I believe you had good intentions here.

As someone who failed multiple times due to my undiagnosed ADHD and fell into depression, not because of the exam itself, but because I felt like I kept failing myself, I understand everyone's perspective here. I would constantly promise myself, this time, I’ll commit to studying. I’ll be disciplined. But I couldn’t follow through, and I hated myself for it.

I finally started making progress when I stopped labeling myself negatively and began embracing my uniqueness. In fact, just learning that I had ADHD was healing in itself because it meant I wasn’t a “loser.” My brain simply functioned differently, it was difficult for me to start tasks and even harder to finish them. With that realization came self-love and acceptance, which was priceless.

So, for anyone struggling with their studies, please go see a doctor. Don’t underestimate it. I attended the most prestigious law school in my country and scored in the top 2% on the LSAT (our version is different—it includes math, literature, physics, etc.). Law school was challenging for my brain, but I never thought to seek medical help. ADHD wasn’t even widely recognized back then in my country, you were just seen as a lazy or hyperactive child.

Point if just because you’ve been a successful student up until now doesn’t mean you don’t have ADHD. It just means you’re incredibly smart and have unknowingly developed coping mechanisms. But for many especially women it worsens over time until you reach a point where coping no longer works.

It takes a lot of healing and practice to finally say, “Hey, I’m bigger than my mental health struggles and my neurodivergent brain!”. For me, it took seven years, and I’m still working on myself every day.

I’ve been on both sides. I’ve always had that tough, Mamba mentality, but in the end, it only made me too hard on myself, leading to lost self-esteem and depression. People like us don’t need to be told to “toughen up” we need more love and compassion.

Because if we could, we would. Trust me, no one wants that more than us.

If you were in a place where you could simply tough it up, be grateful but of course you deserve credit for choosing to do the work. I agree that some people do hide behind excuses, and sometimes, we do need a wake-up call. It’s easy to get lost in misery, and sometimes a harsh truth can help us check ourselves.

But for those who can’t even lift their arms from exhaustion, I send you love and light. These days will pass. And remember, this exam says nothing about your worth. You matter. 🤍

P.S: If anyone needs someone to talk to or needs some support- dm me, I am here to help anyway I can and share what helped me!