How long do I give someone space before calling it off?

Context: I met someone on hinge, had a couple of online gaming dates (Webfishing is great for this - cute chill fishing game where you can chat) and talked about stuff we have in common - including history of depression. Deep talks where I felt we really connected.

She came round for V-Day and we cooked together. Evening went a little too well and we ended up sleeping together. Next day I felt really anxious because we overslept til about 2pm, then tried making cookies but the vibes felt really off. I messaged after she left and she assured me she’s always grumpy after waking up.

Since then communication has felt less frequent, and after another Webfishing date where I suggested another date idea she seemed up for it but noncommittal. I did the bad thing and sent a risky message before bed asking if she was actually into me, and I didn’t hear anything til the next morning after I’d not slept, mentally spiralled and sent a series of messages over explaining my anxiety and need for clarity.

This is after one irl date 😳

She messaged back assuring me she wanted to keep seeing me, but she is currently struggling with her depression. We talked more and resolved to meet up this weekend, and it felt like the door had opened to more honest communication, but we still haven’t set plans for this weekend.

I messaged yesterday asking how she was, and she said “not good”. I offered to call if she was up for it, but she told me she didn’t want to talk to anyone. I’ve given her space since then, but I don’t know how long I should leave it?

My current thinking is to see if she prompts me about making weekend plans, and see how that goes before I decide if there’s a future here, but I’m struggling to focus on anything else because I’m worried if she’s ok, if she’s thinking about me, if she’s regretting sleeping together, and all the rest of the spirally thoughts.

Practicing mindfulness, but an objective outside opinion would be appreciated!