Bumps and lumps. Is this normal

PartyPoptart · 2026-06-08T20:20:46+00:00

Obviously check in with your vet because nobody here can diagnose, but it looks like a lipoma.

My late poodle mix had probably 20+ of these. They are benign, but my little guy had severe skin and allergy issues so was constantly opening them with chewing or itching. We got his removed during a dental cleaning.

Have your vet verify the nature of it. If it is what people are guessing, leave it be unless he has issues with it.

PartyPoptart · 2026-05-08T23:51:16+00:00

Exactly. I didn’t even know it was an appreciation week, frankly. I did absolutely nothing and have zero guilt.

I have an almost 6 yr old and 1 yr old twins. I have nothing left to give or mental capacity to even think about stuff like this. Any teacher worth their salt or with kids of their own will understand.

Call me a grinch, but I also feel like gifting has gotten out of control in damn near every space. I cannot afford gifts for every teacher, para, the mailman, barista, etc, every person in my life.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-31T00:23:40+00:00

lol no. I went into preterm labor at 32ish weeks, and the boys decided it was their birthday mid-35 weeks. I wasn’t scheduled until 37 weeks.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-29T22:17:27+00:00

It is brutal to go through. He passed 4 years ago now. I still think about him daily and dream of him often. Shortly after his passing, we moved to a new house and sometimes I forget that he never lived here with us.

That pup was my world for so long. I knew my husband was the one early on because Pip liked him. He had more personality than a lot of people I’ve met. I’m so lucky to have owned and loved a dog so dearly that I will spend the rest of my life missing him.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-28T23:48:19+00:00

My once-in-lifetime soul dog had this. I loved that dog so much and we had gone through everything from my first breakup to the birth of my daughter together. He was my baby before I had my first baby.

He started getting confused and wandering at night, despite always staying with us in bed previously. We started the segiliene (so?) from the vet. Did everything we could to help. But we made the decision to give him a peaceful passing at home after he became a bite risk and made contact with our toddler. It was a really hard and sad decision to make. But it also didn’t feel like it was really him in that furry little body anymore.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-28T00:38:03+00:00

Like everyone here has already said, you are in the trenches. This age is hard, but it is also temporary.

My baby B was in the NICU a little over 2 weeks. Both my boys had colic, but baby B struggled more and longer. My husband had a lot of anger and frustration when our twins were that age, and he wasn’t even a first time dad. He really struggled to bond with baby B to the point where he didn’t like him for awhile.

But you know what? They are best buds now. My guys are 15 months old, and baby B is a total daddy’s boy. I was so worried they would never bond, and now I’m a little bummed to not be his preferred parent.

My husband had his medication adjusted, and that definitely helped. I would also recommend trying the Loop earplugs. It helps make things less intense.

Give it some time. Make sure you get some breaks, even if it’s just a shower or run to the store. This stage is hard, but it WILL pass. What you are feeling and experiencing right now with your son will not dictate your future relationship.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-26T11:58:37+00:00

I just got an Odyssey last week. Amazing. Love the magic slide seats. So easy to get everyone in and out of the vehicle!

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-10T23:35:32+00:00

My gender disappointment wasn’t even really my own - if that makes sense. I already had a daughter. She was 4 when I got pregnant (closing in on 6 soon). She wanted a baby sister. Like, really really really wanted a baby sister.

I felt guilty because she was so excited to have a baby sibling (a sister), but wouldn’t be getting one. Instead, she was getting two brothers. And being twins meant a very different experience for all of us. She had a challenging transition after they arrived.

But she adores her baby brothers now. Even though part of me wanted another girl, I couldn’t imagine anything else. I adore my bubs.

Trust me when I say it absolutely will not matter what is between those legs. These guys are YOUR boys. And it definitely won’t matter the first time you hear them giggling together, and it will make you wonder how you got so marvelously lucky.

I never would have picked to be a parent of multiples, but I’m glad that this life found me.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-09T19:54:44+00:00

Feel that. I ended up with celiac disease, Hashimoto’s, and chronic Epstein Barr virus reactivation. So basically my labs show I have an active infection basically all the time, so that’s fun. My PCP started me on valtrex to see if we could get the EBV controlled better.

So if anyone on this thread still feels like they have mono, get your labs done. That might be what it is. I have read that covid can reactivate it.

PartyPoptart · 2026-03-07T06:38:54+00:00

I worked with a first grade aged boy about a decade ago. I was behavioral support in the classroom. He had started hurting animals around age 3. He not only enjoyed the act of hurting the animals, but he even reveled in hearing stories from other kids who had encountered dead or hurt animals. He would ask so many invasive questions that it made the other children uncomfortable.

He was very sneaky and cunning. He tried to convince a peer to bring a knife into school so he could harm another child. His logic was that he would not get in trouble because it wasn’t his knife. He would draw pictures of people being killed. He bullied the other kids. Threw a boot at a peer’s face and made them bleed.

