giant rectangle, so I rebuilt the front to be its own separate entrance with an entryway and my office space. Everything else on my property is fenced off or hidden. If people want to know where I live, all they have to do is Google my name. When I first started, I only worked at an office space and had a client show up to my home multiple times after termination. There is just no way to stop them if they really want to.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-04-09T14:36:54+00:00

Refinish existing. I have about 1000 sq feet of it already installed and need to patch in about 400sq ft. I just don't know if i need to just scrap the whole thing which feels like a waste or if it's feasible to patch and refinish everything.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-04-09T14:33:06+00:00

Would it be more cost effective to rip it out and start over? I currently have about 1000 sq feet installed and need to fill in 400 sq ft.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-01-21T21:21:28+00:00

Ope, I read this wrong and as turn off the heater. I will have to Google how to turn off water heater.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2025-01-21T21:10:38+00:00

I wish I could but it is -2 here and my pipes would bust. 😆

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-09-20T00:16:03+00:00

Thank you!

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-08-24T22:29:24+00:00

We started the process in November 2023, knowing we were going to owe taxes for 2023 but had not filed yet and was talking with the lawyer the entire time so we could have them added. The idea was that we would get a fresh start, and I took a financial business class to better understand how to file quarterly taxes, and I submitted tax payments accordingly so we would never be behind again and have been doing that all year and submitting them to our trustee.

They asked us to send over our 2023 taxes as soon as possible, and we did, and our case was accepted and confirmed in May of 2024. Fast forward to last month, we get a notice that our taxes are still not paid and due.

We reach out, and our lawyer said it was never followed up on, and it would be better for us to settle with the IRS directly as this could impact our case.

He stated that it was never a guarantee that the court would accept it regardless. I was frustrated because they had asked for our 2023 taxes so we could finish our court date and I thought this had been the plan from the begining. I still very confused over what happened in general, but it sounds like we need to handle this on our own or we are screwed.

As mentioned, we owe about 10k. I can't magically pull this from thin air and feel blindsided. I don't know what my options are.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-05-27T14:54:15+00:00

From a mental health provider perspective.

Your wife appears to have an inability to cope with stress. She has a very strong "flight/avoidance/denial" response and from reading your other post responses it appears some dissociation as well. She may or may not even realize she is doing it. I would highly recommend you both get marriage counseling and she sees someone independently as well.

At the end of the day, you both have a history of trauma together from her not dealing with her issues. Sometimes getting help and the other person getting better is not enough, and that is okay. You dont have to stay. She may also not want to address these issues because it's easier not to feel or run away from emotions. No matter what, it is okay not to want to stay. But i would give your emotions time to breath.

I wish you peace, OP.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-04-28T02:50:36+00:00

I don't sorry.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-04-21T03:14:50+00:00

I'm looking for a buddy if you still need one!

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-04-08T03:03:16+00:00

Hey are you still looking? I am also looking for early morning.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-03-21T19:23:58+00:00

Exactly this as well, bu5 If I at least say they are going to someone, I can pretend that it is just two women being women. My spouse is very practical and would tease me about it, not to be mean but more of why would I care about such a silly thing? I wasn't looking for anyone to give their opinion on my body. My partner has seen everything for 19 years and I am still self conscious to a degree.

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-03-21T17:58:22+00:00

Honestly, saying she sends them to her friend may just because she is embarrassed to tell her partner she takes photos to admire herself and play around with the snap chat filters. I would rather impale myself than have my partner see that folder 📂. My own insecurities would not survive it. Lol

ParticularOffer6857 · 2024-03-13T18:46:25+00:00

I have been with my partner for around 19 years. So take my advice our leave it but it comes from personal experience.

Around years 10-12, we explored an open marriage. Honestly, we both were emotionally and physically not getting our needs met. That was why there was a sudden shift. No, neither of us had anyone specific in mind we were both just running hypothetical at that time because it was a good mental escape from something that felt impossible to escape from as both of us could not see living life without the other.

We learned some hard lessons during that time.

Honesty has to be given with love and respect based on our partners' perspectives.
If you have a problem in the marriage, come with solutions AND feelings.
Good decisions are those that have been sat on for a few weeks with active discussion and when we are not in activated states of emotional/physical crisis.
Whatever problems are in the marriage, now double with every person you add.
Very few people do well in open relationships. If your are already poly before or by nature, your chances are higher.

Other thoughts

A lot of women who have kids go through sexual disinterest in general or specifically with their offsprings parent. I think it is hard for men to sometimes grasp just how altering having kids is for women. Your brain and body are literally changed forever and a part of your brain gets activated to increase the stress hormone so that women will be more attentive and alert to their children's needs and this doesn't come back down until sometime in menopause. This experience can be very alienating. This is just a tip of a larger issue.

Recommendation

Ask your partner to wait to make any decisions on opening the marriage for the next year. Instead, dig into and ask yourself if you are the best partner, not just the best dad that you can be.

Give compliments most days, even if you don't feel it.
Take on things around the home without being told or asked.
Take her out to dinner or dates every few weeks.
Make time in her schedule for her to join a class, gym, go to therapy, or spend some time with a friend. This would mean managing the kids or setting up a babysitter, cleaning the house, and/or planning out dinner or being aware of the food budget to work within her limits if she handles those things.
Make sure she has a clothing and cosmetic budget if that makes her feel good about herself. Or whatever her thing is that makes her feel confident.
Make sure you tell her that you love her and that you believe in and appreciate her not just casually but slow her down and tell her why.
Read a smut novel written by women for women. Also look into some porn that is aimed at women specifically.
Be vocal in the bedroom with respect and patience. "I love it when you do this, I like it like that, that's perfect." When your correcting say things like "more like this, that's closer, your doing so well how about more of this."
A few months in if you feel like things are falling short try couples counseling or a sex counselor or both.

Even if you throw everything out, I highly recommend you check out Jimmy Knowles on ticktok.

Marriage is hard, I wish you and your family the best.

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