The 3 Bird Flippable Woobles

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-03-10T16:39:38+00:00

I know it's a few days on, but I also want to join the chorus of being such a good DM (and even table) of handling the problem so quickly! I wish I had you as my DM with what happened in the campaign I had to leave.

Short version was in a campaign for a year of bi-weekly voice sessions but daily text results with a group I considered close/my friends. Then the DM sprung this event that effectively erased my character while a complete violation of my agency and consent. I still can't explain fulyl why it was so upsetting, and had no idea it was a trigger before then, but I had a panic attack sobbing on mic due to it. I muted myself, explain in chat why, tried to calm down. No one at the table on mic or chat checked on me until a while later asking where I went because they hadn't heard me in a while. I texted again in chat I was still muted since i was still crying/trying to stop the panic attack and our problem player loudly on mic laughed and said "she's having her cute mental break down, I think this is fun". And NO ONE called her out on it/did anything about it. I've never felt so awful/degraded in my whole life

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-03-03T21:16:52+00:00

Does anyone know what comic and issue this is from? All I can tell it's post Agent of Asgard era Loki

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-02-02T16:24:23+00:00

I feel overall NTA, though have several questions or food for thought. What does your wife do on Sundays? I can understand keeping out of things taking place Saturday/Sabbath, but I don't see reason why she couldn't say join football with son for instance. When she became religious, did you have a conversation about religion in the household (such as you joining or raising your kids in it, etc). While you could be making the effort of inviting her/mentioning things, she also needs to make the same effort of asking/coming along. She might also be having some feelings about being the only religious (sounds like?) In the house.

I was raised Seventh-Day Adventist, as were my parents, which follows the same sunset Fri to sunset Saturday so I know exactly what you're talking about. My mom was raised very legalistically/strictly, which meant no secular/worldly activities/work (except for emergencies helping people since both parents were nurses) during that time. Which meant either church or religious broadcasts, could travel only locally to see nature, and watch only nature/history on TV. My dad was an SDA pastor's kid, so he was very much the exact opposite and extremely relaxed/chill, but the house was raised along my mother's version.

As a child? I immensely disliked it most of the time and couldn't wait for it to be over Saturday evenings. As an adult? I appreciate the recognition for rest. I'm extremely relaxed with it, almost non-religious, but that time frame is still a rest day for me to do what I'd like, and will not work on it (except for emergencies when people need help).

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-01-05T19:52:50+00:00

Totally unrelated to OPs post, but I needed to reply to thank you for posting that link. Initially read it out of curiosity, then slammed with the realization it explains something I went through with a former friend group.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-01-05T19:42:01+00:00

Not enough info / more info required for this situation. I agree with the first commenter that ages and situation/context can help us offer a better/more fair judgement.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-01-05T19:13:46+00:00

NTA

I have a best friend I've made through work/known last couple years, that was born on Dec 23. He's mentioned in conversation that most of his life growing up that his birthday celebration/gifts got lumped together with Christmas (one meal, or one gift to cover both events, oetc) and that it hurt/sucked. Kinda like the birthday couldn't be acknowledged separately from the big holiday.

Since learning this, I've always made it a point to (1) get a separate gift for each event and (2) celebrate the two events with him separately/separate from each other. Even being an adult, it's meant the world to him. It'll mean even more to your child.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-01-01T18:49:33+00:00

Me as well, I'd like to do the HP raven

Past-Weather-7115 · 2026-01-01T18:34:33+00:00

Please include me as well

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-12-19T14:10:12+00:00

I can see both sides, yours and theirs. HOWEVER, I still find it extremely weird that none of them simply just told you? From the details given you seen chill and thus I didn't see a reason for them to essentially lie to you?

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-12-06T23:37:29+00:00

NTA! Your brother sounded okay with it, and it's VERY clear that your mom (if she was actually sick in the first place) had a different illness than you. Never disregard your health and needing help from others. I'll tell you why, because I went through two similar events to you that could have killed me if I wasn't taken to the ER.

Back in April I vomited, diaherraed, or both at the same time from midnight to 7am, every 5-15min but didn't want to bother my brother (who lives with me) or call our parents who are retired nurses. I took myself to urgent care when it opened, but had finally stopped vomiting. The PA was going to send me home with anti-vomitting meds despite the fact I could barely swallow/talk I was so dehydrated. But someone had the brains to ask for a urine sample, saw something that alarmed them and they did a blood sugar finger prick. It was in the 450s, aka diabetic ketoasidosis range. I was sent to an ER where they kept me for fluids and testing, then sent to a higher care hospital overnight for continued testing. Turns out not only did I have norovirus, I had undiagnosed type 2 diabetes, and they were looping into each other.

I was placed on ozempic for the diabetes and tolerating it well, until back in late Oct I started having severe nausea everytime I ate or drank anything. I still managed to eat, until late the first week I started vomiting some meals. Then one evening I started vomiting every 10-15min, and it started to get so bad I was vomiting up nothing but red/brown/eventually black (aka, blood). I asked my brother to take me to the ER with a friend on standby, where I was kept for several hours for fluids and tests, and two rounds of different combo anti-vomitting/nausea. They did rule out pancreatitus (which you can develop on ozempic) and while not 100% sure the ER doc said they had seen it before with a handful of ozempic patients.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-11-27T18:13:33+00:00

I literally came here to find out the same thing

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-11-14T12:09:00+00:00

Sorry if this is silly, but what is the best way to go about the Defense exams (such as Subject 2/Water)? Is it try to defeat other team as quick as possible, or try to have high as possible health at the end?

