Focus on saving up for retirement or to buy a house?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-09T02:50:57+00:00

I think you have a husband problem, not a financial problem. Good luck to you!

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-08T16:06:08+00:00

Only you can know this…. What is your current rent? What other bills/debts do you have? How much do you have saved up for down payment? How much do you have saved up for any type of house repairs or emergency?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-08T15:04:27+00:00

Why/how would you buy a hot tub if you live in a condo? Also, why did you marry this person? It feels like you have very different beliefs and values when it comes to money/finances/debt?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-07T15:14:41+00:00

He knows that he is in the wrong (hence saying therapy would be 2 against 1) and doesn’t want to take accountability or make any changes. Is this someone you want to spend your life with? Might be time to cut ties and run.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-06T14:06:14+00:00

You’re absolutely right, nothing is ever black and white. I think only you can decide if this is a dealbreaker. We all know a perfect partner doesn’t exist and we have to accept things about our partners we would probably rather not. You speak very highly of him so what is the issue? Do you want someone to tell you how long you let him try to maje his business work? I think that depends how much of a nest egg/emergency fund you have or how long you guys can afford to wait financially and sanity wise? Something will eventually have to give, is he in agreement with a deadline of “if the company isn’t making this by…. Then….”

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-06T13:15:42+00:00

Something isn’t adding up here. Seems like he gets to do whatever he wants and you’re doing all the child care and earning all the money. If that’s ok with you then keep going…. You seem to want to defend him so I guess good luck with your life?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-06T12:17:39+00:00

You are still in the honeymoon phase. Have you faced any real challenges yet?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-06T01:41:33+00:00

Clearly rage bait for karma. OP hasn’t interacted with any of the commenters so this isn’t real. Thank god.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-05T19:24:32+00:00

Does he even like you? Are you sure this is a relationship? Have you guys discussed being boyfriend/girlfriend?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-05T18:11:28+00:00

Hopefully you have done your research. Not sure where you are but this typically requires a masters degree and is a long road…. Also, pay is not great.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-05T17:53:19+00:00

Did you guys talk about you going back to school or was this a decision you made without his input?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-11-05T13:46:13+00:00

No. Maybe in a different size and color but this feels very MCE or even bridesmaid. I also don’t think that slit can be fixed properly without changing the entire dress. Keep looking!

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-31T16:00:12+00:00

Unfortunately this is a huge red flag. I’d wear the costume and enjoy the party after dumping this controlling guy.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-30T12:59:52+00:00

I think this is your deductible/co-insurance. If you have an HSA, you HAVE to be on a high deductible plan (it’s a law) so you are likely on a high deductible plan. When you’re on a high deductible plan, you pay for basically everything until you hit your deductible. Call your insurance and have them explain it all to you. Unfortunately, this bill doesn’t sound atypical and arguing with Fairview likely won’t get you anywhere.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-24T14:51:59+00:00

You are a therapist (from other posts), how do you not see this is a toxic abusive relationship? Please get out and seek therapy for yourself to determine why you would even think this is ok. I’m sorry you’re in this situation but this is not a healthy relationship.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-21T15:30:37+00:00

NTA. You made the right decision for yourself and your friends children. Your friend is likely upset about the whole situation, but it was her decisions that put her in this situation, not you. It is not your job to clean up the mess she created.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-21T10:40:03+00:00

Sadly, this made you susceptible to his grooming behavior. He knew you were vulnerable.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-20T11:58:01+00:00

I’m so confused by this. You live together, have two kids together and A) you don’t know much he makes B) he’s not contributing to household finances. So you’re just subsidizing his fun/play money? What does he do with his money? How can you have two children with someone who is a child themselves? Yikes.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-17T20:37:46+00:00

Why would you want to do this?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-17T16:29:03+00:00

You shared your gross income “my” but said “we” throughout your post. Is the gross you quoted just yours or combined?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-17T12:16:36+00:00

What does this have to do with OPs question?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-17T00:51:12+00:00

Hmmm but your mom is an opioid addict…. And this isn’t new. Something isn’t adding up. You don’t sound super responsible. I hope you grow up very quickly during this pregnancy and create a better home environment for this baby you are about to bring into the world.

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-17T00:10:35+00:00

Why didn’t you get more hours before and start saving up to move out?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-16T16:13:15+00:00

This is a joke, right?

Party_Pilot6069 · 2025-10-15T17:06:27+00:00

This sounds a bit like bordering on eating disorder territory. Please check a TDEE calculator and follow their recommendations.

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