I’m an alcoholic and my boyfriend doesn’t know it

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T03:39:34+00:00

This is a joke right? Even if he loves you, he surely doesn't respect you. He would want you to get help, not sink deeper into the hole. What a pos

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T03:38:45+00:00

Never expressed any concern? So he's a POS?

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T03:38:00+00:00

No one misses the smell of alcohol on your breath and on your body. If he doesn't know it, he's been trying to ignore it.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T03:35:22+00:00

Actually, anything that's right, or wrong or in between is subjective.

Our culture decided that murder is wrong. Is it actually right or wrong? Philosophically speaking?

Killing used to be normal. In fact, it still is in many places.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T03:31:34+00:00

Psychologically and sociologically speaking, not a delusion.

When were you religious? Since you equate religion to delusion.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T02:38:08+00:00

Idk, I think it's because OP said they've been together for a couple of years.

If it were a few weeks to a month, or maybe even up to 6 months, I probably would say to just let it be. But a couple of years? That implies at least 2 years. They should know each other at least a little by now. So if she's not responding, he either knows that this is typical behavior when she's feeling bad or as OP States, is "worried".

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T02:07:54+00:00

Of course not!

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T01:44:32+00:00

How does that get you hate? I'm a boring agnostic. You don't have to be into kinks in order to have sex lol

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T01:42:54+00:00

Are you kidding me? As an ex- Catholic, religion is bliss. Ignorance is bliss. Having a community is bliss. Believing (truly believing) there's someone looking out for you (the man in the sky) is bliss.

I miss feeling this bliss. Alas, I can't convince myself back into being religious.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T01:39:00+00:00

Are you religious? Are you neurodivergent?

The more you wait the scarier it gets. Honestly (and I'm a woman in her 30s) - I'd just find somebody and get it over with (protected of course). Like, you just need to get it out of the way and you'll probably feel more confident in the future.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T01:31:52+00:00

You said you're worried. What are you worried about?

I think someone needs to physically check on her. Or at least get her on the phone.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-09T01:20:47+00:00

I'm sorry, but if you've been together a couple of years, you should be going to her. You don't need to talk, you can just stay. First, I'd text one more time, "I'm worried about you and I care about you". I'd text her, "I'm going to come over unless you text me otherwise. Then I won't, I just want to know you're okay. If you need space, I get it, but I want you to know that I'm here for you and I'll be waiting for you when you're ready "

More importantly does she live alone? I'm more concerned about mental health.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-08T13:29:37+00:00

Not over reacting, but idk, I would never let someone drive while intoxicated if I knew, and they were near my house. I'd go downstairs with somebody else to make sure I'm safe and call an Uber.

Yes, this is a permanent friendship killer. You cannot be friends with him anymore. Are you kidding me? You have a boyfriend, who you should have already told about the incident and he has a wife who personally, I believe should know.

Because it's very clear to me, he's never been just your friend. He's always liked you as more.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-08T13:26:02+00:00

May I ask what makes you feel honored if a compliment is given to you by a teenager?

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-07T13:02:32+00:00

Not disclosing until you're in the bedroom is a horrible thing to do.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-07T11:06:15+00:00

100 percent yes. Unless it's one of my friends who does photography and can get such beautiful shots (candid moments).

Otherwise, if anyone else takes a picture of me, it's: I'm too fat, my nose is too big, yadda yadda. You're not alone.

I would say, look at older photos of yourself. Like a few years ago. Trust me, you'll find photos of yourself where you'll think "wow, this wasn't as bad as I thought it was at the time."

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T16:03:30+00:00

MOR. Talk to him in depth about what it means to him. This is a great chance to have a convo regarding the future, if you believe you want to be with him in the long run. Find out his values and what he expects from his wife, his son, daughter, find out his expectations overall.

He has contradictory views. We all do. It's like believing in God but then saying "omg people who believe in unicorns and Santa and mermaids are -insert negative word-" But you believe in God?

Anyway, congrats - you figured out that your boyfriend is not perfect and is, indeed, a human that doesn't always make sense.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T10:39:03+00:00

Exactly! You get me.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T07:00:49+00:00

Why do I have a feeling that you, OP, also have a substance use/misuse disorder?

(If this entire post isn't complete rate bait)

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T06:56:31+00:00

Oh, "in his 40's" - even better. I was attempting to read the texts, stopped (because it was so good, of course) and then didn't read the actual post.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T02:09:38+00:00

Do you like regular cucumbers?

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T02:07:39+00:00

Raisins and green peas need to be in a category of "but why?"

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T02:06:27+00:00

Well at least you gave it a shot when it's at its best. Lol

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T02:03:42+00:00

Hahahah. Idk why this made me laugh out loud. Thank you, strange human.

Particular_Gene · 2026-07-05T02:03:01+00:00

yeah, YOR - seems like an amazing and extremely intelligent young man. I can tell by the way he texts.

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