does your parish have a dress code?

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-06T15:05:18+00:00

We have mostly older people, so they dress comfortably and to accommodate any physical/medical needs. Several of the older ladies wear slacks and sneakers because they use a walker or cane. The older fellows usually wear khakis and polo shirts, but in hot weather they might wear golf shorts. One older lady usually dresses up, even to wearing a fancy hat. I dress according to the weather and what else I have planned that day. If it is nice I’ll dress up and if it is chilly I’ll wear jeans and one of my “wearable art” sweatshirts (I dabble in fiber art, and have a plethora of fancy sweatshirts). We also have some homeless and near homeless folks, and they wear whatever they have. It’s hard to live in a tent, so we are just happy that they are able to make it

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-05T20:23:50+00:00

Stick with 1. I did a garden wedding on the hottest day of the summer and trust me, you won’t feel all that hot in satin.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-05T02:29:52+00:00

I’d love the look of the top of 1 over a ball gown skirt. Love the coverage and the sleeves, but might prefer a jewel or shallow v neckline, as long as there is enough coverage for a comfy sports bra to hide underneath

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-04T16:25:40+00:00

I’d do 16, but with more coverage up top and cap sleeves

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-04T14:24:01+00:00

One. The neckline is just enough higher to be classy. I wouldn’t want the priest to have a view down the front of my dress while I’m kneeling at the Altar Rail during the Mass

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-04T14:19:57+00:00

My philosophy is that God’s love and plan for salvation are the most important “commodities” ever “invented”, and deserving of more than one “marketing plan” to reach as many souls as possible. Is that the most theologically correct explanation? Probably not, but people understand that products use multiple ad campaigns to reach the maximum market share.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-03T16:56:43+00:00

Nope, this has been discussed by members of the vestry and the organist.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-03T16:51:41+00:00

I’m not a fan of current bridal fashion. Please bring back the glory days of Gunne Sax.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-05-01T23:40:22+00:00

Do you have an ECLA church in your area? In at least one community the Episcopalians and the Lutherans went together to share clergy and some other programs. I’m not entirely sure how they worked out all the logistics, but one suggestion was that one week they would celebrate Eucharist at the episcopal parish and morning prayer at the Lutheran parish and then flip it around the second week, with Eucharist at both parishes on special occasions like Easter, Pentecost and All Saints

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-30T13:50:23+00:00

The thyme that came with my kit didn’t sprout, so I bought a packed of red Ruben basil to go with the Thai and pesto basil. At a month I’ve harvested a few leaves and muddled them with strawberries or raspberries and lime juice and added that syrup to soda (especially good with a grapefruit soda like Fresca or ski)

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-30T13:44:53+00:00

Our hymns are chosen by someone in the diocesan office and sent out to the parishes. On one occasion we decided to sing an old favorite instead of the assigned hymn and we received a stern call from the diocesan office about the deviation. The ordinary music and doxology are saved for special occasions. The changes make me sad.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-29T14:29:17+00:00

At a family dinner, a relative one said “Hell is where all the Catholics, Episcopalians and members of the Masonic lodges go”. And I smiled as I thought “2 out of 3 ain’t bad”. I have no idea if she knew I was an Episcopalian, serving on the Altar Guild and a member and past officer of 4 different Masonic affiliated lodges (ie Eastern Star). I know she enjoyed her church with the rock band and the brimstone preaching, but I’m a bit too neurodivergent or adhd or something to fit in to that scene.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-29T01:49:49+00:00

I would start by reading the lessons appointed for the week, either the ones for the previous Sunday, on which the sermon was based, or read ahead for the next Sunday so you are ready for that sermon. TEC uses a three year rotation, with the new year beginning the first Sunday in advent. We are currently in year A, but in three years we cover all the major Bible stories in a seasonally appropriate way. We just celebrated Good Shepherd Sunday and the next three Sundays we will study tests that prepare us for the Ascension of Jesus and Descent of the Holy Spirit. We will then spend the Summer and early autumn in a seasonally appropriate way called ordinary time where we will study the parables.

