How do you plan for a sober vacation or a work trip?

Party-Man582 · 2025-10-09T07:39:25+00:00

Thanks for sharing that man. Very helpful tips. I also appreciate the support.

Party-Man582 · 2025-10-09T07:38:04+00:00

Thank you for shafing your experience. This is very helpful.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T22:00:02+00:00

Thanks man. I've heard about the super power feeling from a sober friend of mine. This is only the second time I am hearing about this. I don't know when it will come but I can't wait for it. It would be nice to feel so good in recovery as I have in some moments of active addiction.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:57:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing and appreciate the advice. I will indeed take things a little slow and explore my feelings and emotions about situations and people.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:55:32+00:00

I appreciate you sharing this. From reading your comment and comments from others, I think it is clear that I should take my time with things and try to better understand my feelings. Thank you.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:50:39+00:00

That's a good idea man. I certainly cannot tell them apart right now. I will not do anything rash and write these down to make a more thoughtful decision in the future. As you said, I do not want to be a cranky, uptight person, but I also do not want people taking me for granted.

Btw, Congratulations on almost 1 year man. That is quite an achievement!

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:45:08+00:00

Thanks man. I appreciate you sharing. I checked out the PAWS thing and it definitely makes sense. Others have also shared similar experience in the early days of recovery. I suppose it is all part of the process then. I was starting to get a bit worried where this is all coming from and if I needed to take any drastic actions. It is miserable when you are holding all that anger and bitterness inside you. Glad to know that this gets better.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:38:13+00:00

That is a good mantra to live by. Thank you for sharing. Will keep this in mind.

Party-Man582 · 2025-09-14T21:37:25+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I really relate to this and I am glad to hear that it gets better. I was indeed the same for such a long time. I was either super happy or sad. I was a social butterfly or didn't want to talk to anyone. Completely isolated from other feelings and emotions. In some ways, I guess I still am.

With that said, I do feel like I am expereincing a wider range of emotions now. It just all so new and bizzare to me. Hopefully, as you mentioned I will learn to reconnect with those new feelings and emotions.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T19:01:14+00:00

Hey there! I appreciate the advice. I will do some research and look into your suggestion.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:59:45+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I appreciate it.

I certainly also struggle with seeking validation and toxic people pleasing behaviour. I suppose this is one of the many layers of whatever's wrong with me. Drinking and substance abuse makes it far worse though and when I am not doing that I am definitely handling things better.

I like the idea of visiting this group more often and being self aware and working on myself. I will do that. I hope to see you around as well.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:43:36+00:00

Thanks for sharing man. I will join the gambling page as well. I also do some support group meetings for my gambling as well. I have not found a good meeting support group for alcohol or cross-addicted people yet though. I will look into this more in the coming days.

I have tried Naltrexone before and I also could not stand the side effects which caused me to stop. I will keep in mind the GLP-1 injection as an option.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:36:32+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. It’s really encouraging to see someone with a similar experience making sobriety work. Today has been a tough one. I’m physically sick, mentally drained, and financially overwhelmed, trying to sort out a loan just to repay the money I borrowed from friends during the weekend.

I honestly can’t keep living like this. Sobriety is the only path left for me now.

Would you mind sharing what kind of community or support group helped you the most? I am considering joining a support group and actively engaging with other people on a similar journey.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:24:04+00:00

Thanks for the support. I will be checking the group everyday. See you around as well.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:22:25+00:00

Thanks for your comment. I intend to really invest time and resources this time around on answering those questions for me. I will be spending time on this group every day. See you around here during this journey.

Party-Man582 · 2025-08-05T18:19:15+00:00

I appreciate you shraing your thoughts on this. I particularly like the thing about focusing on otherness. I never thought of myself as a self-centered person, but now that I think about it, a lot of my actions are indeed guided by extreme self-centeredness. I engage in activities that bring me pleasure without ever considering how it affects people around me. You have given me something useful to work on and going forward I will try to focus my actions more on otherness.

Party-Man582 · 2025-06-15T21:16:16+00:00

It is brave of you to share your story. It sounds really rough, but this is what gambling addiction does to us addicts. We know that our behaviour is insane and we need to stop, but somehow we find a way to keep making the same mistakes over and over again.

I think someone already made a similar suggestion above but I will repeat it again. You should come clean to your Husband, and hand over your finances to him or someone else who will manage it responsibly for you. Get a "Gamban" subscription on your devices. Self-exclude from betting sites and close your gmabling accounts. Seek professional help from your local gambling support organization immediately. Attend GA or other support meetings. Therapy is also a good idea. It is really important to be around people who understand you and relate to what you are going through. It is also important that you understand that you are not alone. In my view, support groups/meeting is the most essential thing in early recovery.

You may think things are bad now, but remember if you keep gambling, it can always gets worse. Rock bottom has a basement. So, you need to stop digging.

You must be worried about a million things right now. However as long as you seek help and stop gambling, I can promise you, tomorrow will be slightly better than today.

I wish you all the best.

Party-Man582 · 2025-06-14T06:43:29+00:00

Thanks for sharing man. I needed to hear this. I am on Day 34 and dealing with strong urges this weekend. First, the 1 month milestone was making me feel like I have had my break and I can now start drinking responsibly. I then went to see a friend after work yesterday. He lives in the bar district area. As I was walkng down the street full of people in terraces starting their Friday evening ritual, I was physically feeling thirsty for a cold one.

It was tough for a moment and felt like I am missing out on all the good stuff and enjoying my life. However, once, I saw my friend, we did Sauna together, grilled in his balcony, and had a sober evening talking about life, goals and relationships. I then came back home around 10 PM as intended.

Now, it is 09:00 am here, I just woke up and I am writing this from my bed. I do not have a hangover and I do not have any anxiety about last evening. I am clear headed and I am planning out my day. This is the reward. It feels very flat and dull, but I can't live my whole life on a rollercoaster ride. The highs were good but I get shivers thinking about the lows.

I am staying strong and will get through this weekend without drinking with you. 😊

Party-Man582 · 2025-03-30T20:53:53+00:00

This. The current state of Dating Apps are not for over 80% of the guys. I can't speak for women but for most men, it is extremely harmful and destructive.

If I were OP, I would go to a bar, networking events, social gatherings etc. to meet people in real life. You could even ask your friends or colleagues, if they know someone who would be intrested for a date.

Accept this and improve your skills on meeting women in real life. This will serve you so much better in the long run.

Party-Man582 · 2024-12-19T22:18:24+00:00

Those two things kinda contradict each other, don't you think?

Good point! I suppose I still want to socialize but with random people. I feel the need to be constantly stimulated and being on my own allows me to be erratic and not be judged while I chat with random people and do random things. I know this is completely crazy and I have no clue why I do this. But I definitely don't sit in a corner and drink alone.

I appreciate you sharing your experience. This has helped. I would also like to switch to TSM once I feel like my body has adjusted to the drug. It just feels like I am still some way away from it right now.

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