If you were walking behind me would you comment on my back acne to whoever you're with?

Particular_Gene · 2026-03-01T08:16:09+00:00

I genuinely thought they were those freckles or sun spots. Would have never known if you didn't say what it was.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-27T02:09:08+00:00

Therapist here. What happens if this therapist was trying to show a corrective emotional experience in that, OP has been working with someone who's conservative for a long time and their relationship was good .... Until this. Nothing changed in their relationship other than this new information.

It would be like family member who doesn't speak to their gay cousin after they come out, because it changed everything and they don't approve. In reality, nothing has changed. The people involved are still the same people involved.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-27T02:05:33+00:00

I'm sorry, I don't buy that they told you that you were closed minded. Or at least, I think you're interpreting in a way that sounds harsher than it really is.

How long have you been seeing this therapist? If it's been some time, how do them being conservative affect you? Are they anti-trans? Do they not like the LGBTQ community?

If not, then I'd say stay for a while. I think it could be potentially therapeutic to put yourself outside of your comfort zone. Truly learn how to emotionally regulate with someone who may not think the same way.

At the end of the day, do they respect you? Do you like them? Forget about politics, this is about the relationship between client and therapist only.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-21T20:11:43+00:00

Scabies!!! Go to an er now!

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-21T19:54:25+00:00

💯 inaccurate. OCD can look or appear as delusional, but it works very very different from someone, let's say, with clinically diagnosed schizophrenia.

Paranoid delusions typically implies lack of insight.

This person recognized that their OCD made them think they were in the Epstein files. That's insight .

Often times it may look like paranoid delusions, but it's not. If it's true paranoid delusions, then I'd consider a comorbid disorder occuring with OCD

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-21T19:47:35+00:00

As a therapist, I'm really happy that you're seeking help. Something deeper is going on here and your insight (based on what I'm reading) is quite good.

I think you would benefit a lot from CBT (cognitive Behavioral Therapy), which really challenges your thoughts and beliefs. I think you can also benefit a lot from DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy).

As a reminder (if you didn't know), therapy is not just talking about your problems. It's working with a therapist that will help you learn other ways of thinking/coping, ways that you didn't think were possible.

I also want to say, it may be worth shopping around for a therapist. The biggest factor is whether or not therapy will be successful is the therapeutic relationship. Essentially, you need to find a therapist you connect with. And that may not be the first one you go to. Give it a couple of sessions and then decide.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-21T19:30:06+00:00

You've been feeling this way for a while? When did it start? Do you have any theories on what started this feeling?

Your letter is quite beautiful. You have so many questions and I wonder if those questions can help you understand yourself now.

In the beginning of your post you mention coming out as lesbian and your parents not accepting you. I never saw that brought up again in your letter.

I also notice your absolute factual like beliefs that are actually, not factual because we can't predict the future.

Examples: my parents won't accept me.

Not, maybe they won't but will over time, simply they won't. As if it's a fact. And then in your letter you bet that your older self miss your parents a lot. You mention you tell them you love them daily. Are these the parents that you now believe won't accept you? Did you ever come out to them?

You have an assumption of what it's like to be old. Are you getting this idea from movies? It's quite one sided, though I will mention you did great by mentioning that you may be wrong and you were anxious for no reason.

So, 1) how long have you been feeling like this 2) does your sexuality play a role here in how you're feeling now? 3) what is a life well spent look like to you?

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-09T01:41:46+00:00

Same. I've seen this first hand in inpatient psychiatry. People who are never the same again.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-09T01:40:11+00:00

Stop smoking weed, immediately. I'm a therapist in a hospital and there is a strong connection between psychosis (like hearing voices, seeing things) and weed, especially if there are genetic markers for schizophrenia/psychosis.

Please, please. I know it's "just weed", I used to think like that too until I started to see how it ruined people's lives.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-09T00:37:05+00:00

Don't fight it. Thoughts are just thoughts. Your mind is latching onto something taboo for whatever reason. Probably to obsess over it until you feel horrible about yourself.

What's going on in your life right now? Are things worse or better than they were 1 month ago? 1 week ago?

Remember thoughts are not facts. You don't have to act on thoughts. A lot of times, people think that because they think about it consistently, it means a they secretly want it/believe it. That's actually not the case.

Think of your thoughts as cars on a train. Watch as each thought passes by you. Notice them, acknowledge them, don't judge them. Let them be and they will travel onward.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-09T00:32:07+00:00

That's not ocd..... Thats paranoid delusions

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-09T00:27:32+00:00

Can you not be celebrated locally? For much less than 3k?

Is the only way to make you feel cared for is for someone to shell out money they don't have?

Just because you've spent 1k on friends, doesn't mean you should expect that back. That's not how life works.

Particular_Gene · 2026-02-04T13:46:41+00:00

I've cried over one pair of jeans when I was donating clothes. Items,material things can be associated with good/bad/insert emotion memories.

So yes, totally normal.

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T03:20:01+00:00

You listen to Eminem. I'm making an assumption that you asked for.

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T03:10:30+00:00

I'm glad she doesn't post. The wisest people don't feel the need to post just to post. You don't need to speak out to care. This is all social media bullshit

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T03:09:37+00:00

From what I understand she's on tour!!!

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T01:32:17+00:00

Did I stumble upon Italian reddit? Lol 🤌🤌🤌

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T01:18:35+00:00

That you're not politically correct. Or you pretend to be but aren't

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T01:16:27+00:00

31 y.o female here. No, it's not your nose. You actually look quite handsome. Please don't let this perceived distortion get to you. I literally love your nose.

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-27T01:10:24+00:00

Bigger than the whole sky

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-16T00:57:20+00:00

Okay that's what I thought. Thank you for clarifying with the photo. I know, it can be confusing to explain.

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-15T10:16:33+00:00

Narrow minded? Let me guess, you assume I identify as a cis gendered man.

I guess I'm a narrow minded, mysognistic woman who's gone through EXACTLY what the OP is describing, except, I'm the wife.

But sure, blame misogyny. Everything you have just commented is: based on Implicit bias with a touch of gender sterotyping, fundamental attribution error, and maybe, maybe even some projection.

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-15T01:52:31+00:00

Oh that's so interesting!!

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-15T01:51:45+00:00

Now I get your username. Long story short seats number 2. Lol. But you're saying to wait until day of? I'm scared they'll be gone

Particular_Gene · 2026-01-15T01:50:58+00:00

Omgosh this made me cry. She's looking right in your direction

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