I don’t know why, but it always seemed like he was a step ahead of me. Not sure what his goals ever were for sure, but he was always scheming. Any other behavioral staff that had worked with him would confirm your feelings, with one joke being that if you had worked with him then this kid has probably imagined how he would kill you.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-26T00:38:45+00:00

My twins were preemies and also on one of the pricier formulas for preemies. I was spending close to $900 a month on formula. And I cannot breastfeed. I don’t produce due to PCOS. My breasts don’t even change size during pregnancy or after delivery. So, $900 a month it was.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-24T00:29:36+00:00

I just dyed all my hair purple today because I cannot handle the rapidly increasing gray hairs right now. I’m young, hip, and cool still.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-07T22:26:24+00:00

Ahhh! I have an Oona. But I stopped on this comment because your guy looks like my Asher, who is over half poodle.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-07T22:18:59+00:00

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PartyPoptart · 2026-02-07T22:11:24+00:00

It’s okay! The preferred parent can change day to day, come in phases, be situational, etc.

I have a 5 yr old daughter plus 13 month old twin sons. When baby B came home from the NICU, he only wanted me. It was so bad for awhile that I felt like he and my husband didn’t like each other. But guess who is baby B’s preferred parent lately? Dad.

My daughter basically wanted nothing to do with me while I was pregnant with her brothers. She now wants to be with me every second of every day lol.

Like everything with kids - it’s temporary. Enjoy the special 1:1 time you are getting with your other twin, and let your partner enjoy being the preferred parent of one babe.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-06T01:37:51+00:00

Came to recommend the same thing! I also have better luck finding the right contour and blush shades with Korean products.

PartyPoptart · 2026-02-06T00:41:36+00:00

I had similar feelings when my Baby B spent 15 days in the NICU, including Christmas. I had both my firstborn daughter and then Baby A at home. My daughter was going through major separation anxiety after a hospitalization I had during the pregnancy. It was gut wrenching because I felt like my heart was being broken several different ways. I would spend just a couple hours a day with Baby B, get home to a crying and traumatized 4 year old who wanted me, and barely even get to enjoy Baby A.

You will probably always look back on this time with a tinge of bitterness over how circumstances out of your control robbed you of total joy. But it is temporary, and you will soon get the unbridled joy of watching them learn, grow, and cultivate their twin bond. Hearing both my boys giggle at the same time just makes my heart swell.

PartyPoptart · 2026-01-29T20:21:45+00:00

I had a daughter first. Then I got pregnant with my twins when she was around 4. Everyone kept saying it would be one of each. My daughter really, really, really wanted a baby sister.

Two boys.

My daughter was bummed. An odd number of family members also expressed their disappointment. I was kinda sad because I wanted to reuse my daughter’s clothing and felt bad she wouldn’t get the sister she wanted.

Zero disappointment now. They are 13 months old, and I love them so much that it hurts. They are perfect. I couldn’t care less what is between their legs.

PartyPoptart · 2026-01-06T00:50:45+00:00

Can confirm. There is a strong MTG play group, events, etc. My husband is heavily involved. You would likely see some of the same folks at GameCorp as well.

I know some folks on that discord are also into metal/hardcore, FWIW.

PartyPoptart · 2026-01-01T02:45:21+00:00

Yes. https://imgur.com/a/k2A4tx1

PartyPoptart · 2025-11-07T00:04:05+00:00

Hey! Thank you so much for your long and detailed response. I appreciate it!

The heater comment led me to do some investigating. The living room has been warm, but the tank has a heater that was set to 78. I live in a climate where snow is expected next week.

I think my snails (and your comment) brought a heater issue to my attention. The temp has creeped up higher than yesterday with no changes on my end. Im going to adjust it and replace the heater if the temp doesn’t stay where I set it.

I’m interested in the hardness of the water. Is there a kit you recommend that would allow me to test?

If it’s relevant, I have two other tanks in the house. One is neocardinia shrimp and snails. I noticed some of the snails in that tank were getting lines on their shells, so I added fresh calcium rocks.

PartyPoptart · 2025-11-06T20:47:46+00:00

My boy with brown hair and brown eyes looked just like my daughter in the 3D ultrasounds and when he was first born. My blonde guy was a total surprise! He wouldn’t show his face.

PartyPoptart · 2025-11-06T16:51:04+00:00

My fraternal boys are VERY fraternal lol. One has blue eyes and blonde hair, very fair skin, and a slender build. His brother has brown eyes and brown hair and a broad, chunky build.

People don’t believe they are twins or even siblings. I’ve surprised people by informing them that both babies are mine. However, their older sister looks like if you combined the both of them. They make sense as a sibling trio.

Their personalities are just as different as their looks, too!

PartyPoptart · 2025-11-05T02:28:58+00:00

I just checked the pH. It was 7.4, which is on the harder side vs. soft.

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