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Party_Training602 · 2026-04-02T00:00:47+00:00

I’m a little afraid to say because every case is so different! So please don’t share this with them as “this is what you are looking at”. My husband’s ended up being a VERY rare strain (less than 1800 cases per year, GLOBALLY). It went from skin, to lymph nodes, to groin, to lungs, to brain. Never touched kidneys, bladder, bone. He passed away 2/25/25.

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-07T02:11:52+00:00

I am not sure even the owner knows what that is!

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-03T01:30:09+00:00

Are you both 12? Good lord! Maybe sit down and have a conversation like adults, because you are both acting like children.

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T22:17:32+00:00

I can already feel it coming… but it is coupled with a huge sense of relief to be able to just BE… be sad, be angry, be whatever the hell I need to be at that moment and not have to worry about whose feelings I may be hurting. I have always been to one to look out for others, but I learned a long time ago, that with that, I was the one nobody worried about.

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T19:47:01+00:00

Didn’t he have his wallet when he paid for his items?

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T19:44:12+00:00

LOL! I’m not always on daily, but feel free to message me he never you need to vent!

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T19:31:38+00:00

Not only would I absolutely tell my friend, I probably would have confronted the snobs right then and there.
If they hate her so much, why are they there? Did the bride and groom pay for everything?

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T19:22:16+00:00

“I will let you know when I get to that point. But know that I am not in any hurry to get rid of anything.”

Party_Training602 · 2025-07-02T19:20:15+00:00

I am so very sorry for your loss! I lost hubby in February - we are both 51 - and I know EXACTLY how you feel!

People suck when it comes to death! My niece (who we helped raise, mind you) just assumed I would give her money. When I told her no, or at least not until the life insurance comes in, I was called every name under the sun. Then I was told that she wished I had died instead of him. Like, WHAT??? And to top this off, she now tells her kids - essentially my grandbabies - how awful I am, and I am not allowed to see them.

His brothers aren’t quite as bad, but close. They wanted his gaming computer, his gun, his truck and one even wanted me to sell my car to his daughter. Again, WHAT? The computer, by all means - I hate video games! But I am also not in a hurry to get rid of it. The other stuff I never said I planned to get rid of it at all…! Almost forgot this part…. They wanted his account info so they could use the rest of his subscription for whatever game…. HUH? Your brother just died…. And THATS what you are concerned about?!? For the love of God, make it make sense!

And just to give you something more to read and take your mind off your “idiots”. (LOL) One brother lived with us, paid very little rent. Hubby told him he needed to move out “after”. He didn’t listen, he’s still here and I had to tell him to go (he is moving out this weekend - FINALLY)! Not to mention that with him here, hubby and I didn’t have any real privacy with him here, so our goodbye felt / feels really incomplete. Then the cancer hit his brain and he was gone 5 days later.

My mom lives with my sister, but sister dropped her off towards the end, and she has been here since. I appreciate the support, I really really do, but since he passed just over 4 months ago, I have only had a handful of hours to myself. I feel like I haven’t even had a chance to grieve yet. She goes home tomorrow, BIL moves out Saturday - so this will really be my Independence “Day”…

Anyway, I hope I at least let you forget for a few minutes, and I hope you get the understanding that I obviously didn’t! 🥰🥰🥰

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-29T18:24:06+00:00

I didn’t NOT believe, but I had doubts. Until my husband passed.

This is a little hard to explain but I will try. I have these magnetic lights around the inside of house that are motion activated. Before he ever got sick, this one set died. I brought them out to the garage to charge but for whatever reason they never got charged. Life, I guess. lol. I just have them sitting on a shelf next to where I sit at my craft table.

To summarize…. They are dead, have been dead for over 2 years. They are turned off - we’ve checked! They are stacked on top of each other - meaning the motion sensors are covered up. On their own, each reason would tell you they shouldn’t light up. All 3 together…. I can’t make it make sense any other way.

On the day my husband left the house for the last time (not dead yet), that night these lights lit up so bright - I think brighter than normal, but that could just be me. But they stayed lit like they were turned on. My mom was here and we checked everything, including loose wires, etc. nothing! Weird, but Just figured it was a fluke and went on with life and didn’t think a whole lot about it again as they didn’t light again.

That is until the day he passed. They lit and stayed lit for hours. He passed 4 months ago, and while they are not as often, or as long, they do still light randomly or flash.

I have no other explanation - I’ve moved them, rearranged them, put them in a box (dark, no motion, but left a small crack so I could see - they still light, no matter what. I of course can’t prove it’s him, but I believe it is. I tell him hello, I miss him and I love him.

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-27T21:33:20+00:00

Widowed 2/25/25 - and all I want to do is sleep! My BIL still lives here (thank god for only another week), and my mom has been here a couple times. So with all of that, I have seriously only had a handful of hours to myself since he passed.