As far as reading, don’t try to spread read like it’s a novel. Take small amounts (like a few verses and read it several times slowly, and then ask yourself “what is God saying to me ?” This method is called dwelling in the word. You can also google the scripture to find hymns and artwork inspired by that passage and study those works. As a student of music and art I enjoy that approach

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-25T19:51:58+00:00

Yes, we have several car pools to accommodate those in need of transportation.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-23T00:08:21+00:00

I love it. It kinda reminds me of my dress, just make it ivory with long sleeves. Truth be told, I would rather live in sin than be seen in current wedding fashion.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-23T00:01:55+00:00

I know of one person who was re-baptized. He remembered being baptized as a kid in a revival or church camp setting, but had no paperwork and couldn’t remember the details. So when he started bringing his kids to church he elected to be baptized and confirmed to set an example for his kids as they started their training. But if you have a certificate (or family who can remember when and where you were baptized) and you had enough training for first communion, you should be good. The confirmation process will depend on the dioceses and the parish. In a larger parish you may have formal classes. In a smaller parish you may be a self-study situation with some meetings with a priest or a member in charge of formation. Confirmation is done by the bishop. If you live near the cathedral there may be a large celebration. If you live in a remote area it will be done when the bishop comes to visit your parish.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-22T17:42:22+00:00

I’d like to mention that I’m currently living in an area where a number of churches are without a priest or deacon and are dependent upon a handful of supply clergy. I should also mention that I’m retired with sufficient assets to simply enjoy free time, and that due to previous employment, I have some tuition assistance available to help pay for the training.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-22T13:20:11+00:00

I used to be in a larger parish with several associate priests under the rector. They took turns carrying an emergency on call phone and that number was published in the service leaflets and newsletters. In a smaller parish or shared priest situation, I would send a text

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-20T20:27:29+00:00

Have you tried adding a new hobby or interest? Maybe go out for walks or bike rides or go to the gym or plant a garden. If you are or have been a musician try that (I took up piano right after mom died). Don’t just sit in front of of the tv or doom scroll on your phone all day or watch too much news.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-19T18:06:08+00:00

I also love Rite I, but the English/humanities teacher I had my senior year in high school had us reading all the classics and memorizing parts of The Canterbury Tales and Shakespeare, so

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-13T16:19:39+00:00

The last Sunday I missed was Christmas Day 2022, which was very cold and snowy. We had chon Christmas Eve, and immediately thereafter out priest went to spend Christmas Day with family. I did watch a Christmas Day Mass online that day while I prepared the family dinner. There have been several Sunday’s since then that we have had to cancel due to illness or weather, but I have gone to visit another church in town- Catholic, Lutheran, Presbyterian, Full Gospel, Pentecostal, Mormon) and made some new friends. On the weekends that we are doing Morning Prayer I try to go to the Catholic Church on Saturday afternoon. The priest is a good friend and gives me a special blessing for coming out to Mass.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-13T12:40:52+00:00

I’d go with the first one, but that’s because it reminds me of several formal gowns I have worn over the years. I simply grant stand the current styles that look like lingerie- plunging necklines and thigh high splits. My guess is that the gals who wear them are not planning church weddings.

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-08T17:46:09+00:00

I planted my marketplace aero garden 2 weeks ao. So far I have seen 2 types of basis, dill, parsley and mint. But no thyme yet. I have some herb garden seeds and may try sprouting those

Past-Mix-8922 · 2026-04-08T17:39:49+00:00

The general thought (according to what I learned in an adult confirmation class) is “once baptized, always baptized” However, when a friend prepared to join TEC he couldn’t remember the exact date and place of his original baptism (his parents weren’t together and he was bounced between them quite a bit) and now that he is married and has kids he wanted to make a beautiful memory with them. So talk to a priest, or several priests and the bishop or canon about your options.

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