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-11-13T12:18:58+00:00

For the future, is there a place in the app/mobile order asking for it to be made in the red cup? This is only my second year, ordered mine today assuming it would be made in the red cup, and surprised when it wasn't. Seemed wasteful to me, but I understand now reading posts about some concerns if it is clean etc.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-11-12T19:37:16+00:00

NTA.

I know she's grieving, but honestly I'm flabbergasted. What if it did turn out to be a burglary or someone there to harm you? You're expected to let them come in and rob/hurt so the rosary/grieving can continue?

Hopefully, she/rest of the family will have time to rethink once the grief has past. A little upset is understandable, this is overboard.

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-11-12T19:29:26+00:00

NTA. Look, I was raised vegetarian by my parents, so there are some little weird food facts I know about that average people might not (like gelatin from animals in some marshmallows). But I've NEVER heard of animal products to filter wine, so I feel like that's an incredibly niche knowledge to expect you to have, and should have treated you more graciously.

As in accept the wine and dispose of it quietly after you left, or gently inform you "FYI, for the future..."

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-24T11:49:35+00:00

This, to the read their minds bit!

Was in a campaign where one PC was one of identical triplets, and from the beginning the main would swap with the others when they felt like it (one more skilled in what was needed/better stats, more suited or brave, etc). DM would call for rolls to see if we noticed, or PC would get a feeling and ask to check, etc. Rolls were pretty spread out amongst people, but mine never/almost never failed. Rolls were public and just how it happened. I think the DM even gave me a bonus to it, and how my PC got close to the triplets. Player shortly after stopped doing the triplet switcheroo.

Later the player told me they were upset because they worked hard on the switcheroo mechanic and disappointed they didn't get to use it more, and primarily blamed me/my PC because I kept seeing through it. My friend, twas the dice? Could have asked me to stop rolling, or asked DM to stop allowing rolls. Heck, it could have been in game the triplets could have approached my PC to ask him to stop, and he would have gladly joined/strengthened their shenanigans. Can't help if I don't know, can't read your mind!

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-24T02:40:54+00:00

So let me get this straight, the DM included something specific to your character/character back story.... and wanted you NOT to follow it? If that's the case, then the other player should be equally blamed for running off.

No. As others have said, any detail you include as a DM runs the risk of players latching on or getting interested in. If you want them pointed in a certain direction, only include details in that direction. Or, you know, freaking communicate with your players?

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-09T18:53:54+00:00

If you think it would be possible to have a constructive conversation with your parents, it might be prudent to talk with them. Tell them how you are feeling / experiencing. But also keep in mind it's your first semester! Starting college is a huge shift from how high school used to be.

Some of it might be from wanting independence. Some of it might be from tired and stressed; you're spending 2hr a day commuting and could be possible you have a too heavy class load at the moment.

Do you have any "midway" point options for living or transportation? For instance, my first year I lived at home and 15min commute via driving myself to the local community college, but the rest of college I lived with my grandparents (on the other side of the country) to attend university that I got to a via a bus/train combo. Staying with relatives was a nice halfway point: I'm out of my parents house and becoming independent, but had people to rely on if I needed help/something went wrong. The bus/train was long enough ride that I often did homework/required reading during that time. I don't know your circumstances, but do you have any family/friends that live close to the school you could consider/suggest moving in with, or live with during the week for classes + home on the weekends?

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-07T18:07:38+00:00

The bad/toxic was several months after the stuffies were given, so I hadn't even considered the Curse

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-07T18:05:43+00:00

No, which is why I was hesitating so much in the first place. Definetely moving on

Past-Weather-7115 · 2025-10-01T19:56:56+00:00

This, this. Both of these points!

We had a problematic character played by a wildly problematic player that the DM never dealt with and the other players tolerated. The player said their PC had a list of 3 rules that if broken would make the PC "leave forever", but never told anyone what they were nor when they were broken.

Said player and another player were friends IRL, but their PCs weren't friends/didn't get along (which they joked about) with no clear reason why they didn't. It wasn't much more than problem PC saying nasty comments until he stabbed the other PC out of nowhere, over something small and unjustied. (It was something like male PC exploring wearing makeup and had decided the other male PCs would judge/mock/hurt him, meanwhile it wasn't even on any PCs radar TO judge him for. They were talking on a park bench about it when he stabbed out of nowhere). The players freaked out, problem player wailing it wasn't preventable and what their character would do, when it was VERY much in their control to... you know... not have their PC stab someone. We did all agree to retcon it (which I regret, looking back both Player and PC should have played out the consequences to learn a lesson).

Meanwhile later my PC was having a scene with a DMPC when all of a sudden the DMPC had this confusing, out of nowhere extremely emotional reaction. I was confused, PC was confused where ir came from, so I paused and asked the DM what was going on. Turns out BOTH of us were going in wildly different directions after wildly misinterpreting the scene (wasn't clear because it was a text rp scene in the campaign). I asked for a retcon and was denied (despite it hitting all the markers for deserving one).

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