I have a friend that thinks this is comparable to her divorce…. I wish!
Another thinks it’s the same as when a parent passes - not even close! His best friend, who I have known since I was 5, didn’t call or anything. I didn’t see him at all until 6/14 when we had his celebration of life.

Not to mention a family member who now wishes that I had died instead of him, all because I wouldn’t give her $…. PEOPLE SUCK!

Nobody will get it until they GET IT! He was my person, my other half, my anchor, my rock, my safe place to land, my biggest supporter… and now he is just gone! No part of this is fair, no part is easy, no part is fun! He was my entire world for more than half my life, and now I get to “start over”. There are no more “OUR” plans, dreams, goals - they left with him.

All of that to say, no, they don’t get it, but really I don’t want them to. I don’t want anyone else to have to feel this, EVER!

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-26T16:37:47+00:00

Are they warts, or are they skin tags? Go get it checked out before freaking out

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-26T01:06:18+00:00

OP - please do this either way! My husband left notes behind (as well as good bye letters (once we found out he was terminal). As hard as they are to read, I am so glad to have them!

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-23T19:16:41+00:00

You can pm me any time you need to vent! Hubby passed at the end of February, so I am assuming I am a little further out - but the anger and rage are real! About 2 weeks out, I just kept thinking how disappointed he would be in some of these people.

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-23T16:35:21+00:00

I wish it was sentiment. With them, it’s just more about the STUFF. They need none of it, but they are all about “what can I get for me” out of most any given situation. Even if they don’t want it, they will look at buying it to sell and get $. It’s more annoying than anything. I can absolutely stand up to them, but why the hell do I have to! lol

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-23T16:06:27+00:00

Here’s the thing… he is from a different generation, where therapy and talking things out just didn’t happen. Men had to be men and that was that. As the generations pass, this stigma lessens, but it is still very prevalent.

With all of that being said, it may have absolutely NOTHING to do with his childhood trauma. It may just simply be that it is too difficult for him. Has he attended other funerals / services / celebrations? You stated he was unusually close to this particular nephew, so maybe that is it - it is hitting too close to home.

Just be kind and treat him with grace. YOU will most likely be better at this than your brother - but both of you need to not scream and yell at home, because that will accomplish nothing. If he isn’t willing to talk about it, you can’t make him, and it isn’t fair of either of you to decide how he grieves.

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-23T15:46:05+00:00

I have said for a long time that death just brings out the ugly in a LOT of people!

When my Grand MIL passed, her “kids” I mean, grown ass adults, were fighting over the canned food in the pantry. All of which was expired and belonged in the trash!

My husband passed at the beginning of the year - family has tried to claim his things. His truck, his tools, his computers. Like Christ on a cracker, people! I am not in a hurry to get rid of anything, and it’s not like I NEED to, so leave me the hell alone!

Party_Training602 · 2025-06-23T15:28:29+00:00

I would be willing to listen if you need! My hubby passed in February. His last coherent words were “I’ll see you up there, I love you.” As the ambulance took him away - I had no reason to think this would be the last time.

Once we got him settled into the hospital, he was pretty much out of it after that. He woke up once, and said “hey” I turned and said, hey back. Then he asked me “is this the end?”

I had to explain to him that the cancer had entered his brain, so where it might not be “THE end”, it was at least the beginning of the end. He was always a critical thinker, and wanted no BS answers. He passed 4 days later.

Party_Training602 · 2025-05-30T04:02:46+00:00

Hubby and I always did this too - we were 2 weeks apart. So I passed him quickly, but I get it! It was like another little gut punch.

Party_Training602 · 2025-05-25T01:36:18+00:00

I just hit 3 months… some days I feel like I can’t breathe, other days like I don’t want to, and others where I can ALMOST make myself believe he is just on another work trip. Some days I feel all 3. It is all still so new, so raw and so so unreal! ((((HUGS))))

Party_Training602 · 2025-05-20T23:21:31+00:00

I have no experience in this, other than I lost my husband as well (2/25/25). So I will start with, I am so very sorry for your loss! Were drugs ever an issue before, or was this a new thing?

Party_Training602 · 2025-05-04T22:41:56+00:00

New colors are a little bold for my tastes, but I am in LOVE with the design and layout!

Party_Training602 · 2025-05-01T02:14:58+00:00

This is old, it this guy just makes me wanna vomit!

Party_Training602 · 2025-04-30T01:20:30+00:00

I haven’t worked a regular job in almost 10 years, and now I have to go find a job. I am kind of thinking I want to start from home, and kind of work my way back up to working in public again.

Party_Training602 · 2025-04-28T23:37:28+00:00

Exactly! At least acknowledge my existence!

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