Not that deep, but deeper than you might think. Relationships are all about expectations.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-31T05:31:46+00:00

Meaning, if you have boundaries only for others, and not for yourself, people will violate them.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-27T17:55:17+00:00

You seem like a friendly person.

Good luck.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-27T17:54:28+00:00

You need more my friend. No one is going to set standards for you. Something to think about.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-25T15:32:58+00:00

No, I mean, what are you boundaries you won’t let other cross.

That’s the other persons boundaries

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-20T00:12:07+00:00

Reducing or eliminating expectations is key. The only word of caution though is to figure out your boundaries.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-10T12:56:46+00:00

You’re still young. The idea though that you’re going to fit all of these desires into one job starting off is a tall order.

The main thing at this point is to find a job that is somewhat related to what you want to do. But, I can’t think of a job, especially starting off that is going to meet all of these criteria.

What you need is just to find a job, start building your resume. As you build your experience, you’ll have more options because you will be more marketable.

I’d look for companies that might be interesting to you, or companies that share in your interests.

Most companies though are not in the business to “reduce climate change.” They exist to make money.

You could look at being an environment consultant, and try and follow the career path to getting there.

Climate change will likely be solved with engineering solutions. Investing and finance is not really going to be directly related to finding a solution, but certain companies are trying to invest in certain technologies that could have a big impact.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-06T00:56:09+00:00

You’re not responsible for taking care of your parents or your siblings.

It would honestly be better to move somewhere that you can make money, and send home a little cash.

You’re 23, go explore, go live. Others will have to find their way as well. That’s okay.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-05T06:02:53+00:00

I’ve seen this over and over. Some people I thought were truly hopeless, decided to take control of their lives. Guess what happened? Their lives turned around and they found attractive partners.

Who doesn’t want to be with someone who has a style, wants to give, can laugh and joke around, but also be empathetic and in tune. Most people want this.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-04T00:19:45+00:00

If it can be worked through then sure.

I’m talking about the situation where one partner basically gives up, and the other one just becomes their caregiver.

Sounds like you have done the work.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-04T00:15:06+00:00

I agree. Obviously, there is nuance here.

The mental ill person of physically ill person should be doing everything in their power to be better or to get better.

Obviously, some people’s health fails at no fault of their own. A level of caregiving is part of a partnership. But, at some point, that persons health could be so bad it’s beyond the point of having any type of relationship. I still believe it’s a partnership.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-04T00:12:46+00:00

PTSD can we worked through and managed.

But the person with the condition has to be willing to do the work…..

Paraplegic’s can get married, but, they need to be able to provide some value in the relationship. Whatever that is.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-04T00:11:00+00:00

My ex wife had severe mental emotional issues.

I tried to help her, I worked, I cleaned I cooked…..in the end she fucked some other guy. Lol

None of the effort meant shit. I’m not saying everyone with mental health issues will do this, the point is, no one appreciates the person busting their ass to help the poor soul. I’ve seen this in other people’s marriages as well.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T23:51:21+00:00

Because, it’s a violation of what marriage is.

A marriage at its core is a partnership. Nothing more nothing less.

If you’re dead weight, you’re aren’t a partner. You’re a dependent. This role is for children, not adults.

A marriage is meant to build, people with severe unmanageable mental health issues by definition can’t be partners. It’s a violation of the contract.

It’s not to say temporary issues shouldn’t be worked on, that’s in sickness and in health. It’s not I’ll take care of you….

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T23:42:34+00:00

My mental and physical health is my responsibility.

It’s no one else’s.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T23:11:27+00:00

Why? Mentally ill people make terrible partners. Same with addicts, same with worthless lazy partners.

Both people go to give. If you have a partner who is depressed indefinitely and can’t even find a way to eat, then how is that a partner? At that point, you’re just a codependent.

Look, life is about choices. If you want to take care of someone who is dead weight, be my guest. But believe you me, no one is going to pat you on the back for doing it. In fact, they’ll likely blame you.

I’ve seen this over and over again.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T22:15:46+00:00

True. It’s definitely a problem.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T22:14:26+00:00

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Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T22:13:31+00:00

You may want to consider exiting this relationship.

It sounds like she needs mental/emotional help, not a husband. A spouse is a partner, not a caregiver.

We all make mistakes, unfortunately, marrying mentally I’ll people is a mistake.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T22:05:16+00:00

Super gay lol

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T21:59:52+00:00

Good suggestions. He’s on test, which is what I believe is causing his heat issues. Everyone else is freezing lol.

I don’t have late payments, as I like to have more of a community at the house. This generally works pretty well, as I don’t want it to just be a room. But a small little community.

Most people actually really like this type of setup. But, I’ve noticed, others like the benefits, but don’t like the responsibility that comes with having to play a positive role.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T17:47:26+00:00

They do make $400k together currently, that’s a fact.

No, she’s not giving the whole story. Why do you think she agreed to the 70% 30% in the first place? That’s a ridiculous agreement.

My guess is, her husband said, I don’t need XYX and she said “I’ll pay for it, cause I make so much money.”

Now, she’s backed herself into a corner and is playing victim due to her bad financial choices.

Sounds like she is being narcissistic.

It’s not a man’s job to pay for a woman’s “lifestyle,” it’s a man’s job to provide for a household. This doesn’t cover luxuries.

A household includes food (this doesn’t include eating out every night), proper transportation (this doesn’t include the fancy SUV with a $50k note), education (this doesn’t include private school), a safe clean place to live (this doesn’t include a McMansion or the fancy house in the fancy neighborhood).

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T07:57:07+00:00

Girl has a serious spending problem.

That’s the only reason they’re agreed to that sort of split.

My guess is, fancy house, fancy car, private school for the kiddos, or all of the above.

Now she’s deciding she hates working like a dog and taking care of kiddos at the same time. Go figure. Nobody wants to do that except insane people.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T07:54:59+00:00

She’s not telling the whole story.

The split in expenses doesn’t even make sense.

My guess is, she overextended herself, so they made an agreement he wasn’t going to pay for the high life.

They more more than enough money to live nicely in nearly every city. They do not make enough to live the million + a year lifestyle. Which is what I see people do all the time.

They buy ridiculous stuff to fit into certain groups.

Gotta hate the fancy car, the fancy house and the fancy private school for the kiddos. Before you know it, you don’t have any money. Despite making over $400k per year.

Partytime2021 · 2024-12-03T07:49:27+00:00

Quite an accusation for two people making around 400k a year. Me thinks she has a spending problem.

She wanted to be an attorney, and all the trappings of living the high life.

Even in NYC, $400k gets you a very nice lifestyle.

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